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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Not judging you here... but... you started this topic and someones gotta go first. You're partnered in a "relationship" for about a year.You've been in the lifestyle "for a number of years So I have to ask..... does she know you're not exclusive? DG

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I read the OP as he had been in this lifestyle for a number of years prior to his current relationship. Correct me if I am wrong though? I would suggest casually bringing up the topic of fantasies or threesomes and asking her if it's something she would like to try. Gauge her reaction and go from there? Best of luck! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  timeline there as DG has also pointed out. And if if you're in a relationship, why are you on RHP as a single? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Paradisepair

  11 years ago

  They watched a scenario on porn, one asked the other if they'd like to try it and the rest was history. For us, as a couple, we travelled a trickier root ;-p which I wouldn't recommend, sexual tension building elsewhere until something had to give... Definitely try the porn....

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  The best way is just be up front. While your turning her on ask her what her fantasy's are! Then u start to mention what your fantasy's are.I was scard to tell my partner at first, then it turned out he was into the same stuff.Now we have a strong relationship, it has brought us closer.

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  SexyZebra

  11 years ago

  Does she know what experiences you had previously. For us we were out with friends years ago and a girlfriend of ours, who's spare bed we were staying in that night told me she was interested in joining us. When I told my wife and said I was keen we ended up having a massive fight because she was so againat it. Somehow the girlfriend convinced her to take a shower with her and the rest is history (funnily enough it was the catalyst for strengthening our relationship). This lifestyle is not for everyone and our rules and experiences have evolved over the years. I agree with paradise pair. Try watching some porn together and ask her questions about some of the scenes. Initially we started that way and we eventually tried our fantasies. Our first few times at swingers clubs were watching and letting people watch us until we were a little more comfortable (very nervous and shy initially). My only other real advise is don't push things. Let them happen slowly and at her pace. Our advise anyway for what it's worth

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  BigJLittleC

  11 years ago

  Quoting 'JerseyGirl' I read the OP as he had been in this lifestyle for a number of years prior to his current relationship. Correct me if I am wrong though? I would suggest casually bringing up the topic of fantasies or threesomes and asking her if it's something she would like to try. Gauge her reaction and go from there? Best of luck! - Posted from rhpmobile Yes you are right I was in this lifestyle before meeting my current partner and would like to get her involved. I have suggested some fantasies involving other couples and they have been met with a reasonably positive response but, would like to know where to go from there?

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Firstly,how important is the "'lifestyle" to you?...Because the reality is,that your partner may never be truly happy to embrace it. Secondly,if she does it will change the dynamics of your relationship forever...sex is rarely just about sex...all sorts of emotions come into play, not just the positive ones either..... Thirdly do make sure that she isn't just agreeing to do this to please you. Good luck OP xxQ

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