Moving On...

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I am going through the same thing with my "defacto" and to be honest, I think you just need to speak to each other. That's what we have been doing. Just be completely honest with her. Although after 10 years I can just imagine what you want to be getting up to! MzB x

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Mate. There's no need for a period of mourning. She's not dead. When you feel comfortable, I guess. That's the right time for you. The thing abut being separated is... her sex life is her business is hers ... and none of yours... quid pro quo.   Glad to hear there's no animosity.   Hugs Gazza

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Hi plaineaverageguy,as long as your head is in the right place, n your feeling comfortable with the idea of the new adventure/s that await you youll be fine.n will know when your ready n when .As gazpacho said her sex life is her business....n of yours... but by the same token your sex life is your buiness, n none of hers.Best wishes for your future

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Yes, it's none of her business anymore and I don't see why she should even have to know your every move (and vice versa obviously)! It's great that there are no hard feelings between you but I wouldn't advise making her "your best friend that you share everything with".   I say, if you feel like dating, date.... if it does happen to get serious sometime down the track, then hopefully your ex will have found someone too!

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Clearly none of us on here know how you both really feel about each other, but if you have broken up and presumably she or you or both have moved out, then what happens from now in your life is your business only and what she does is hers. I guess there is no real reason not to remain friends but i dont think it is necessary to give her all the details of what you are doing and if you feel like hooking up with someone from here or elsewhere then go for it. But are you looking for someone to "date" or just sexual encounters only?? If it is the first, perhaps you should tread carefully before committing yourself to another relationship. X

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  you said the feeling with your ex was mutual. No relationship. Finished. Finito. Gone. Over.If you are worried about what your ex is thinking it will affect the next one. Sometimes when there is a breakup one of the people or both have someone else on their mind or doing it already anyway.Minnie

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