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Just me???

July 13 2015

Ok...so I don't normally write these "I need a little clarification on this" type threads....but today I need to. I'm going a bit nuts as I just can't figure it out. Well not on my own anyway. I have this belief; that we are all here for something different...some kinky; some not; some are looking deeper into themselves to test their own sexuality...whatever....it's one thing that I like about contributing here, and keeps me here trying to meet people. I also believe that we choose our playmates etc based upon the desire of new experiences or at the very least like minded experiences with a dash of physical appeasement.... The problem I'm having.....is that most if not ALL of those that I find attractive within their profile wording have interests, etc of a sexual nature that I have absolutely no experience in - and being the forum slut I am - I've noticed that the over whelming consensus has been that women not just want to see what lies beneath the exterior of her potential partner/playmate/whatever in terms of his individuality; but to also be led so to speak by aforementioned man to new experiences that HE shows her and I ask myself - before making any real approach or escalation of any current interactions - "so exactly what would I be able to give to this person in terms of either a new experience or a like minded one??" But it's hard to introduce a new experience to a persons journey if they've already been there and done it right?? And....let's be honest....no one wants to train their partner/whatever when there are already those experienced in said interests.....it'd be like going into Woolworths to buy a car yeah?? So my question is; am I alone in this thought and a weirdo??(that was a free shot for chev btw) or is there a shift in perspective that will help me to deal with the anxiety that seems to build that quite often sees me taking my bat and ball and going home?? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    (hello forum world) 1. Everybody was ably assisted by another at some point. 2. You are making a lot of assumptions. 3. If you keep putting your ... er bat and balls away, then .... catch 22.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    You haven't experienced a particular kink etc doesn't mean that a woman couldn't introduce you to that experience..why must men or HE always be the one in this role?...and if you aren't bi then you will never have any new experiences will you?..secondly just because a woman has ticked off a few things on her fuckit list doesnt mean she wants an encore over and over again.. Nor does she want to be judged...Just keep an open mind and you just never know who might fill it...For some people not having the same sexual proclivities is a deal breaker..for others it's not.its all about attitude and being like minded,on the same page about the big issues in life..for me deal breakers are anyone who is racist,sexist,homophobic or believes in capital punishment...not whether or not they will let me tie them to my bedpost for a good 'ol flogging xxFreya

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Just because a person has experienced a certain act, doesn't mean your way of delivering it is not going to be appealing, I tried to have a sneaky peek at your profile, but apparently our interests were ruled out 😜 I love MFM, it's something we're trying to perfect , hence the practising...each playmate has a different way they, touch, taste.... Talk.... You need to apply the same amount of confidence to your approach as you do with your entries into the forum....take me as I am... I'm strong, passionate, ......opinionated ... Lol.... Go Hard Sir!! TG :))

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  • Hottie1

    Hottie1

    10 years ago

    I don't see it as training ...I see it as a shared experience for both people. I'm a pleaser, I want to know that everyone is having a good time. I love the fact that I can share interests with new people but I always take into consideration their level of interest, not their experience, because I want every new experience to be a good one. A beautiful friend and I had a threesome with a male friend who had never had one. I never once thought I've done this and I'm training him. My experience was like it was new for me because I saw it through his his body language, his excitement, his contribution and even though a first for him, it was equally sexual and exciting for me. The most exciting thing for me if I was playing with you, would be your willingness to share experiences with me. Your feelings are normal but you bring so much to the table, a larger than life personality, confidence and the ability to communicate on so many levels. I'm with tree nymphs, go for it! Mary xx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    ....Dear Sir, ..... be your self young Sir .... your honest is refreshing .... and I believe that that is a commodity a lot of women here will find appealing .... and Im sure that more than a few of them would be attracted to you despite your experiential deficit in left handed Sanskit lovemaking ? or .... fake it til you make it ;)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I have turned people down because I looked at their sexual interests and fetishes and thought I wouldn't be enough for them. But I now realise its not about their past experiences, its about what the two of you can do to please each other.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Stir..... just because someone says something..... that doesn't make it true. Do what you wanna doBe what you wanna be. Yeah.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    There are things I've talked about on the forums I have done, and of which I've eventually decided they weren't for me. A fantasy of mine is still that foursome with three bi guys, but I certainly don't screen potential playmates for their ability to be part of that. It's all about exploring with a new partner, and that may include things I've tried before. The experience is always different with different partners, which for me is part of the fun. Also, showing someone something they haven't tried before, like pegging, can be rather amazing!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    what your interests are at the end of the day it always has to start with a initial interest in each other. I tend to think learning something new together is a great experience. You are never going to know what you do like or dislike unless you give it a go. The important part is finding a partner/play partner whom is open to try new things.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I would not let that stop you from trying. And honestly I think your post is your anxiety speaking. Someone searching for new experiences - is still going to get a new experience if they meet you. You are your own person after all. They will more likely say no, but whatever Trevor. Get back on that horse and ride it.

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  • Hawt1

    Hawt1

    10 years ago

    Everyone was a virgin once... would you let that stop you taking your first root if you knew she wasn't? You speak of journeys, is it not nice to take journeys together... even if the one that knows the way is not you? I personally love it to try new things, if she wants to lead the way... god bless her! A journey where your both inexperienced would probably be even sweeter! Sure you might make mistakes... nothing to worry about... NOBODY IS PERFECT!! (Except maybe Unicorn99 and DeadlyFingers and.. and.. and..) ;) Let your mind run wild, enjoy it :)

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  • madotara69

    madotara69

    10 years ago

    You seem to be in a particular good mood DG Yeah harden the fuck up Stir :p~~~ Reciting some of your previous advice "call out their sisters name and hold on for dear life". Mado Mado Tara xx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Sir_Stir there are some of us who love to corrupt others.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    We both know it's a numbers game, so don't be so hard on yourself .. I just hid your bat and ball, now you're not going anywhere... Besides '. Who's gunna put shit on me ...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    so your gunna take it up the ass while sucking some blokes cock hey !! Very well have a safe journey and dont bother with post cards i get the picture 😖 goodluck Regards Bahahaha - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Stir..... just because someone says something..... that doesn't make it true. Do what you wanna doBe what you wanna be. Yeah. ooooo!!!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    You're not alone, you're not a weirdo. You're right up there with the best of them. Take care ...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    You're right up somewhere, anyway. Hope you're well x

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'xKiwiBredx' You're not alone, you're not a weirdo. You're right up there with the best of them. Take care ... OF course he is. Just like the rest of us one of us.......one of us.......one of us....... (I need a zobiefied emot)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    You are so wrong it's laughable, but thanks ever so much for that superficial compliment! Sir Stir... No one can hand you confidence, or faith in your self. Only with interaction with others can this grow. I am a text book example of this, though none of that is obvious when reading my profile. I have worked rather hard to get to where I am, which is confident and comfortable with my sexuality. You have to start some where. Grow some balls, try a leap of faith, take an adventure! Your bat and ball will still be there when you get back, and in all seriousness, what's the worst that could happen?

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  • Lovinit28andKC72

    Lovinit28andKC72

    10 years ago

    My experiences, are just that, mine, none are deal breakers, everything I've experienced was for my pleasure and or my playmates pleasure. I started this journey 18 months ago, as an extremely vanilla woman, with little or no experience whatsoever. I made the choice to open my mind, therefore allowing myself the freedom to push my own boundaries to experience things I'd never even thought about before..... What I search for now, is someone to share experiences with, to grow with, to learn from, to teach, to be my best friend and my lover, to have fun with, to laugh with, my only deal breakers are he must have an Open Mind, be Non Judgmental and have Kind Heart......💋

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