Is it ok?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I think if one or both of you think you'd be too jealous to see your partner with someone then doing it in separate rooms would be a big NO NO! Headed for disaster me thinks!

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Different strokes for different Folks an all that. As  long as everyones happy with the situation, then knock your self out!We have done the different room thing, and whilst i had no problem with it, Kj is not so keen.We prefer all in the same room.Cheers Nev

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  It probably all depends on the people involved but for us, Sheba often goes to one room and plays whilst Gazz luxuriates in a spa or simply watches others, so for us it is of no concern.Our view is that we are their for fun and given that we trust the other than there is no reason for one to 'have' to be present should the other play, often the fun is in not being present and hearing about it afterwards (or in Sheba's case, hearing her moans from other places - lol).That said, if one partner does not want to see their partner with another person I would suggest that they need to look at and identify the reason why that is the case as it may well be a sign that they need to look firstly at why they are indeed in that situation then progress from there.Sheba and Gaz

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Each to there own! When my husband and I first started swinging we always did separate rooms - mostly different buildings in fact. Now we are happy to do whatever. We were talking after a recent swingers party and he said something that came as a bit of a shock to me. He commented that he has no problem seeing me have sex with other people but does not like hearing me having sex with others. It interested me because I am the opposite not about the seeing but I love hearing him have sex. When it comes to swinging the only thing every couple must do is talk and talk and talk.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'puppy'I think if one or both of you think you'd be too jealous to see your partner with someone then doing it in separate rooms would be a big NO NO! Headed for disaster me thinks! Let others play in seperate rooms....Hey swinging is sex with ohers LOL Just a little thought for those Bi girls where that is main attraction..... We were told there is one reason why girls arnt bi

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  We both also prefer to play in separate rooms. We prefer to devote our entire and undivided attention to the person we are playing with. Later on we will recount our experiences with each other (often several times) and have many rounds together because of it! So yes, to answer your question, it is perfectly ok. As long as everyone involved agrees. Mrs W xx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Oh babe .....come on this is swingers world ! There are no keys in the jar ! there are no silly rules ....... theres no dodgy 70's porn music ....... no men with didgy big mostaches .....(ok a few) It is all and everything you want it to be! Brae

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  We're still a youngish couple and have been together quite a few years and it's not seein him with another chick that will get me off, I think we just want to sleep with someone different once in a while. I'm ok with the idea of him doing another person, I just don't think I can honestly say seeing it won't piss me off a little, even though I want to have sex with another guy...I know I sound like a bit of a hypercrit :)

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  We're still a youngish couple who have been together for quite a few years and it's not seeing him with another person that will get me off, we just want to sleep with different people once in a while. I don't mind the thought of him doing it, I just don't honestly think I can see him with another chick and not get a little pissed, even though I want to have sex with another guy...I know I sound like a hypercrit :)

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  So long as you enjoy the moment and are both ok with it afterwards then i don't see any problem at all. Enjoy yourself! C

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  If you are both comfortable with separate rooms then go for it. If the reason you do not like seeing the other partner is jealousy then like Puppy said, separate room play could make that worse not better. I have mixed feelings about separate room play, I have done and loved it, but we go in with an open mind now and do what feels right in the moment. Andy knows my feelings are mixed and he will often let me make the decision on whether we play in separate rooms or not or at least ask me before he initiates it.The best thing you can do is talk about it and if and when you feel ready try it, I used to find it really hard if something went bad or wrong, but now we talk about it then chalk it up to experience and move on. xx Salina

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Sure we've played both ways and loved it both ways but surely peeps you can see that for a couple to swing there needs to be none of the "it'd piss me off to see him with someone else" crap! Thank god for Sal's reasoning or I'd feel like an old prude, or maybe just the only one who wants to give some carefully considered advice. Hope it all goes well for you bored_female, be careful some people will say anything to get in your pants!

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  have to say that i agree with Puppy, based on your initial wording. having been in so many different situations with my partner and watched very closely how other partners talk and act with each other i can smell a fire starting. @brae... what if you like 70s porn music?

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