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Is it me?????
October 12 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
I definatly dont think it is you at all. Personally i have never had trouble at ffm or mmf but honestly have struggled to finish the job one on one. We all have bad runs in all aspects of our sexual life for unexplained reasons. Like the droughts us single guys have im sure it will turn around soon....
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RHP User
16 years ago
It happens to the best of men.. and for me it happens especially after I've been at a sex club for more than a couple of hours. :p I checked your profile love and seems to clear to me that you need to walk through the door and latch on to a fresh one as soon as you get there... drag him off to a private room and get yourself worked over properly.. put an end to any self doubt and speculation. Lots of hugs GAzza <<<<< wishes he had visited CI when in Brissy
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey .. interesting post.. Being the male of our profile' I cant see what the problem is. You appear to have everything in the right places and you certainly dont have 2 heads so I dont think your lacking sex appeal... As far as hubby not giving you attention' I would think its more likely that he's just seizing the opportunity for fresh cookies .' Im sure he's not being inattentive on purpose. And yes... the ole floppy dick syndrome after some alcohol... been there... not good.. Are you doing all the good things you girls can do to cause stimulation ? Maybe u need to slow down a lil... if ur going in to quick it might be having the opposite effect ? Im only guessing... hope some of this helps..
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi Guys We have hit the same problems and dont think there is an easy answer its the luck of who you meet. We know how you feel it happened to us 3 times in a row...not too good for the ladies and yes her response was much the same as yours. Its not the girls ability to stimulate the guys into action Nature has built into the guys to chase the girls and get the girls aroused not the other way around. A couple things we do now that might help. We ask is there any performance issues with either....not that you be told the truth...but at least youve asked. If you are meeting another couple suggest a early dinner around 6pm so you are ready to play around 8pm not leaving it till 10pm or later when our body clocks are telling us its time to sleep. Watch the wine everyone is meeting to play! (unless you have hooked up with the coffee club members!) And dont forget the blue pills, which can be a delicate subject to suggest to another couple...the male ego can get in the way and you will get an aswer "I dont need that".....(well time will tell...lol you think to yourself) Good Luck and keep trying you will meet some great couples.
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RHP User
16 years ago
It isn't you, but what do you do to turn the guy on?? A lot of guys aren't automatically turned on by the thought of having sex with some random person they have only just met. I think oral stimulation and a hand in the right places might do the trick. Good luck.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Disagree a little with you. Nature may have made it so that guys do the chasing and turn the girls on but in these situations if you are meeting a random couple, not everyone is going to be initially sexually attracted to everyone else in that 4 some. and if you wait until everyone is then you are probably going to be waiting forever. Well I never just lie there and wait to be f....., that's for sure, no matter who I am playing with. I always reciprocate orally etc. It is a 2 way street.
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RHP User
16 years ago
We expect if the four of us have agreed to play the sexual attraction criteria has been met. If not why would anyone agree to playing in the bedroom. We expect honesty from couples we meet and definately no one taking one for the team, or playing when they dont want to be there. And yes it would be horrible for a lady to just lay there waiting to be laid without her doing her bit with oral and hands, but when it fails to raise its not the ladies fault and her feelings are hurt and need reasurring ....not blame being attempted laid on the ladies side...thats horrible.
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tamworthguy46
16 years ago
Ok...well a fair enough question......I m not going to palm you off and tell you what you want to hear....Because thats why you asked in the first place.... Ok whatever the problem is there has to be changes in the situations that you play in......You will have to change your play situations to find what the problem is Does your partner start to play first.....and maybee if he is a real goer....possibly the other guy feels intimidated ?....so whay don't you try starting first, and get your partner to wait a bit .......go to another room ! Are you realy foreward in your aproach to sex?, if you were maybee let the guy make the first mooves to get things going. anyway i hope you sort it all out soon ! Xo Tam
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RHP User
16 years ago
I wasn't blaming anyone i was just making a suggestion. I have no idea what the lady in question does in these situations so i was just throwing a few things out there. Having said that, if I couldn't get a guy to rise to the occasion, my feelings would definitely not be hurt and I would not need any reassurance.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Trev here... I have to admit to being guilty of brewers droop on one occassion whilst with a couple...having said that it was our very first organised play with a couple and I was nervous, and drank way too much... I could only managed half mast !!! Since then, i have backed off on the drinking when meeting for a play, and presto no problems. Don't get me wrong i still have a drink, but i know my limit now. PS - we can't have been that bad, as they still catch up with us ! Trev
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RHP User
16 years ago
nope guys it not you we have met you both and bot are looking sweet ,, if the bloke cant get it up its his shit not yours you got a smoken body hun (mr nsty) even mrs nsty thinks so
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RHP User
16 years ago
mr nsty here hun you have a hot body whe have met but never played but i am sure there would not be a problem to keep it up there (wink )
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RHP User
16 years ago
Ok guys, thanks, but to clear the air....... so to speak. I don't just lay there expectant.... I am an ex MADAM, I ran a "massage palour" (so to speak) in Brisbane and Wollongong for years. In this time I did pick up quite a few hints on how to please a man and if I do say so myself *which I am* I am damn good at giving a guy what he wants. Gaz ~ wish you had to and thanks Justjuice ~ thanks but definetely not going in too quick, if I had any more time lapse before getting there and playing I would be grey :P Deserts ~ as an ex madam I know how to turn a guy on. I am in the defence forces and work with many a guy who says they want me but they are just kids. Oral, hand, masasage and body slides all just part of foreplay. If I am lacking in some part please someone let me know Tam ~ thanks. I am a go getter but I do try to hang back some times and yes you are right hubby seems to jump right in there, damn him:) Normally we start of f... each other and just let things go from there but still he has fun *asshole* and I seem to find the ones that cant get it up. Nice body by the way Trev ~ hubby has learnt the same lesson, has a few then soft drink for a while. Why cant others learn it though.... damn them Deserts ~ normally my feelings wouldnt be hurt because I really couldnt give a shit if 1 or 2 guys couldnt do it but when it drags on for months its like..........mmmmmmmmm is it me
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RHP User
16 years ago
Barbie - its not you ... trust me... mmmm... The beds at CI are hardly conducive to an erection. For some guys it depends where the action is... on him or his partner or someone else... unfortunately guys may just subconsciously want to watch combat playing with his wife
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tamworthguy46
16 years ago
Thanks.....I like the look and sound of you very much, If your ever down around these parts, I'm game if you are ? and Im certain my friend would like to play some combat games ! xo tam
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RHP User
16 years ago
Combat what a great post! Honesty! Nice! I put my hand up (mr Lucky here) to having had, had a "soft on". Not once but twice!! ( the crowd holds it breath......silence) It does happen in clubs we see it all the time. We met a poor gal once who despite meeting 3 strong strapping lads couldnt find a "man on the job" so to speak!!! Like your good self ....... no worries in the "hello boys" looks department so what happened ?? Guys may not admit it but seeing a whole lot of blokes going for it can be reasonably daunting ........... hence no ROD! In fact meeting a superfine "thang" in itself can be a little intimidating ............. Those that say its not so.... I ask you why we see so many empty packets of Viagra , cailias and strong horse etc etc in bins at clubs.(now there's a suggestion hang out near a water dispenser and see whos poppin what!) Again agree the amount of guys we see drink way too much in clubs then wonder "what happened" is remarkable and admitably a little funny as well, its like watching someone walk into a telegraph pole! lmfao!! We'd loooove chat to you one day we use to work with an ex madam .....she had the most wonderful stories! Laugh we nearly..............!!!!!!!!!!! Smiles and a ragging hard on for you !!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Why thank you Combat_Barbie.... I'm allergic to beer, red wine and teh preservatives in white wine, plus some brands of scotch and Bourbon... and I rarely drink whatever remains.... So now when I eventually attend CI... I'm going to wear my "MilkyBar Kid" outfit... you know.. the cheeky one with the chaps and rubber dong pistols in both holsters :)... and then down an overdose of viagra... and woo the hearts of all the dissapointed ladies afflicted by the brewer's droop syndrome... lmfao... wooohooo! Hugs Gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think this is an all too common problem amongst guys that havn't had a dose of viagra/ciallis, and personally i wouldnt touch the stuff having read the possible side effects, that stuff can kill ya. Usually mr Alchomohol is the culprit (been there done that, not pretty and not good for a guys confidence) sometimes performance anxiety, sometimes just to much oral, its hard to keep it up for hours and not cum...lol, sex first, party after i reckon! In my experience its never the fems fault. Cheers Nev
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RHP User
16 years ago
you have all made me feel much better and I thank you for that. I know Im not that bad looking but I do feel a hell of a lot better knowing that this could be the norm. Hubby has promised to pay more attention to me *yay* We are playing tonight at CI and I intend to jump the first hot one that comes through the door before he drinks. Have told hubby that IF i dont get some tonight Im gunna sew it up and then he gets none, so he is now on the scout for me. hehe BTW Gaz you have a nice ass.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Apparently the biggest problem with guys in porn is erection failure. To perform on cue in front of an audience is a talent not all men have. As for me - I have never needed to perform in front of more than one person and never in front of a male so I don't know if my bits work under duress. I like to think it would- I'll need to test that out sometime.
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