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I'm so confused.....what now?

March 18 2019

Ok so how to start? I'm in a married relationship with a wonderful women with two teenage kids....thats the easy bit. We have been married for nearly 20 years and love each other deeply. Our story is well interesting to say the least. I am gender fluid, that is to say that I love being a male, but love everything womenly including cross dressing, yes my wife knows and supports. She is a gorgeous women, strong intelligent and successful and if it was not for her conservative upbring, she would be with a women as she is same sex attracted. So the complication is that we love each other deeply, our sex life is infrequent but good when it does happen, and there is no sign what so ever that we will not always be together, but I wonder about should I allow,.support or encourage her to pursue at least a female to female experience? - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

A partner should always be encouraging, supportive and nurturing. If you feel a female female experience would be something your partner would be interested sit down and talk to her about it. Tell her you support and encourage her in exploring those feelings - that there no pressure but if it’s something she would like to consider then you welcome and encourage that. A woman shines with support and encouragement. She may be nervous or as excited as a school girl either way be her rock and let her know you have her back and see where this avenue leads. Good luck with it. Mxxx

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RHP User

7 years ago

Thru better and for worse , Support , encourage and communication, proberly the 3 most important words in a marriage

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RHP User

7 years ago

And you know what - life can be confusing.. but confusing isn’t always bad, it just means it can test your mettle and character.... don’t shy away because it’s confusing, rise tall and go let’s take this on and see where it leads us..

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RHP User

7 years ago

Curious, does she know you’ve created a profile on here including her?

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BlueDMB

7 years ago

I hope you can resolve the confusion. My view is that love and life partnership does not have to also mean sexual repression! You should both be able to live the sexual lives that you want to live. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that!! You might even find that the emotional intimacy between the two of you jumps to another level when you both realise that you are loved by someone who truly loves you for who you are and who also wants you to live your own sex life, not simply the sex life that society ‘expects’ or condones.

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boxestotick

7 years ago

She is supporting you on your endeavors. It would only be fair to return that love and support.

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Rlee552

7 years ago

Reading your profile I got the impression you and your wife were already on the same page. First suggestion, if you are on here without her say so ... remove your profile now and have that conversation with her. You do not want to spring on her - ‘I signed us up to RHP’. Second suggestion, have a conversation with her. It sounds like you already have an understanding and good relationship. These things can only progress with good communication. Good luck!

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FeistyFatty

7 years ago

Im confused as to WHAT you're actually confused about?

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AnnieWhichway

7 years ago

Obviously you share a solid relationship as you have discussed both your usually hidden desires. Big tick there. I presume that you do not wish to be with a male....? Otherwise it would be a natural progression to you both to take the walk on the wild side. So you are confused if you could handle your wife being with another woman? Most guys fantasize that very situation. And many of us on this site live and experience it regularly. You don't tell us how attracted she is to other women. Perhaps it's a curiosity, perhaps a biological attraction. You owe it to her and yourself to have a serious discussion. Life can be full of regrets. Don't let this scenario be one of them for her. This could reignite the passion and intimacy that you have said has waned. Many couples are here for that reason. Many never look back, some never survive. If your relationship is solid it can survive and flourish. Have that talk.

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RHP User

7 years ago

Could all end badly to. Why risk a loving 20 year marrage over a few hours of sex with someone. If it confusses you. Sounds like your not ready. Not only do you have a wife, but teenage boys to think about. Sex is good. But not that good, if it all falls apart

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RHP User

7 years ago

Take away your gender fluid comments...... and this still boils down to a bloke hoping to get involved in his ladys’ girl-girl sexual adventures Prove me wrong PS Let her chase her own fantasies

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RHP User

7 years ago

Completely wrong. If it is something she wants to do she is more than welcome too as long as it does not cause issue in our relationship. One thinks you are putting lota of people in the same basket

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RHP User

7 years ago

It does read different to what you have posted in the forum

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RHP User

7 years ago

I’m confused reading your post and profile lol

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RHP User

7 years ago

Which bit is confusing. The profile was written 12 months ago...maybe I need to update it

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I'm so confused.....what now?

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