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I'm in shock!!!
March 18 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
Not sure what to say to that. If you have the right lover or group of people. Well you know how it is. My dream is to one day have an awesome group of people and hire a fantastic house somewhere spectacular and have 48 hours of debauchery. :P I only get bored if I am not feeling any chemistry.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sorry if this is too private... But is that how sex is in your marriage?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Its true I do not do intimacy very well at all.I love sex, and love the build up, but not for a long time. when I am horny its game on and to be honest the most time I would spend in bed with a guy is an hour. Yes I keep hookers hours. I have my own bedroom as well. I never do sleep overs with any of my lovers, and I am happy for them to get up out of bed as soon as we are done. Most men are rather surprised at that. I do have one guy that I see who I have lingered a little longer but that's is very unusual for me to do. I have been told that my sexuality is very much like a man, when I cum the lights go off and I shut off, so I do get what your husband says. but that being said, if your needs are different and he is like that, well there is always RHP for your selection from the bakery , and some of those dudes are slow to rise and slow to go down again, so you can get exactly what you need here.
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RHP User
12 years ago
But would about round 2 and 3 and .....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' But would about round 2 and 3 and ..... my old bones and my high blood pressure and my vertigo, and my bad back and and andbesides that the nursing home only allows us one portion , no seconds
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'LadyTuscan' Quoting 'Meeka100' But would about round 2 and 3 and ..... my old bones and my high blood pressure and my vertigo, and my bad back and and andbesides that the nursing home only allows us one portion , no seconds haha thats fantastic. thinking of oliver twist..... "please sir may i have some more" haha hilarious. Big mamma, no not all men are this way we don't all want to be over in minutes. Some of us do like to indulge in hours if we can. Not all of us are able to but if we get the opportunity we certainly make the most of it. 3+ hours yes please. may need some help though.
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RHP User
12 years ago
With the guys on RHP, but I do love the relax on the bed and laugh then go for round two then three and if I'm so lucky, round four is a treat..... Meeka, I've been married to the man for 23 years, ok sometimes the sex isn't the greatest, you know each other so well I guess it can become the routine..... Although since starting swinging, the spice in the bedroom is great, hot and sexy, which is why it shocked me so much.......
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Smilingwithfun
12 years ago
I would say that after all these years he can still shock you. Has to be something in that. It will make for some interesting moments ahead at certain times.
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RHP User
12 years ago
This is the difference in the model of how many men view and apply the model of sex differently to women.... the climactic goal V the the sensory journey. Doesn't have to be that way. DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've actually been looking for a beach house for just that reason lol :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sex is like anything, do it often enough and it gets a littke boring. I've been known to get the right royal humps up after only a one round offering, and I also find sometimes the whole thing kind of tediuos and just want it over. Sometimes I'm insatiable and sometimes I'm bored even when it's good sex. Perhaps he just wants a little down time. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Maybe your husband hasn't found his kink yet. He needs to do some more exploring.
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RHP User
12 years ago
For a sex course. Get him to learn there's more to it than just the pelvic thrust...... I guess I've never thought of it as a boring activity. It just made me think about all the positions the girls can get into and the different types of movements involved, however, now when I picture the guys side, it doesn't matter what position I think of all I can now imagine is him always just thrusting....... Please guys tell me this is not true!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Bigmamma, don't you feel that maybe you have never shown him that there is more to sex than just thrusting? Or is that just the way my mind would work. Maybe you could both go to a sex course and reconnect together.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Bigmamma1' For a sex course. Get him to learn there's more to it than just the pelvic thrust...... I guess I've never thought of it as a boring activity. It just made me think about all the positions the girls can get into and the different types of movements involved, however, now when I picture the guys side, it doesn't matter what position I think of all I can now imagine is him always just thrusting....... Please guys tell me this is not true!!! Let me refresh your memory.....the balcony......the hot tub.....the chair in the corner of the hotel room...... Was that just boring thrusting? You may find when he said that it was just his mood in that moment..... I some times have a playdate organised and during the day in the lead up to it I might start thinking...I really cant be bothered , I just want to curl up and watch tv tonight.....yeah I know hard to believe .......but its often just a mood in the moment...I wouldn't read too much into it..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes, we have had 23 years 'vanilla', however since swinging, everytime we have seen something new, we have always looked at it together, only thing he hasn't tried with me is Bondage, although he wants to learn a trick or two on that front as well..... Nope, we've pretty much gone the journey together. He does admit that he doesn't have the same sex drive as I do, however I understand that is quite common at the age group we are in....... Although I shouldn't disregard what you are saying outright, I'll look into ways of making it more interesting for my man......
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RHP User
12 years ago
Only a suggestion BigMamma.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I understand how someone would say swinging can get boring. To answer your questions I don't believe that sex is a BJ and thrusting... to me that is boring if that is all it is about day in day out. I am quite a sensual person so for me it is about the touching, feeling my way around my lovers body, the kissing, concentrating on how my whole body feels. For me swinging at clubs often forgoes this a bit too much for my liking, so that I can loose interest.... but of course it depends on my mood on the day. At the moment my mind is stuck on tying my lover up and just touching him, giving him a oil massage and teasing him mercilessly.... that is getting my pussy twinging at the moment. One day I will get him there............
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes, I know... That's what we all say right? Well.. I really love getting a lady to that toe curling, back arching, moaning, groaning, grunting, oh god!!! Place. I really do. My cumming is secondary at that stage. To me, sex, fucking, lovemaking, call it what you will, will never be mundane. There is too much to do. The pelvic thrust is great, but the variety involved can be enormous. As far as I am concerned, sex can be boring if you let it be. I have done that... I am hoping never again!!! Bring it on!!!
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madotara69
12 years ago
Just last night we had sex for around three hours, it's a regular event, when ever the chance allows us the time. Last night our little girl exhausted fell asleep nice and early, we started right here at the computer, ended up in the bedroom with a blend of nice oils, turned out a beaut blend, spent a couple of hours just rubbing it in to Tara's bum pussy and all around her skin, had a finger in her bum and the other in the front bum and half an hour pinching them to hit the spot, get's pretty physical holding on, but it's awesome to spend good time to foreplay, Tara spent a good half hour giving me a blow job, we rooted for a while, ended up cumming in her hand while massaging the G spot. That was good enough to call it a night, so we did and woke up this morning pretty happy, even sung out to Lady T, coz she's looking hot. I really enjoy learning new ways to get Tara off, and her getting off gets me right where I like to be, it's horny as hell. There is some great xxx clips to women and massage including masturbation, together we try new things and finding the touch to it being right just takes time and care, when we have found it we have found a new feeling every time so it never gets boring and never the same. It gets better and get what you are saying. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Jayjay, you might be right on that one... As I said I was shocked and didn't think of the reason behind it........ Meeka, yep the quick fling at the club I can understand, however we love our private parties and at the last one hubby was found in a few naughty corners (hot to see)....... MadoTara, looking at the last couple of months, I realise that we have not been doing this one on one together... I don't know if it's life in the way, children, work or what... But I plan to rectify that soon.............. Maybe that's another thing I didn't hear when hubby said that to me..... It could have been his way of expressing that he wants something a little more special!!!! Ok, did not expect that turn, Thanks everyone :)
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I read your post several times before posting in here and have been thinking a lot of this topic. Do men really see us women as "thrust" objects, with our mouths open and our heads bobbing? The only reason I ask, is because several derogatory comments have been thrown my way of late from some men from RHP and in REAL Life. Those comments being "poo slut" and "one day going to "fuck" all of the clicky group of women" meaning the forum women who post. It just makes me sad to think I/WE are more than that.... Do men REALLY see us like that - as thrust objects. I believe there is more to it than moving my body, mouth and bobbing head...so I can understand where you are coming from with your hubby (not putting your hubby down). So if men do see us like that, it makes me think - do we action that to them and role-model to them we do that? Is that really how men see us???? Surely men don't or are they just being honest in how some men talk?? I'm not impressed by those comments and I actually was offended. If that is the case, it's not for me, I need some substance and some soul when I have sex with someone and it to be enjoyable for both parties. I feel a little empty in my heart with sadness, how some men see women as thrust objects and nothing more. Foxy with a little sensitive soul.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Big mamma,you might like to explore some Tantric sex together...there are a few courses you can sign up for but they are rather expensive....certainly Tantra explores ways to become more connected and Sting is a big fan so it must be good:-) :-) :-) :-) ......sometimes couples do have mismatched libidos and after 23 years I can understand why you would want to explore different permutations of sexual experiences....thrusting and a bj?...is that really how he thinks and acts,or was it just how he responded in the moment?....sometimes male humour defeats me but they think they are funny as fuck:-) :-) :-) :-) xxQi
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madotara69
12 years ago
You have a real life emotion holding your hand Foxy, it's normal and natural all in the 'why do we cry thread'. The thought you are putting into men and behavior is focused at yourself, not us (a man). For whatever reason yours and you are alone to it, the men hitting the interested button for giving you these thoughts, are one at a time and few in comparisons as to men as a whole. ( the bad boy type) they have issues to themselves. Foxy most men, I promise just want to love a woman and have a woman love them back, trust that love is taken and excuses not in place to question it (love). Women have a habit in general to blocking men and their feelings, probably due to the multifunctional instincts natural and nothing of fault. Some men will have been hurt to it especially if denied and some excuse insisted to the question of it. Men have a different defense mechanisms than women, instinct has men show no fear with emotion as it being smelt is dangerous alone, fight and flight to life depending on it, turning off the emotions to run when survival tells the man to stand and fight. (emotionless and charged with adrenalin) Foxy you are for whatever reason attracted to men in this defensive state, there reason is there reason chances are to being hurt by a woman that refused their love and replaced it with an excuse and blame. It's the nature of things, you need to ask yourself and that means passing the 'us' you and deeper to the 'real' you and conscious, I call it your spirit some may say heart, the truth to your being as human, your inner self. What is it that is you seek, that is drawing you to men in that state of mind and nature, fight or flight is in place for feelings and care, the bad boy type of guy. You need to understand, right in that natural state of defensive emotionless mind to thought, a woman is just something to fuck and that is by no means intended as an insult, just a truth and some meanings to consider.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Of course not all men think like that,but unfortunately some do...why is it that some women attract these sorts of men into their lives....well I wish I knew the answer....I am a little tired of the trite reason"'you must be attracted to them"'....in life we ,meet all sorts of differnt people....the good the bad,the wonderful and the truly terrible....sometimes it takes awhile for the true nature. to reveal itself....and yes misogyny is still alive and well...it's not the people we meet its whether or not we choose to condone,put up with or call them on their crap....me I have decided to retire from the fray,it's all too hard xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
I miss you when you disappear of the forums, always love your advice....... Hubby has not 'always' been like that, like all monogamous married couples we went through the dry spell ect, ect..... However since swinging our life in the bedroom has been great, which is why I was so shocked........... However, I must admit, after reading the responses, I really am coming to the conclusion that he is trying to say something to me that he doesn't even realise....... We have been communicating so well lately that I forgot it's like pulling a tooth to generally get information from him........ Looking at the last month, he has been saying how much he's been loving that I just hold him and just snuggling etc, so I'm thinking that I should pull out the oils, light a few candles, get his favourite treats (yes including me) and make evening for him....... He deserves to feel special as well..... And reminded it's not all fuck and suck :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
That sounds like a great idea!Maybe he just needs some one on one and TLC with his favourite lady! I love lavishing that kind of treatment on my favourite man.....well I would if I had a man
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madotara69
12 years ago
Qefenta, yes and maybe just helping Foxy understand some of her confusions, by sharing the most honest reason for how men can behave the way they do, I think we all are loosing touch to the instinctive thought process that has us act without reason, this modern concept we should know all the answers and own them for question, seems to include instinct as choice for conscious thought to social standards. We will never understand the reasons, if we forget to ask the instincts we are designed with as tomorrow our life may depend on them. Nature intended it this way, we need to look at her for these answers not each other, we don't posses the reason for the answer, only mother nature herself can answer that with her reasons. Bigmamma Thank you, he is special and needs to know it, it will mean the world to you both. Just enjoy exploring those feelings to sharing each other and pressing the buttons. It won't hurt for you to give a little guidance if he fumbles, though you don't know yourself all the places that light up your intensities, give him the chance to get the hang of things, you will be feeling special alright, beyond all imagination.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If only we could all inhabit your Rouseauian idyll :-) :-) xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
I love you both, the love you share, your souls, your perception of beauty is beautiful in itself. I hope you both are joining everyone for the next meet and greet 3/5/14
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Bigmamma1' I love you both, the love you share, your souls, your perception of beauty is beautiful in itself. I hope you both are joining everyone for the next meet and greet 3/5/14 We are in this to make friends, nature intended it that way.
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MsJonesy
12 years ago
Quoting 'Bigmamma1' I miss you when you disappear of the forums, always love your advice....... Hubby has not 'always' been like that, like all monogamous married couples we went through the dry spell ect, ect..... However since swinging our life in the bedroom has been great, which is why I was so shocked........... However, I must admit, after reading the responses, I really am coming to the conclusion that he is trying to say something to me that he doesn't even realise....... We have been communicating so well lately that I forgot it's like pulling a tooth to generally get information from him........ Looking at the last month, he has been saying how much he's been loving that I just hold him and just snuggling etc, so I'm thinking that I should pull out the oils, light a few candles, get his favourite treats (yes including me) and make evening for him....... He deserves to feel special as well..... And reminded it's not all fuck and suck :) Maybe he feels things have changed too much and he is missing you.. the woman he has been with for so many lovely years. All the experiences you have been through have added a lot of spice and fun, but perhaps he just wants the reassurance of vanilla for a little bit. Just you and he time, no one else, no acting out some of the experiences you have had together. Maybe he needs some nonsexual time with you to reassure him that you are still happy with that... and with him.
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RHP User
12 years ago
That's what I'm thinking now as well.... Get back to the basics with my man :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yep. I agree. Have some you time. :D
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm a bit inclined to be like your husband.... Yep I know I'm a boring motherfucker.... But honestly, I think the same thing about porn too....it's the same thing over and over.... Doesn't matter if you introduce toys, vibrators or experiment on the sensual, tantric etc... When you've done it.....I just think to myself....well....that was fun....but now what?? Sometimes I actually get more pleasure from my hand than having sex. I find the mechanics of sex boring (there's not really any way to change in and out really is there??) I dunno maybe being sexless for 12 months is just proving the theory, the less you have the less you miss it?? Meh :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is a shame you feel that..... Yes, we have been married a long time, we know all the moves, it becomes routine..... Long story not going into, we started swinging, we learnt new things, found out new fantasies....... But overall, you might just thrust towards each other, but the connection itself is so much more and that's what makes it special each time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I totally agree. But, the actual act of sex, love making aka the mechanics, in itself isn't able to change due to physiology of our bodies. That's where I'm coming from, as your OP never mentioned anything else BUT the mechanics. - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' I totally agree. But, the actual act of sex, love making aka the mechanics, in itself isn't able to change due to physiology of our bodies. That's where I'm coming from, as your OP never mentioned anything else BUT the mechanics. - Posted from rhpmobile There is one or two books on Holly carburettors, theres is book shelves full of the things for Rochester's. A Chevy 350/383 sings with a well tuned Rochester. Mechanics just to tuning the mysterious pussy, is a long life mechanical advancement. In layman's terms
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