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  DynamicCouple36

  7 years ago

  Meet a couple in a public place for starters. If you feel like playing with them (and they feel the same ) go to a club to play . It’s neutral ground and there is Management / security should something go wrong. Paying for a hotel room is not advisable until you know them very well. They could turn out to be psychos. Many also don’t show up. We would not recommend bringing them to your home, as if they turn out to be psychos or stalkers then they will know where you live . We have children and would never bring anyone from here to our home. Far too risky we feel . - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  You’re probably best figuring out before you venture into anything. What do you want? Where do you want to meet? Do you want to split the cost of a hotel room? Are you comfortable with having people in your home? Determine those things for yourself, set yourself some framework for what you feel ok with and what you are comfortable to do. Obviously everyone is different, Some will be happy to travel some won’t or can’t due to personal or work circumstances. Some are happy to meet for drinks and dinner others just want to get straight into it, Some are happy to incur the cost of a room and not ask for contribution from the other couple, some aren’t. Some are able to meet at short notice whilst some require planning. I know this doesn’t help you too much but since its your journey you are on you need to set the framework for it and then find people who are compatible with what you want. Flexibility is a great mindset to have as well too, allows for negotiation of what suits everyone so that one couple doesn’t rule how things play out... You’ll find your way around. Enjoy the discovery and the journey! To answer we require planning. We like to meet for dinner and drinks and plan our weekends away in a nice hotel room (spoils us and anyone we may meet). - Posted from rhpmobile

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  horneycouplewa

  7 years ago

  It's difficult to be new and you will have many up's and downs weeding out the fake profiles and time wasters, unfortunately it comes with this territory. For us we still get the occasional no show that ghost us at the last minute but we always have an alternative plan in case like go to a club or something as we pay for our hotel and don't want it wasted or our night ruined by these inconsiderate people. Yes (sigh) some will have genuine reasons for not being able to come at the last minute IMO Set your rules, what/where you are comfortable with and be picky, don't settle or as they say "take one for the team" We have only had people that we have met before come to our place (we also live out of the suburbs).Clubs and Parties are a great place to have a first meeting, we have met most very good friends from these. Personally after a couple of messages/face & body picture exchanges I like to face cam on an app (kik or WhatsApp) to be sure I am speaking to both parties. It's either this or meet first for drinks and never feel obligated EVER..... Be careful of profiles with no pictures, lot's of ask me's, not verified and in some cases may have 100 friends but no validations :( seems weird to me..... You can learn a lot from these forums, people have great advice here. Good luck xx

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  BungCpl

  7 years ago

  Ever so slowly, having talked and talked about what we wanted, what we’re willing to do and what we were not going to do regardless of the situation, we started venturing to clubs to see what was out there. Our first visit to a club was an eye opener to say the least, we were there on a no play plan but did end up playing with each other in an open room with others doing the same. The more and more we went, the more comfortable and confident we became with what we were willing and not willing to do. More recently we have started to meet people outside of swinger clubs and have even just now reached the point of bringing someone home to play with which definitely showed us the more intimate side of playing with others. Can’t say any of this would have worked for us had we not been very open in our communication with each other, talk, talk some more, and then talk again to make sure both of you are clear about desires, boundaries etc.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  All very helpful advice, thank you. It’s been doing my head in trying to sort out logistics for a night out in my head! In your opinion or experience, would the S&S Ball be a good first night out? Or start with a smaller club and build to that? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  curiousmrs

  7 years ago

  Our first play date was at S and S ball. We’d already met the couple, chatted, all going along swimmingly. We each booked our own rooms at a nearby hotel, with the plan that if all felt like after, we’d go to either their room or ours. All couples we have met we have played at each other’s houses as well as in motel rooms. But for us, we are also friends with our couple friends outside the bedroom as well. It comes down to your comfort level and what you are after. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  We'll skip our first meet 😉 But the second one was fun. We all met at a local pub. It was a meet and greet with 8 of us off here. Some that had been in the secne and newbies like us. We booked a large table outside and told the others we would put some red and green balloons on tha table so the others would know where the party was. It was a great no pressure event with lots of laughs and everyone got on great. After dinner and more drinks we thought why not take this home. 8 people in a 5 person spa all mostly drunk but have a great time We had all gotten our gear off and being loud lmao The neighbors were copping their first of many eye fills to come lmao 😂 Put up in the events page a meet and greet 😉 Because the first time to a swingers club is a very daunting thing. It's always good to go to those clubs with friends to start out with 😉

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  theoxisback14

  7 years ago

  Most things can be discussed before meeting anyone. Share each other’s situation and plan a casual meeting first with no expectations. Sometimes when you meet someone there’s that spark and it’s going to happen so you both can make a decision that you’re comfortable with. I can never plan a whole night on the first meet,some people are a lot different face to face, I’m a single dad with two young kids and so always try for a casual meet first before I organise a night out. - Posted from rhpmobile

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