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How do you know each other?
January 31 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
Have not been in that situation but would say that have "met at the local and struck up a conversation we seemed to have a bit in common and it has progressed from there over a period of time. "
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RHP User
16 years ago
Met at a mutual friend's party..... 'nuf said
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RHP User
16 years ago
I will be very interested in the reponses for this one! I hope we get heaps of good suggestions ;) We have found ourselves in this situation and as I am a hopeless liar, I could just feel the hole I was digging myself getting bigger and deeper LOL...I'm sure the bright redness of my face didn't help my cause either. *giggle* The thing that we have to realise though, is that whist it is in the forefront of our minds that we met on a 'sex site'...it would actually be furtherest from the minds of those asking the question.
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wannabyummymummy
16 years ago
i figure it is best to plan ahead and have a story in place before there is a chance of the two worlds meeting but that said have no real clue as to what that story would be Mutual friends story is a good start but i have nosey family and friends who will no doubt say "oh really? who?" and given that we are fairly new to the area and don't know many people that could be tricky lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
My partents asked my partner and I where we met some friends who were a bit touchy feely at one dinner party. Our response was, "We met them at a fuck party in Northbridge" (Northbridge beeing much like Kings Cross is in Sydney). I think they didn't believe us given how hard they laughed but they didn't bother asking again. Little did they know but it was the truth. Tis a bit like when you ring in for a sicky and tell your boss you have diarrhea, they are too embarrased to ask further.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Is it necessary to explain how you know other people. I never get asked how I know anyone, nor would I ask anyone. If anyone is that nosy can't you just say you just know each other?? Is it really anyone's business??
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RHP User
16 years ago
This is a hard one to deal with. I have a couple of scenarios. The other week I met a guy at the beach at night. My 5 yo was with me as we were going there for an after dinner play of the non-sexual kind. Anyway... the guy wanted to meet and that's the only time I could fit him in ! LOL I told my daughter that he was a friend from the gym. That night when daddy came home, she immediately told him how much FUN she'd had with mummy's friend from the gym ! She hasn't stopped talking about him !!! mmmm... daddy doesn't like mummys gym friends ! When I talk to people from the gym, I tell them about the I.T repair guys ! I seem to know LOTS of guys in I.T ! I tell people that I met the guy when he fixed my laptop. Nearly all the guys I know are in I.T. The others are electricians ! What do I only attract certain occupations ??? I again mention that the Sparky was doing a job for me. It does get tricky as no one at the gym believes me ! They all know what I'm like so any guy that comes close to me they assume I've had sex with ! I haven't had to introduce anyone to my family . Hugs, Miss Saturn
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RHP User
16 years ago
Over the festive season, we met a lot of each other's families and friends. We were initially concerned. We just said "we met through mutual friends" (not a complete lie) and nobody questioned us further.
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RHP User
16 years ago
You took your 5 yr old with you to meet someone??? Not sure what else to say......absolutely gobsmacked!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
We'd prefer for our horizontal friends to be separate to our vertical ones but they can mix...if you've met mates who know each other but aren't comfortable with each other knowing their private lives, its up to them to bullshit each other. All I'd say in your position is "met them through friends in a pub a couple of months ago... got on well with them... why do you ask?"... saying that... haven't had that experience yet... so, i'd probably blush and stutter for a while, wondering what to suggest... celts
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey Night_Magik You misinterpreted my post... kind of. I took my 5 yo out to dinner and we went to a park to play and to the beach for some fun. We do this nearly every Friday night..same restaurant, same park, same beach. Young guy was in the area and txt at the exact time we were heading to the park. It wasn't a date... there were lots of people in the park and beach and everyone played together. It was more so a "hey...I'm going to be here, if I see you fine". The focus was 110% on my daughter. We had our usual fun. I ONLY suggested it because of the particular guy, his age and his laid back style. He knew it wasn't a date. He just wanted to say "hi". All we did was jump on jelly fish, skim rocks, run up and down slides and play on the swings. There were lots of kids around and we played with all of them.... that's just me and what I do. I don't sit on a bench and watch my child play, I run and have fun and get dirty and sandy etc. I had chatted enough to the guy before to know a lot about him to know this was appropriate (only those who know me personally would believe I could judge this). I have NEVER done this with anyone else. Sure... I didn't ask to see his "working with children I.D" but my daughter was NEVER out of my sight. In fact, as usual I was one of the few parents who rescued lots of injured, crying kids in the playground. It's the parents who sit on their arse while their kids run around that REALLY bother me ! I was actively involved with my child. Don't be gobsmaked... sometimes rhp is about making friends ! Just hanging out. SIMPLE ! I'm not that horny to know when to be responsible. Is there a difference between what I did and chatting to a single dad I meet at the park ? The intention was clear up front, no hidden agenda. And... I'd happily let the guy hang out at the park with us again sometime. In fact I'd do exactly the same if it was a female friend off rhp who happened to be in the area and I'd probably tell my daughter exactly the same thing...that we know each other from the gym. Hugs Saturn
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RHP User
16 years ago
You do not have to explain anything to anyone. I read your posts and you come across as a woman with intelligence and a loving mother. I myself have introduced my son to a few RHP people. I introduce them as my friend. Enough said..... huggies sweeetpetite41 xxxxxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
As the other couple and us enjoy photography, we used that as our commonality. Sure enough someone asked me to see some examples of the sort of photography we do. They loved it (see our profile). Love all your replies. And yes Miss Saturn, we do the same. We know where to draw the line and you sound like you do that well too!! Well done!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Miss Saturn, anyone who can fool around and make wonderful memories with their kids, instead of sitting on the bench watching, ihas their childs best interest at heart, and is more than capable of meeting up with a friend, who has obviuosly been vetted prior to meeting.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I agree with sweet too. It beggars belief that people on here try and moralise others when they're on here themselves thinking about getting a cock up their arse or something. Struth. Will the moral crusaiders just piss off back to the 1950's. Ive no doubt at all that Saturn is a most caring parent. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
I am prob guilty of no being sure enough to say we met on the internet..Miss Saturn i get you !
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'Miss_Saturn' I told my daughter that he was a friend from the gym. Hehe - wouldn't work for me... I reckon even a 5yr old would say "You met him at a Gym?? Umm - what was he doing there... asking for directions?"
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RHP User
16 years ago
You are all right....Ms Saturn didnt and doesnt have to explain herself to anyone....me included. But she did so with honesty and grace (unlike those who have stood up for her) and I appreciated that, its a shame some ppl think I am moralising...if you think my concern for a child being in that scenario is moralising then so be it....children deserve to be protected. I never accused her of being a bad parent or anything of the sort...I said very little because I was gobsmacked by the idea and she kindly explained to put my mind at ease I guess.....whether she chose to or not was entirely up to her. The 1950's moral crusaders werent doing a very good job at protecting the kids that were being abused in Church and State Care were they Stalky?? But anyways, thankyou Ms Saturn I have no doubt that you're a fantastic parent, and I apologise if I misinterpreted your post
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RHP User
16 years ago
I got told....... And all I posted that a lovely lady should not had to explain herself.. ahhh..well....Ya get that... huggies to all sweetpetite41 xxxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
No one got told.....Never mentioned any names even though many jumped to her defence. I have apologised once for misinterpreting Ms Saturn. Enough said......all adults here...time to move on.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Right and with that episode over.... Lets get back to the question. Any other suggestions?
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'Night_Magik' The 1950's moral crusaders werent doing a very good job at protecting the kids that were being abused in Church and State Care were they Stalky?? I could never be as graceful as Miss Saturn. as for the above extract... You're not shitting. They definitely were not... but I don't see how that relates to taking your kid with you to the beach. Back to the topic..... met on line in a swingers site followed by a giggle and a smile.. as if you are joking. Truth in disguise. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
You made the comment abt 1950's crusaders.....thats where it relates to what was said. So much more sunshine outside now my tree has been trimmed....might go get some fresh air. It's stuffy in here and new comers and their opinions/comment clearly arent appreciated by those who live here. Ciao
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RHP User
16 years ago
Seems to work for me , no point in making something up, if it shocks the person is question or offends them them in someway well that is their problem. Always gets a interesting look from the parents when i arrive at a family get together with a new friend :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Sorry night_magic. Some things I'm really passionate about and child abuse heads my list of hates. Your comments on abused kids in state care struck a nerve and over reacted. I never meant to make you feel unwelcome. I also hope you don't mind people disagreeing with you. That's pretty common around here for everyone. Hugs Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
Thats simple, i tell people we met at connections, keeps them wondering whats going on for ever. (for those of you outside of WA connections is an iconic gay and lesbian venue in Perth.) mxxxm
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