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How do you get noticed
August 09 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think most single women, and I am not saying ALL, want someone who is going to be theirs, not someone else's, even if it is just a friends with benefits. It is off putting for me to read people are married, whether it is an open relationship or not. It is just not a circumstance I want to get involved in if jealousy rears it's head or the fact that if I happened to really like you, that you are not available for more. I am looking for someone for me and sex is supposed to be fun and for me it is not fun getting involved in someone else's marriage, with or without permission. I just want someone simple with not too much drama and can be there when I want them and vice versa without having to consider anyone else (kids excluded).
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MissBishere
11 years ago
Seems impossible to find though. I don't want to be someone's booty call once every 6 weeks. Not sayin you would do that OP. Just having a bit of a rant actually. Sorry.. Missb - sheepishly slinks off with eyes downcast... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
11 years ago
with Ralf and Miss B.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'd suggest that you concentrate your efforts on married women who are in the same situation as yourself... They are much more likely to "get you" and to be content with the restraints of your situation. In spite of what some will say in their profiles the majority here don't really want ONS or fb, most like the ladies above are openly or secretly wanting at least the option of a bit more... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
What ralf said
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sometimes it's hard trying to set up a meet with an available man, I think trying to set up a meet with an unavailable man would be even more frustrating, even if I was interested. Good luck!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I believe that everyone deserves a chance at happiness and love. If a guy I am seeing has that chance I will back away and move on, with guys that are in an open relationship, they already have their primary relationship and are looking for the same thing we are. Naughty fun that adds a little to what we already have, no romantic ties, no exclusivity, and an awareness of what it is like to live an alternative lifestyle. I have also found that these guys are more thoughtful and respectful to myself and my husband, they play well with others! I should imagine it would be the same with the Ladies. So like Hp suggested, maybe try the ladies in open relationships? Getting involved in the forums can't hurt either. Good Luck!
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RHP User
11 years ago
As soon as I look at a profile and it says' ask me ' in the relationship, sorry, I shut it down, I don't even go to the profile information to see what the explanation is........... I guess the only thing that MIGHT make me look further, is where you can write that little blurb under your profile name, instead of putting 'seeking people for fun and friendship', put 'We play together and alone'....
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RHP User
11 years ago
...this is RHP. It doesnt matter what your marital status is, your age, your personality, or how witty and clever your profile is. If the girl doesn't find you physically attractive, none of the above will matter to her. Don't believe everything they say...most of it is a moralistic cover-up for the superficial truth (it makes them feel better to reject a guy because he is 'married', when really they just don't like his face)...the girls are just as visual as the guys! Anyway dude, Good luck!
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RHP User
11 years ago
The ladies here generally have their pick, and there are lots more male profiles than female. Just try and be a little bit different with your profile - without speaking for the girls, I'm sure they'd see the same thing time and again on profiles. Oh, and 'ask me' is bad juju. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
On a persons relationship status is instantly suspect to us. Usually means they're married or attached and we will not play (knowingly) with either. Just our choice as a couple. Mrs will usually not even read any further or tweak any further interest in a profile if she suspects them to be married/attached or a fake profile. Good luck though mate, it's hard enough for young single "Adonnis-esq" blokes to get a look in on this site, but maybe just narrow your searches to married women playing solo? Mr Curious - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
RHP is great for chats....but to meet singles, you need to try some clubs too. Don't rely on this one medium....
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
Quoting 'Tigeroo' ...this is RHP. It doesnt matter what your marital status is, your age, your personality, or how witty and clever your profile is. If the girl doesn't find you physically attractive, none of the above will matter to her. Don't believe everything they say...most of it is a moralistic cover-up for the superficial truth (it makes them feel better to reject a guy because he is 'married', when really they just don't like his face)...the girls are just as visual as the guys! Anyway dude, Good luck! Thanks (??) for speaking for we women... We are not all like that Tigeroo...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Tigeroo' It doesnt matter what your marital status is, your age, your personality, or how witty and clever your profile is. If the girl doesn't find you physically attractive, none of the above will matter to her. You bet marital status matters to me. A guy could be perfect for me (on paper anyway), but his being attached would be an instant no. Using someone's relationship status as an excuse to say no is very valid, and to suggest it makes women feel "better" than rejecting him because of his looks is a very uninformed statement in my opinion. Insulting too, actually. Thumbs down.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' I think most single women, and I am not saying ALL, want someone who is going to be theirs, not someone else's, even if it is just a friends with benefits. It is off putting for me to read people are married, whether it is an open relationship or not. It is just not a circumstance I want to get involved in if jealousy rears it's head or the fact that if I happened to really like you, that you are not available for more. Quoting 'Highpriority' I'd suggest that you concentrate your efforts on married women who are in the same situation as yourself... They are much more likely to "get you" and to be content with the restraints of your situation. Quoting 'Bigmamma1' As soon as I look at a profile and it says' ask me ' in the relationship, sorry, I shut it down, I don't even go to the profile information to see what the explanation is........... (...) instead of putting 'seeking people for fun and friendship', put 'We play together and alone'.... Couldn't agree more with the statements above. Good luck!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry I don't agree with your statements. What are you saying........... that your friends with benefits are exclusive to you? That they are yours? The whole point of FWB is that they are casual arrangements and a lot of the time you still see other people. So what does it matter if a person is in an open relationship or not? Although I do agree with HP. I think a lot of women say they want a bit of fun and FWBs but really they want more deep down and are just looking for the right person. Nothing wrong with that at all, but maybe some women are not really being honest with themselves perhaps.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Tigeroo' If the girl doesn't find you physically attractive, none of the above will matter to her. Don't believe everything they say...most of it is a moralistic cover-up for the superficial truth (it makes them feel better to reject a guy because he is 'married', when really they just don't like his face)...the girls are just as visual as the guys! Anyway dude, Good luck! I have had quite a few men that I found very physically attractive contact me, but I've turned them down because they are married / attached. I do not care how hot the guy is, if he's attached I don't go there. Women may be as visual as men (the one thing in your comment that I agree with), but just as I'm sure many men feel insulted when told they all think only with their dicks, so too will many women when you make a female equivalent generalisation (along with the assumption that we're all lying about our decisions as well). To the OP, I also agree that you are probably best off looking for other married / attached women who already have a primary relationship and are looking for some additional fun.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Bigmamma1' As soon as I look at a profile and it says' ask me ' in the relationship, sorry, I shut it down, I don't even go to the profile information to see what the explanation is........... I guess the only thing that MIGHT make me look further, is where you can write that little blurb under your profile name, instead of putting 'seeking people for fun and friendship', put 'We play together and alone'.... I don't understand why you have this attitude. Is it because you assume the person is cheating on their partner? I think we should ask RHP to put a few more options for relationship status. Single Married Attached Open relationship Poly-amorous Wife on need to know basis It's complicated. In fact I want to put It's complicated on mine.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi Ya,I am fairly new at this and would love some tips on how to get noticed as well.What is it Women look for in a profile? And what should I avoid?Obviously honesty is a given.Thanks for your help in advance.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Never-been-married or Spinster.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's a huge leap for any woman ,not just rhp! That said if you have a genuine reason ,perhaps a nice dinner with a lady! You then can plead lol your case,surely best bet is a lady in the same situation !
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RHP User
11 years ago
What I would suggest, just based on my own experiences, is that I would remove the No strings attached comment from your profile. I think lots of women assume that blokes are really looking for one night stands when they say this, which for us often means No Satisfaction At All. After all no-strings attached is pretty cold arrangement. If that is what you want, that's great but if you are looking for friendlier arrangement, I would rethink that. As the ladies have mentioned above lots of women are interested in on going relationships... as in casual dating/friends so there are no expectations for more since you are attached already but you have chemistry and friendship which comes with strings. I think anyway. So I would want to know. What are you after in particular. Are you after ongoing arrangements? How often would you want to meet? Would you want to go out on dates? Would there be sleep overs? Will your wife want to meet your FWB? My whole idea of not wanting attached men is because I like to have some spontaneity, I like to go out on dates or just hang out for the day... go the beach, go to the movies, etc. Not all married guys can deliver on that. My 2 cents.
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RHP User
11 years ago
'Please Ask' matters for some but not all statements. Eg please ask on marital status is dodge. Please Ask on smoking is sooo different. Married, open relationship, to me is fine. I would just want to speak with your partner to be sure. Why don't you try saying that (don't remember if you have)? Eg my wife is happy to confirm our arrangement over the phone. My perspective comes from a single girl who wants to remain that way, but with an ongoing FWB. Is your wife ever likely to meet me or join in? Is it optional, not at all. .? What I really **did not like** is the template statements you added at the end. Especially got the girl you'd like to meet. OMG so little effort for that really put me off. You want sex but the best you can do is a template statement, one line. That's the biggest turn off for me. Make more effort and tell them what the benefits are without using that word ;) Good luck! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'mudshark' Hi Ya,I am fairly new at this and would love some tips on how to get noticed as well.What is it Women look for in a profile? And what should I avoid?Obviously honesty is a given.Thanks for your help in advance. Hi Mr Mudshark. I read your profile and sounds like you are looking for a more conventional situation such as dating with someone on one on one exclusive basis. Is that right? I think your profile is fine and you have smiling photos of your face which is fantastic. Now it is just a numbers game, and sending the right email to the right woman at the right time... and a whole lot of luck. Hope you find what you are looking for.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Never-been-married or Spinster. What about Single no Kids. Single and Free. I do want I want, when I want and with who I want. Footloose Bachelor
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MissBishere
11 years ago
No I don't mean that at all. That would be an exclusive relationship and that's not what I want. I guess I make a generalization that a man that has a primary relationship is not going to be looking for a fwb they won't want to do dinner sleep overs clubs all that kind of stuff. That's all I meant. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well I have found one.
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RHP User
11 years ago
But yes I agree. Most married guys in open relationship can only provide a very limited experience which is fine if all you are after is just sex. But I am after more and I know a lot of women are.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' Seems impossible to find though. I don't want to be someone's booty call once every 6 weeks. Not sayin you would do that OP. Just having a bit of a rant actually. Sorry.. Missb - sheepishly slinks off with eyes downcast... - Posted from rhpmobile Hi ralf and Missb and Lilyorchid... I am looking for exactly the same... as you all probably know by now. Distance (and maybe age, (although according to many profiles, my age is within a number of 'ranges'). I am as available as any man could be and I also want to be more than just a 'once every now and then' or 'when they get an itch', type convenience. I am hoping for something more tangible and possibly even permanent or at least exclusive and 'see where it goes', although not necessarily, as I know that's not what most people are here for. I accept that and am 'testing the waters to see what ladies really want 'from me, at least'. I have much to offer in a number of ways. Basically a man is not an island and I've been a long time without the comfort and fun and security of someone 'special'... To what degree I can expect on RHP remains to be seen, but I hope there are ladies like yourselves who are in some way attracted to me, or my profile or something enough to bring about a meeting. I have been fortunate enough to have had contact with a number of ladies, but unfortunately, distance has precluded a meeting up till now, as my area isn't exactly 'flooded' with members'. But I'm am flexible, provided it's workable in some way. I've leant that if you want something, you have to 'GO' for it and fight... That means deal with any difficulties or barriers that might present.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Tigeroo' ...this is RHP. It doesnt matter what your marital status is, your age, your personality, or how witty and clever your profile is. If the girl doesn't find you physically attractive, none of the above will matter to her. Don't believe everything they say...most of it is a moralistic cover-up for the superficial truth (it makes them feel better to reject a guy because he is 'married', when really they just don't like his face)...the girls are just as visual as the guys! Anyway dude, Good luck! Status = Ask Me or Attached ... I'm not interested no matter how hot he is. I have no tolerance for cheaters so if he's cheating I wouldn't like him. I have no time for complications so if he's in an open-relationship that adds a complication I'm not interested in. I want to develop a deep connection with someone so he needs to be physically and emotionally available. RHP is a busy place. I'm happy to focus on men who are available without spending time on those who aren't. All of the above has zero to do with looks. If I'm not interested in a man because of his looks (or his filthy house in the background or whatever) I say straight up that I'm not attracted to him. Tigeroo ... you sound bitter ...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Tigeroo' ...this is RHP. It doesnt matter what your marital status is, your age, your personality, or how witty and clever your profile is. If the girl doesn't find you physically attractive, none of the above will matter to her. Don't believe everything they say...most of it is a moralistic cover-up for the superficial truth (it makes them feel better to reject a guy because he is 'married', when really they just don't like his face)...the girls are just as visual as the guys! Anyway dude, Good luck! Hi Tigeroo... The Ladies here can look after themselves well and I don't normally 'jump on people' in here (figuratively) but I feel like it now. I generally respect an opinion whether I think it's right or not, as it's an opinion and like an arsehole, we all have one, but don't necessarily like someone else's. You are making a 'sweeping generalisation' that I know for a fact is NOT what a good amount of women in RHP are like, or are looking for. MANY times I've heard words to the effect "I want a man who interests me intellectually and with whom I have a connection. A man who will respect me, be my friend, wants to have fun and be available to me and I will be there for him"... And many other words with the same theme and need being conveyed. I don't know what Forum you've been reading, but it's obviously not the same one as I. You make a sweeping statement about how women on RHP are only interested in looks 'like men are' (Thanks, but I am not ONLY interested in that either, but I can take the insult because I hope people know me better)... Your profile is "Not for Display" at the moment, so I can't comment on anything you may have or not have there but what do you base your opinion on? I happen to know, just through experience and not just here on RHP, that women are far more deep than men, when it comes to the 'WANTS and NEEDS' department and especially in the 'Looks' department. They ARE human, but far less likely than men to be concerned about 'only looks'. I hope that's not too hard and I don't want to upset. But I will call attention to an injustice when I feel I see one.Thanks mate
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RHP User
11 years ago
only works if it is followed by "and fancy free". Don't blame me, that's just how the world is (unless you meant it in a "repressed adolescent and just want to dance" kind of way)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Some great info here, thanks everyone especially Meeka100 and Ralf74, amazing the difference between the attention my misses gets on here compared to me, definitely a site that favours the women. Happy hunting all.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Sorry I don't agree with your statements. What are you saying........... that your friends with benefits are exclusive to you? That they are yours? The whole point of FWB is that they are casual arrangements and a lot of the time you still see other people. So what does it matter if a person is in an open relationship or not? Although I do agree with HP. I think a lot of women say they want a bit of fun and FWBs but really they want more deep down and are just looking for the right person. Nothing wrong with that at all, but maybe some women are not really being honest with themselves perhaps. but the opportunity is more likely there, yes. And I am not getting involved in a marriage in a FWB arrangement. I have had bad experiences with wives before both knowing and not knowing what is going on and it isn't drama I want to invite into my life. I do agree with HP though, a good avenue to pursue is other married women. I am not against him being out there to get what he wants, just explaining why someone in his position does not appeal to me and my circumstances and from what I have read on this forum, a lot of other women.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you are married yet have a single profile, I won't even give you a look in. It screams CHEATING to me. It takes a fair bit got me to trust someone, so have married or Ask Me in your relationship status will get your message deleted. My FWB need to be single OR a couple who play together. Sure, you may have an open marriage, but unless I hear that from your wife, I won't believe you. :) And even then I won't play alone with a married man.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If your wife is here too, then cross reference each other in your profiles. It would (in my eyes) give credibility that you are in fact in an open relationship... Do you play together in three or foursomes ? ... If not why ?... Maybe you could try that if you don't... If you can impress at that type of meet, then it opens the possibility of follow ups one on one... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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Seachange73
11 years ago
BL, well said. Quoting 'Burning_Love' Status = Ask Me or Attached ... I'm not interested no matter how hot he is. I have no tolerance for cheaters so if he's cheating I wouldn't like him. I have no time for complications so if he's in an open-relationship that adds a complication I'm not interested in. I want to develop a deep connection with someone so he needs to be physically and emotionally available. RHP is a busy place. I'm happy to focus on men who are available without spending time on those who aren't. All of the above has zero to do with looks. If I'm not interested in a man because of his looks (or his filthy house in the background or whatever) I say straight up that I'm not attracted to him. Tigeroo ... you sound bitter ... I concur with you with most of what you said re. what we RHP women are looking for. Who wouldnt want a memorable beautiful connection with someone here or anywhere. why settle with someone who will hurt us or complicate our lives with their issues? I'll take a beautiful life-changing memorable experience each time. Not sure about a deep connection, as for me, personally, that can only develop over time and reserved for someone I may want to have a one on one relationship with. IMO,I am open to it but I most likely may not get from a FWB. I have reservations of finding a deep connection with men here or anywhere as it requires investing a lot of time, which is scarce in nature for me due to work travels and my family demands. I havent had that yet on rhp, would love to experience it but not losing sleep over it. Maybe we do not have the same understanding of it so my apologies if I misread. Tigeroo, just curious how you would come to that conclusion as you have not met most of us yet. An interesting yet scathingly bitter comment as per posts from the ladies above. I am sure you have your reasons or experiences to say what you did but I am surprised as you usually, most of the time lol, post well thought of and intelligent views. Projecting your frustrations on us is not sexy, IMO, and I would consider the post an aberration. We are not here to change your mind but if you personally speak to us and get to know some of us, you will know that that isn't so. Good luck and take it easy (on yourself and on us).
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'lotsofhappy' Some great info here, thanks everyone especially Meeka100 and Ralf74, amazing the difference between the attention my misses gets on here compared to me, definitely a site that favours the women. Happy hunting all.. - Posted from rhpmobile It is definitely easier for women on here, it is just your circumstances that put me off but that is not specific to you, all married guys are off the table for me, I just don't want or need to go there. As HP said, cross reference your partners profile on yours to validate that she knows and is open to you being on the site, it will certainly look more credible.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Right or wrong good on you for speaking your mind rather than going with the flow ! lotsofhappy, Just be yourself and don't try and second guess what women want, it's always an epic fail. Further, whilst the forums are good they are a rarified atmosphere, the action is in the profiles, I agree, seek out the likeminded.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Pool cleaned up yet 50s ? Welcome back !! Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
keep in mind these kind of sites are very superficial to. thats what we have found anyway. people tend to look but not respond but we know we aren't everyones cup of tea - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm not everyone's picture or person of choice, but doesn't mean I can't communicate with them and chat, rhp really is what you make it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
nothing stands out on in your profile......no passion or energy....or cheekiness....... your pic is awful....get some more interesting pics up there...something with a smile. make it personal and fun.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Paint your head green. Won't get you anywhere but it will get you noticed!! coupleinsearch14 - we are all too intimidated by your cuteness to message....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Cant resist picking you up on some of the language used, OP - its nkt that rhp is "a site that favours the women". As mentioned by others, it is simply a numbers game. As in any club/pub/other social site, and for a number of sociocultural reasons, there are more men actively and openly looking for sex than there are women doing the same. For what its worth, and bearing in mind the insane number of messages/flirts that we single women get - i would suggest a new profile pic. Yours appears as just a dark slet of blob when viewed on a phone, a bit dark and uninteresting, it doesnt catch the eye and shows nothing of your face nor body. Colourful pics (especially the person outdoors) catch my interest and make me want to "click" to see more detail. I dont think a man needs to be flexing in a towel (with his toothbrush on the sink lol!) but a pic that shows me more of who he is would catch my eye faster. As others have said, "Ask Me" is not helpful, and i figure for single (unicorn!) gals, the onus is on the men to offer info...the idea that we would need to chase them for detail is a bit unrealistic given the numbers game. Likewise, i find the flirt "Youre exactly what im looking for, please message me Im keen" a bit rude. If someone wants to message with me, id expect them to start us off. Best of luck 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Profile nothing stands out on in your profile......no passion or energy....or cheekiness....... your pic is awful....get some more interesting pics up there...something with a smile. make it personal and fun. Well said - some energy/passion is important to convey. If someone hasnt taken the time to create that (and, i get that it doesnt come easy to some) might suggest they wont take the time to be interesting in the bedroom either. A long bow to draw...? Maybe. But, women can afford to be picky on here. Thats the reality. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I m up for it :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't think our profile wording is perfect but I think our pictures get most of the attention anyway. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I had a profile on here years ago. Most of my pics were from modelling work or from competition events in my sport. Dispite once being a part time model I was always quite camera shy. So I never have had many unprofessional photos of myself where I wasnt surrounded by friends and family. Im certainly not one to take bathroom mirror selfies. However I did cave and I have one! Previously I used to get a hard time over the professional quality of my photos, now I get the opposite, many women express it it quite a nasty manner too. Often women who dont have any pics on display, let alone a face. I joined again as im not a fan of picking up in bars and clubs, this way I can get to know somebody in my own time. At least that was my theory. Now im just waiting til my paid membership runs out and I will then depart from here. Certainly seems easier to meet women in bars and clubs, all I need to do is smile and be myself. That tactic certainly does not work on here. I have never and would never disrespect a lady, especially one on here. But almost half of responses I have received are more often abrupt, rude or downright nasty if I get a reply at all. All I can offer a beautiful independant woman is respect, transparency and good times. But finding a woman who is trusting enough to see that I am genuine is a very hard task. Good luck ladies and gents. Never settle for second best. Xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am having the same problem. Have listed on our profile we play alone. Have said we are looking for friendship as well and are happy to meet for a drink or movie as well its not just sex. None of this seems to matter though most women on here seem to be very shallow. Im not saying all but most. Yes there has to be attraction and i understand that but some are just too picky. Not all open relationships are the same some can spend time with fwb other than sex and some cant. Try being specific in what you can and cant do. good luck in your search, dont give up mate - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Im not sure lotsofhappy, but I do think looking for like minded people is important-we have only found a select few who are interested in us..and are still looking for a man/woman/cpl to meet with on a regular basis! But until we find the ppl that fit with us (we're deviants, play hard and dirty so can be full on for some), random one nighters with unknowns are still awesome ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've had the exact same problem except for one difference... I'm in the single category & have been on this site since the beginning of the year. My luck has been the same... No mater how much I change thing's up on my profile. I don't know if it's the creativity of the rest of the ratio of guys on this site or it's just me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was discussing this topic last night with a few ladies over some drinks. Seems majority of ladies like a bit of romance. (I'm also quite a fan) now I'm far from experienced in any sort of group play, but I assume that there is not a lot of room for romance. I think it's the same with getting involved or one or both members of a couple. I love to romance and pamper a woman of my desires, but if she had a husband I would still be a gentleman, but those sweet things I like to do for a lady would most likely be unwanted. Intimacy makes people feel special, it does for me anyway, and I'm assuming a lot of women on here. Sex without intimacy is like pasta without the sauce. Perhaps this is the reason why people already in relationships have a hard time.Now I'm a single male, so I have no idea what I'm doing wrong. Any feedback would be awesome.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Both of your profiles look fine to me, it's a numbers game unfortunately, but don't give up, now you've poked your heads in you will get people checking out your profiles. Welcome to the forums
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RHP User
11 years ago
So I've had some great advice here, for those that saw my profile as lotsofhappy you may have noticed a change or 2, now known as Sports_King. Still a work in progress but getting a bit more attention now. For those that doubt my "open relationship" I would say check out Shale75 that's my sexy wife and me. She would happily verify and encourages me to keep trying. Both happy to explore after 14years together. Why do I have a single profile, we both do, our couples profile also gets bombarded with single guys and couples only chasing her. We do get some couples looking for both of us, it's not all bad. I intend putting a bit more detail of what I'm looking for on my profile but don't want to write a novel on my profile or here, not too many going read the whole thing. Just trying to get the attention of women wanting the same as me. Fun times with someone I connect with whether it's chatting online or finding the best way to make each other moan ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
All tigeroo has said is that no matter how positive one tries to maintain; it can all be undone with prolonged exposure to being rejected based upon the same reason. Whatever that maybe....in tigeroo's experience it has been a physical element; despite many of the postings here to the contrary. It's also an issue I'm sure many if the ladies here don't have; given the intoxicating level of choice they have and exercise to an extreme level.... That's hardly bitter.....that's reality. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' All tigeroo has said is that no matter how positive one tries to maintain; it can all be undone with prolonged exposure to being rejected based upon the same reason. Whatever that maybe....in tigeroo's experience it has been a physical element; despite many of the postings here to the contrary. It's also an issue I'm sure many if the ladies here don't have; given the intoxicating level of choice they have and exercise to an extreme level.... That's hardly bitter.....that's reality. - Posted from rhpmobile I agree it's not bitter....it is reality. It's not just men tho....women do have the same issues too ya know. :) Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Many doesn't equate to all :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Gentlemen Juz, and others, I personally think the cold calling email thing of online dating is too much hard work for not much return.......... for most people. I would much rather get known on this forum buy participating in threads and debates or use the chat rooms. I know that this can be a very effective way of making friends with other people from RHP, and from there you can go to the meet and greet nights and parties and meet other people face to face. You will have heaps more luck that way. I think anyway. So, you just need to use RHP in a different way. Know what I mean. Good luck gentleman...... I wish you lots of happy rooting.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Although I suppose that isn't so easy if you are not in a large town or city. Oh well.
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RHP User
11 years ago
When you least expect it. Expect it.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
"Been to the puppet show, seen the strings" as a relationship option? Lol I like hand and sock muppets myself 😄
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RHP User
11 years ago
are not emotionally available...that is why single women are reluctant to play with married men.even though the same could be said for many single men... most single women are not prepared to take the risk......sex is not always just about sex...strings have a way of entangling us when we least expect it xxQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
On a purely customer satisfaction (ergo "money making") basis, if I were the RHP marketing executive, I would abolish the "relationship status" criteria for guys altogether. That way women would not he able to use it as a pre-screening option. They would only be left with looks, physique, location, interests, age, height, kinks, ethnicity, sexual orientation, and general profile critique to fall back on. Holy Shit! Imagine the difference in responses the average bloke would enjoy as a result. (and imagine all the continual renewing of memberships!). Imagine that, if a woman actually liked a guys profile, she had to message him (either back or even initially) to find out if he was "emotionally available" (i.e. not in a relationship of ANY kind) or not before politely and thoughtfully letting him know that unfortunately (and with much regret) his relationship status precluded her from going any further. Or she could alternatively of course, cut him down to size and call him a lying cheating bastard who is therefor, by default, exactly the same as the one who cheated on her seven years ago!). I see it as a win/win. The gals still get umpteendoodle messages a day, but the guys may just get to converse with a few women in return! (and the guys who still choose to lie about their status from that point on can continue on as originally planned!). Obi1
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RHP User
11 years ago
On a purely customer satisfaction (ergo "money making") basis, if I were the RHP marketing executive, I would abolish the "relationship status" criteria for guys altogether. That way women would not he able to use it as a pre-screening option. They would only be left with looks, physique, location, interests, age, height, kinks, ethnicity, sexual orientation, and general profile critique to fall back on. Holy Shit! Imagine the difference in responses the average bloke would enjoy as a result. (and imagine all the continual renewing of memberships!). Imagine that, if a woman actually liked a guys profile, she had to message him (either back or even initially) to find out if he was "emotionally available" (i.e. not in a relationship of ANY kind) or not before politely and thoughtfully letting him know that unfortunately (and with much regret) his relationship status precluded her from going any further. Or she could alternatively of course, cut him down to size and call him a lying cheating bastard who is therefor, by default, exactly the same as the one who cheated on her seven years ago!). I see it as a win/win. The gals still get umpteendoodle messages a day, but the guys may just get to converse with a few women in return! (and the guys who still choose to lie about their status from that point on can just continue on as originally planned!). Obi1
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Obi1Kenietzsche' On a purely customer satisfaction (ergo "money making") basis, if I were the RHP marketing executive, I would abolish the "relationship status" criteria for guys altogether. If that were the case, I would never have joined.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Sir_pumpulous' ...this is RHP. It doesnt matter what your marital status is, your age, your personality, or how witty and clever your profile is. If the girl doesn't find you physically attractive, none of the above will matter to her. Don't believe everything they say...most of it is a moralistic cover-up for the superficial truth (it makes them feel better to reject a guy because he is 'married', when really they just don't like his face)...the girls are just as visual as the guys! Anyway dude, Good luck! I agree. This is RHP. We are all here for a reason. And this is coming from the wife in an open relationship.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not all women object to connecting to married men.but just as there are many reasons for the married,both male snd female seeking sex/intimacy outside of marriage so are there many reasons why single women don't want married men. In the past I have spent time with the attached but it never ended well....guilt,lack of time on their behalf, and always feeling that I was a means to an end rather than any sort of priority....for most women emotional unavailability is important if they are looking for more than a fuck....and surely one of the first questions to be asked if there was no relationship status on profiles . .Are you single ?xxQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi, New to RHP but not the scene as such, my wife sees loads of guys usually from fuck buddy site but we have the odd MMF which is great fun. I would gladly see couples but my partner doesn't like watching me with other females, frustrating but I accept it.She is fine with the concept of me seeing other couples or females but there is little demand I have found. This site will probably be no different from the others we are on. So most of my action is confined to clubs as a request for a spare male over 40 is rarer than rocking horse s##t. ? Im not expecting this site to be any different, although still looking forwards to the next mmf, mmmf etc ,Just my thoughts :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Pink Lotus, Granted and understandable. But the OP (and many other guys, if past threads are any indication) was expressing a wish for some kind (any kind) of action (read: "interaction"). For some RHP guys, a simple affirmation that it is their relationship status, not "them" per say, that is the deal breaker, just might bring a little joy into their worlds. Not all of them have the courage to put themselves out there via the forums (particularly when one reads some if the comments regarding married guys in the past). From a marketing perspective, a little more "interaction" (albeit briefly) couldn't hurt (could it?). X Obi1
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RHP User
11 years ago
Qefenta, you are indeed correct in all aspects regarding your comments. The point I was making was more to do with "customer satisfaction via interaction" regarding RHP guys who are not "single". Everyone has the option to state their preferences/opinions regarding the required relationship status of "contactee's" on their profile page. And yes, the reasons are indeed understandable. If someone (typically male) chooses to ignore that information then they are indeed a dick (although if it were a female contacting a male under the same circumstances, I would not think that many guys would object!). It is commonly expressed here that guys lying about their relationship status is a huge pain in the ass. So is being contacted by guys already in relationships (reading through a few female profiles will verify this!) However, these guys will lie about their status anyway. My point is that on the off chance that a profile catches a woman's attention without him having to join the "wolf pack" then he might just get a message/wink etc, and ergo the interaction. It probably won't get him laid, but it may just keep him sane! 0bi1
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wow, fun morning for all.... However I must say I agree with Obi. If I was a single woman looking for love, attempting to hang on to man long term, this is not the site I would have joined. I understand that the intimacy can bring feelings on, but that leaves those particular woman just as deceiving as the men that lie. Woman should not use sex as a tool to cling on to someone on a swingers site. Using a relationship status as a decoy for a male clearly indicates he is here to swing. LOL - ironic..... our profile says the truth and people shy away..... Men love the fact I am married, honest and can play alone and together, as they know I will not cling onto them, and my husband wont come after them with a bat... It is a relief. Yet being honest doesn't always get you far.... Couples lie too on this site. It is known and commonly complained about that one couple will play completely, but then the female/male all of a sudden is forbidden and sadly has to sit there horny and just watch. I guess we all just have to keep searching, lies or no lies. Emotions or not. THIS IS RHP!!!!!!!! YO(I should write a cheeky rap song for this site!!!!!!!!!!! LOL)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry my opinion was also for pink lotus and Quefenta also xxxxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
If the argument of emotionally unavailable is actually a sign that many of the women - and given it seems to be a majority - actually want a relationship.. Then again it does also question the defining criteria of a relationship; which will be different to all. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yet another couple saying that women should be gagging to have sex with the husband. Erotica, good luck with it. Lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
What are you saying? That if women have to ask a guy about his status it forces some interchange so husbands can feel like thy are getting their monies worth? That is silly and a complete waste of time really.
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RHP User
11 years ago
To the OP...the other problem you don't touch on is your location which is a smallish mining town in a remote region.Bound to be lots of single men about just like here (Mackay,QLD) and not so many single women. Your wife's profile with 93 friends while you have 1 (her) on yours is a good example of the way things are on RHP.Playing together with your wife is probably going to result in more success with the ladies than by yourself.Others have given you advice about more photos etc. Anyway with 3 profiles between you and her and now a thread on the forums you should be busy as can be
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yep, something like that! (silly and a waste of time it may be I agree!). However, I do get the impression that a major gripe amongst guys here is the lack of any wotthy interaction. You do see such themes posted quite a lot. And yes, some ladies (and gents) do give helpful, friendly and even compassionate advice in return to said posts. But to me that is addressing the symptom, not the cause, of this perceived male discontent. The problem may be that many guys simply feel disenchanted by the apparent lack of interest by the opposite sex (and just in case... yep DG...., "boo hoo, harden up princess" etc etc! ;) ) It may be that some guys are complete fuckwits! But I am not necessarily talking about actually "meeting up" with anyone; simply some form of interaction (occasional as it may be) to indeed encourage their continued RHP presence (and expenditure I guess). Yes yes, everyone knows abouit the M:F ratios, the odds, the numbers, the choices etc ctc, and that is not about to change.But other than perhaps in the forums, do many guys feel they have any sort of presence on here? What are the indicators? What would they like? Fake messages like on other sites? Fuck that!Due to certain willy control settings, some guys don't even know if someone has even looked at thier profile let alone shown any interest!. Is there a way to make the RHP experience more interactive and engaging?. There may not be, and there may indeed be an argumernt that there is no need for it, so people (guys in particular) who can't "run with the pack" simply leave. (sniff! guy's have feelings too you know) The recent "calling all..." threads were in my mind quite positve in facilitating involvement, but that is the forums. I would suspect that many guys don't even make it that far. X OBi1 (throwing of all his clothes and running off down the supermarket aisle)
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RHP User
11 years ago
And then there are old chooks like me who will chat to anyone..hugs Q xx
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'Obi1Kenietzsche' X OBi1 (throwing of all his clothes and running off down the supermarket aisle) You just caught Tara's attention Obi1 Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
And hence my presence in the supermarket in the first place! Pssst... at the moment I'm in aisle 7 (batteries and electrical). I'll meet you in the "party goods" section in a sec Ok?
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RHP User
11 years ago
For Christ's sake woman, stop staring at my arse!And no, that wobbling sound is not the bloody trolly! XX Obi1
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Enjoylifealways
11 years ago
I would have meet up for a drink but you live so far from me :(
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Obi1Kenietzsche' And hence my presence in the supermarket in the first place! Pssst... at the moment I'm in aisle 7 (batteries and electrical). I'll meet you in the "party goods" section in a sec Ok? Cleanup in aisle four! (Confetti I mean.)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think personally its really like a supermarket here. And sex sells I guess. Im a smart, successful young guy who is always corteous and professional till the bedroom 😈😈 then Im a different person like we all are. Ive used good pics of myself, cock pics, changed my wording numerous times and never once disrespected another member. Still no luck...... I think if youre not a busy person youll have better luck as working 40+ hrs at a job, plus your own business and 2 kids is a hard juggle leaving the odd playtime date for days off a constant failure. At one point I had we only play separate but I got more enquiries from men wanting a piece of my better half (who now uses another site). So now thats why we consider it 'nunya' and have 'ask me'. At the end of the day its sex were here for and I dont care for the details of your relationship for its less is better in my eyes. But yeah if you wax, go to the gym everyday and have a good budget for tats atleast your hello is sure to get atleast one reply from a vast majority here it would seem. My membership has just lapsed and im not sure Ill be renewing either - might try my luck being a drunk cocky asshole at the club - costs about the same and what Ive seen last few times weve ventured out bad boy tradies with bo, drinking problems and foul mouths are in big demand round here..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'PleasureSelecter' I think personally its really like a supermarket here. And sex sells I guess. Im a smart, successful young guy who is always corteous and professional till the bedroom 😈😈 then Im a different person like we all are. Ive used good pics of myself, cock pics, changed my wording numerous times and never once disrespected another member. Still no luck...... I think if youre not a busy person youll have better luck as working 40+ hrs at a job, plus your own business and 2 kids is a hard juggle leaving the odd playtime date for days off a constant failure. At one point I had we only play separate but I got more enquiries from men wanting a piece of my better half (who now uses another site). So now thats why we consider it 'nunya' and have 'ask me'. At the end of the day its sex were here for and I dont care for the details of your relationship for its less is better in my eyes. But yeah if you wax, go to the gym everyday and have a good budget for tats atleast your hello is sure to get atleast one reply from a vast majority here it would seem. - Posted from rhpmobile I dont waxI dont go to the gym 5 out of 7 days a week.I have just one small tattoo which most people dont notice........ until theyre washing my back in the shower All my messages receive a reply..... so Im not sure what you're sending.There is courteous and professional..... but you wont get to the bedroom unless you compel and inspire someone to reply. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Pleasureselector is married... It reduces his chances with single women to almost nil xxQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
What sex toys are safe for me to use?
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RHP User
11 years ago
New to the forums, hello all :-). This has been a very interesting thread. I have a question for all, related to above discussions: If you have an ongoing "FWB", do you set your status as single or attached? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you are exclusive with the FWB.... I say attachedIf you are not exclusive.... I say single I suggest the fact that you're in here may be the latter.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The short answer is a woman wants it on tap--your married.Also some women don't like married men.
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