M55 F53
How Rude
February 09 2016
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just a thought on how to get around this which I have used in the past. If someone requests to see my private pics then I suggest they should supply their own first as a sign of good faith. Most of the time genuine peeps have already given me access to theirs with the message requesting to see mine. If they are genuine then they shouldn't have a problem with showing theirs first....but if they are picture collectors or not an actual couple ... then they go silent. LG
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SassyRascal
10 years ago
Exactly what Leo said.........If they havent opened their with there message then no I would open mine for them! Then if there is further requests without permissions I would definitely consider the block button! SF
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SassyRascal
10 years ago
If they haven't opened their PG with their message then no I wouldn't open mine!! Sorry for the Whoops
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yep agree with LG 👍😀
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RHP User
10 years ago
Here's where it's different for guests and different when I have my face displayed in public. So example, I get a message with or without pg open. But if I don't get to see their face until I look in their pg, then i'm not attracted, I don't then owe them private pictures. Keep in mind I have 50 pictures in public so they've had a chance to pretty much see all of me anyway. So just a different slant on it that you may not have considered. Guests also can't view nude pics on here so I never get to see them anyway 😯😃
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
There are plenty photo collectors on here. If someone contacts us and asks us to open our private face album, we either remind them that we only (as clearly stated within our profile wording) open our PG to verified profiles or, they need to first open their PG containing face photos of them both together (in one photo ) if they are a "couple". That quickly sorts out the photo collectors who always vanish as quickly as they appeared . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
happens to us all. - Posted from rhpmobile
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UnclaimedPants
10 years ago
I have the solution.... RHP admin take note..... Just add a give access when access granted option to those you want to share your pics with, so both parties have to send at the same time....... oh and you cant rescind said access until after the pics have been viewed - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Worse is when you exchange a few messages, almost at hook up, open pg, they vanish, then you realise you have a friend request from them (don't check friend requests very often), so obviously played me 👎I hate it when they want you on their 'resume/cv' 😎 fuck that 😀 they'd need to do a whole lot more for me to make it onto my friends list. Fuck it's hot, sorry, heatwave in Perth is severe, making me horny though 😁 Lots of ice with the scotch helps 😯
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RHP User
10 years ago
are they cunts?? Yep... Are they entitled to be cunts?? Yep.... People choose how they act.... Therefore....we can choose how we react. So.... If there's nothing in your private gallery that's sensitive and revealing, no harm done really...just remove their access and move on.... I'd also suggest, a little decoy... We have 2 private galleries.... Use one for your suggestive but not revealing tantalisers.... And one for your your real deal stuff...That way you only give access to the teasers, when they ask to test their genuity ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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rupamohan
10 years ago
Our policy is very different to most here. We don't swap pictures. In fact we make it clear we don't have tit for tat or if I do this you do this rules.We choose what we do with our pic. You choose what you do with yours. For example if we send our pic..it has nothing to do you send yours or not. We respect people have different privacy needs and won't force others to show pictures. If there are other reasons for us to be interested in a profile we may go for blind date so long they don't come to meet us with hood over face. However we also respect those for whom swapping pic is a demonstration of faith. In fact we really really hate reciprocal rules. However we do agree can be some reciprocity in any deal. For us it is " I don't do what your girl will not do" . Upfront in the profile. Plus our believe is PIC collectors is highly over rated reason for asking picture and in most cases there are definitely other reasons for not getting response. This reason is over rated simply because this is the most convenient reason and also makes you feel your pic are in demand...which is not likely as anybody can find pics much more attractive then any of us, in tons over the net.
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RHP User
10 years ago
We have 2 PG's, one is showing facial portraits and regular photos showing who we are, the other PG is R rated. So when a couple or a single asks to see our PG we only ever give them access to the regular PG. If there is a request for the R rated PG we politely tell them that access is only ever given to people we have played with, if they persist then we use the block function.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I find that when I send a message I give access to my private gallery as I only have one pic in public. And 9/10 times I never receive a reply. I know I played rugby for years but I do scrub up ok :P Natural :D - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
No its just a cop out. They see your pg, decide that your physical appearance isnt what they are into, so they cease contact. And thats fair enough. A simple polite explanation would be nice, but silence is your answer. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Its a harder dynamics with couples to get all attracted to each other physically.You have 4 people in the mix. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
The imponderable ... There are sooo many reasons for this seemingly rude behaviour ..But one that isn't mentioned often is that sometimes people just don't know what to say if they are no longer interested,they just don't want to offend,so it's easier to say nothing xxFreya
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
We have two private PG's . The one has face photos only and the other has some nude photos. If we decide to open our PG, upon receiving a messaged request to do so, it will only be our face photo PG. The nude album we may only open to those we have met in person.
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
We have two private PG's . The one has face photos only and the other has some nude photos. If we decide to open our PG, upon receiving a messaged request to do so, it will only be our face photo PG. The nude album we may only open to those we have met in person.
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rupamohan
10 years ago
I liked Freya used the word seemingly. In many cultures and specially when dealing with online strangers. For many silence is valid and courteous reply. Technology is allowing us to interact with diverse range of people and we need to accept the difference in interpretation of being rude. However silence has some problems. It doesn't make 100% clear what happened ? Is the other side simply busy? Also if you have interacted for a while and start feeling a connection an abrupt silent makes it uneasy but I still won't feel it to be rude perhaps cold. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
BUT!! If they are asking they should have already coughed up in that message. That's my etiquette expectation. I hate picture collectors. I often open my gallery 1 as soon as I decide to reply to a message. I hope for the same and I am happy to make that explicit if someone's asking for more pictures. I cease contact with many people who message me because they haven't taken the time to upload proper face pics. I think it's unfourtunate but ghosting is a clear no. It saves time. You get to think 'Git' and move on. You can go into your settings and remove people's access too. Take control! My husband and I also have a couple profile. We don't really use it as we find couple to couple relationships really hard to establish. Mutual attraction, bedtime hang ups.... Whatever. It's tricky. I suggest parties. That's when we play together most. You meet other couples to chat to and become friends with. Singles who attend are usually alright sorts too (it depends on you hosts vetting skills). Goodluck. -Longest xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Since I dont have any explicit photos anyway it doesnt phase me too much. But if I did, Id be very careful of who saw them. I once refused to meet a guy who was very pushy in his messages, and he made a comment along the lines of " Wouldnt your son be surprised if he knew his mum was on RHP" He didnt know where I lived but people like that could be dangerous. So handing out photos would only add fuel to the fire. Its a shame some people spoil it for the rest, as I love swapping pics with potential meets, there are some seriously hot pics in some of the guys profiles. Perth is HOT and Im not talking about the weather here!
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UnclaimedPants
10 years ago
Thankyou for all the replies Its mostly just face shots in our PG, and we certainly understand were not everyones cup of tea, manners would be nice is all We organise group get togethers as well social/playtime meets Free plug having one Feb 20 NB To the rude gits....... dont suddenly want to get back in touch now 😆😈 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Scenario 1: I see your pics first and Im not attracted to you so i vanish. Scenario 2: I see yours, ascertain I dont know you or you know my husband, i keep chatting to you and send a pic of myself, and you tell me thanks me but im not your type. Both ended the same, just scenario one means we are both moving on a lot faster and this way, its just assumed I wasnt interested, no need for any explanations!
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RHP User
10 years ago
show us yer tits :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Stirry' show us yer tits :p - Posted from rhpmobile Lol, funny man, I think you have seen enough to last you a while, you know you are very very lucky right.....I always like your direct approach.....no second guessing, its a strange kind of charm.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It seems to be happening more and more. We have been using this site for many years and have had many good times on here. We used to have no problems with opening our PG to anyone that we thought there might be a attraction to and from that we would normally get to see theirs and things would either progress or a polite email saying thanks but no thanks. In the past year or so we have found many people would ask for us to open our PG for them then nothing in reply even after us emailing to follow up just silence. It might be Coeincedence but many of these profiles disappear after a while or become in active which leads us to believe that they have no intention to meet in the first place. For this reason we have not renewed our membership yet. Hopefully it's just a phase and it will return to Genuine couples that really want to meet and have some fun together.
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RedHotCoast
10 years ago
...with what you and the OP have said. It seems to have happened a lot more over the last few years.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Many people were brought up to believe if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. Opening your PG requires a leap of faith but this is part of the adrenalin rush for us. It's a bit like fishing, you cast out your bait and hope for a bite. Sometimes the fish just aren't biting. But then you get a bite and a reply to your message and that's even more scary! Now you get to see what you've caught and occasionally you have to decide for yourself, do you tell them what you really think or do you say nothing at all? Personally we always try to reply but it doesn't always feel very nice, no matter how tactfully you try and word it, so if we ever get radio silence we try to remember how it feels to make that call and we hold no grudges either way. Rupamohan have a great perspective on this. There are heaps of photos on the net for those who want to collect them, although who knows, it could possibly add a touch of spice for a big Ol perve to know they actually made contact with the subject of the photo they have taken to the loo with them 😜
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