M107
High standards or too many options?
January 05 2018
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RHP User
8 years ago
What is happening is that from behind the anonymity of the keyboard real people are disposable.
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RHP User
8 years ago
...that some people, for sure, have set high "standards" for themselves....most people probably admit this.Me too, I think. Though, my "standards" is more along the lines of, "this better not be stressful or too much hard work...because I'm not interested if it is." I'm content. That's enough for me. And, I think, that we are being told to not accept anything but "the best"...that we are worth nothing less because it's not "wrong" to expect "the best."Aren't we supposed to tell our children this...that they can be anyone they want to be, that they can have whatever they want if they really want to strive for it?
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RHP User
8 years ago
. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
Are they just emotionally unavailable (at that time)? I know for me, the right relationships compliment ones life, not make it more difficult. So, I look for relationships with people, just do just that. 😊 Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
Ms Foxy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sail is mostly right It's a PERCEPTION of options But they're not real options - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
There are just so many emotionally unavailable men out there that for any number of reasons (maybe burnt too many times) can not form any kind of relationship other than a physical one. I've met so many who appear interested, we meet a few times, we get on really well and then they turn into Casper. By no means am I a bunny boiler and will never chase down someone that isn't interested but there are so many fucked up men out there that think it's ok to lead someone on and then ghost them. Over it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MissRedFox
8 years ago
Order one up on the Internet, use them once or twice, get bored move on and order something new. I have noticed many men seem to prefer something new regularly or have so many other playmates they don't have time to fit in something regular or meaningful It is as if things that are easily obtained hold little value XX - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
What she said 👍 To respond to the usual cynicism above, big eye roll, firstly the op said after they meet so perception, what perception? My reality, not perception, is that I could get sex at any/every lol moment of the day and night, whenever I like, it's there being served on a plate. Jealous boys? 😉 I think comments like that are just out of spite, particularly when it's not women who are the 'root' cause of this, it is the men who treat us like disposable rags, we're too smart for that. Seriously men need to pull their bloody socks up IMO and start being more open and respectful. They do carry baggage as is highlighted above
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RHP User
8 years ago
Relax, loved your comment lol 😀
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RHP User
8 years ago
of course is when they get older, it comes back to bite them in the face, we're no longer interested in the very type who treated us like shit when they were younger, and now we're supposed to care? I'm burning my bloody bra on this one 😂
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RHP User
8 years ago
Many don't really know what they like or want (no criticism at all as we all go through such times) and that can leave a confused looking path ahead. When we're lucky enough to have a concise idea of our sexual or relationship goals the white noise disappears. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes DG there is many a perception of options. Some are real tho. However, we all percieve differently. 😁 My perception that he is a smart sassy man during chat has sometimes been quite the opposite when we have met. As another poster has said, when you have a concise idea of your sexual and relationship goals..... its much easier. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Supernova
8 years ago
Thanks to online dating sites and apps, its absolutely clear that many people in the dating game have an increased perception of options, and therefore find it very difficult to remain satisfied. It also causes an increased perception of dating market value, I believe... With the knowledge that almost EVERY WOMAN on a dating site is FLOODED with messages, inevitably it seems that some (not all, but quite a lot it seems...) believe they deserve better than what they can offer. Often you see the checklist required to be a eligible man: He must be Tall, handsome, dark features, funny, good morals, close with family, likes dogs (or cats?), has only had x amount of sexual partners (but could easily have had more), doesnt smoke or do drugs, has all his teeth intact, a good job and steady income, drives the right car, and spends his weekend volunteering at puppy adoption farms. Some of these lists are totally unrealistic, especially when the person writing them has NOTHING to offer from themselves?!?! Why do they deserve perfection when they are far from perfect? Internet dating, that's why :) In the old days, a girl might have had to select a few choice men from her life, such as: *The local barista who flirts with her every time she gets her routine morning coffee. *The cute boy she sits next to at university or in the work office who she laughs with all day. *The guy at the gym who she always runs into and has met a few times through mutual friends. But now...these guys above barely stand a chance, because now mystery woman has 500 tinder likes a day, many of them closer, richer, taller, more handsome... Why should she settle for anything less? Perfection is merely a finger-swipe away ;)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Dispose and upgrade... It's the society we live in now. I want a bigger TV, the new game of COD, faster internet speed, him to have deep dark brown eyes, her to have small breasts, him to be emotionally available, if his not I will change that, her to own a brewery and the list goes on. If something or someone does not meet expectations....... dispose. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
There are women out there who find men just as disposable. Unfortunately that is the society we live in.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' Dispose and upgrade... It's the society we live in now. I want a bigger TV, the new game of COD, faster internet speed, him to have deep dark brown eyes, her to have small breasts, him to be emotionally available, if his not I will change that, her to own a brewery and the list goes on. If something or someone does not meet expectations....... dispose. - Posted from rhpmobile I think this is a factor, although how large a factor is open to debate. We live in a disposable society now. My TV is playing up? Don't attempt to fix it, just take it out the tip or put it out on the verge and go buy a new one. I also think the norms of relationships have changed in recent decades. When I was growing up women tended to stick to their men through thick and thin. Divorce, particularly where children were involved, were relatively rare. As the decades have ticked by, women have adopted the attitude (and very rightly so) that you did not have to stay with a man that made you unhappy for the rest of your life - like the days of yore. I remember as a teenager a noticeable increase in friends whose mothers had left their fathers. I think this attitude has also crossed over to men, I can personally vouch for not wanting to hang around when I see the writing on the wall that the relationship is doomed. I could have stayed and attempted to work through things - but that may have worked or it may have not. I personally was not prepared to waste another year or however long trying to flog a dead horse.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Relax, loved your comment lol 😀 ..Yes, mum.
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Makes it so easy to meet people I think we are more disposable and flippant. I’m guilty of it on vanilla dating sites. Also maybe because of what I bring with me from my past relationship. If I get any doubts about a person I jump ship quickly. But sometimes I wonder if that’s just me avoiding intimacy because it’s easier than investing. Or maybe it’s that I know what I want now and would rather be alone than have a compromised relationship? It’s hard to know? I just try to go with my gut with people and why waste their time if I’m not feeling it? I hear the comment a lot it’s easy to meet others but actually connecting on a deeper level is a lot more difficult. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
OP, about 3 years ago, an article on Vogue magazine addressed how casual dating apps have completely changed the dating game. A few generations ago, if young men wanted sex and a family, they'd just have to get married because way back then, moral values were upheld and there were social stigmas attached to behaviours that weren't traditional nor conventional. When casual sex aka NSA, and FWBs which in some instances are thinly-veiled versions of NSAs, men (and women) started to realise that hey, I can fuck them all for free! You could arrange for a different person to fuck every day of the week if it rocks your boat. And at the first sign of trouble, just scoot the hell out and disappear! 😛 Free, easy, no accountability for anything, no divorces, no need to go through the process of discussing any issues, put up with any moods, no need to compromise, etc etc. And, totally no consequences for lying / cheating / witholding information / painting a false portrayal of self, etc. Simply block and disappear at the first signs of trouble. That article put it well - if a woman was is a bad mood, the guy can leave, open the app whilst walking to his car, and by the time he's sitting behind the wheel, he would already have secured his next fuck. Oops, sorry... I meant, next date. 🤣😛 No nasty divorce / breakups. No dramas. No alimony. It's a free and easy Fuck Fest, why not? And the hippies thought they had free love! 🤣 What this does is change the entire nature of relationships. People used to work hard to stay together. Now, they work hard in starting and re- starting and re-re-starting their searches. Ultimately, people become more and more selfish. He/She is "too much work", I have no time for this shit, I just want NSA... Delete! Sadly, we all have bad days and it seems like the pervasive culture now is, you are not allowed to have bad days without being stonewalled/ghosted! 😲😲😲 It's all about the Dick and the Pussy. Who cares about the heart, mind and soul of who they are fucking, right? It's very sad for those of us who have grown up in a different time when values were very different and people were more considerate, compassionate and less selfish, generally speaking of course because assholes appear in every generation too and no one generation is more perfect than the next - just different. Sometimes, people may appear "fussy" / "picky" for various reasons. Maybe it's a defensive mechanism? Maybe they have trust issues after being lied to again and again... and again. Whatever it is, our body, our preferences. Picky or not is our perogative. One person might feel like scum after fucking someone he/she doesn't particularly like. And then there are those who have the capability of fucking anyone and everyone, participate in mass orgies, etc because that's their thing. True, some may appear delusional, wanting the sky when they have scant to offer themselves. But again, their bodies, their lives, their perogatives. I'd rather be in blissful solitude, then let someone in who's going to disrupt and mess up my good mojo. Those of us who are more spiritually attuned would understand the concept of vibrational / energy alignment and such. 😉 Give it a few more years and the growing mass recoil at such a lifestyle might just bring some good ol' values back... or not! 😜 You can certainly see more and more people who have been playing the field end up getting a bit emotionally spent and spiritually empty. The soul desires something more - love, intimacy, devotion. Sooner or later, things will change. Things always come and go in cycles. Let birds of a feather flock together. Likewise, let birds of high standards / pickiness flock together too! 🤣 Live and let live. We just have to find our "tribes". 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
A lot of good responses here. They were interesting to read actually. :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Eloquent as always
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think too much without thinking about thinking! 🤣🤣🤣 I wish I could come out of deep freeze, but I truly do not wish to be a part of this "use and be made use of" culture that's so prevalent these days. 😔😕
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RHP User
8 years ago
Don't know about yourself, but in all the platforms I've tried, never is there likelihood of making a connection in only a few moments (like going to the car). Might be possible if you are texting/messaging an existing contact. Might be all different in the heart of a city CBD though, where choices/searches on such apps are made mainly by proximity? Of course, even in the good old days, the right guy with the right approach could possibly "pick up" at a RL event rather quickly. However the "instant gratification" possibility is certainly what the marketing department of these platforms would like you to believe (including on rhp marketing material). Even if all the profiles listed were honest and real (which is far from the case), it would still represent the pre-existing population of a particular area. It doesn't add new people, it just enables easier contact with them, and information, which would never be practical in the old days without cold cavassing basically everyone you meet/pass. The prospect of choice is more an illusion. Most so if you want every last check box ticked. Meeting in RL meant that you would have to get to know someone, to gauge a list of information about them, and while doing so perhaps build some chemistry, which might lead to you overlook lower priority desires. Now though, that height, hair length, life interest preferences you may have, are already known, and screened out as a potential suitor in a heartbeat. I do think though it has eroded the interest in real life singles events, which even in a regional centre were viable on a regular basis, now much less viable, and if held, attract a much older demographic eg 40s and above. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm not sure the relevance of orgies etc. Especially in this scene. Because it is often the case that swingers will participate in all these things, yet remain trusted and devoted to a very long term partner. Singles at an orgy? I don't think that necessarily reflects on an individual's willingness or capacity to form and stick with the one person either. But I guess a site like this presents opportunities, take them or leave them based on your own persuasions and personal reasons. For all I know, my Miss/Mrs Right might show up when I am 48 and 1/2. My involvement in more "temporary" or less committed relationships (however you might describe them), may simply just be that I would prefer a decades long wait with something more than masturbation in the meantime. Most people who claim to be happily single, I assume have some type of physical contact with their attracted gender, at perhaps even temporary moments, and are not like monks :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
That there is always someone better out there. Then, I'm sorry, but people like that are just shallow knobs. But generally, I think having high standards is a good thing. I also believe that we attract to ourselves what we project out. So knowing your own intentions first and having healthy boundaries will serve you well. It's all a ripple affect and people never meet by accident. The universe has a divine plan. (Even if some go kicking and screaming.) Just remember to be kind and that on the other end of a profile is a real person with a heart and soul just like you.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Lovechild, you didn't address your comment to anyone so I'll assume your "shallow nob" comment was directed at me. Everyone's entitled to their opinions but you seem like a reasonable person so hear me out. I choose to be in deep freeze for a lot of reasons. Spiritually, I do not want to be with someone who won't be able to accept and understand why I do what I do. That will slow down my progress and cause endless frustrations to the other party. And because I've benefitted tremendously from meditation and The Law of Attraction, I'm not about to give it up. Best to walk this journey alone and live freely. Remember the collective taunting I received from two people in here when I talked about how I loved reading Science, Psycholigy and Economics mags for fun? I was being frank and got needlessly slammed for it. 😮😞 (I'm sure none of their kids excel in the academics.) I am that geeky and I'm aware that the majority will not enjoy what I do and the lesser minded will start their mockery and mud-slinging and misinterpret my true passions as arrogance. Jerks... and not of the yummy kind that rhymes with "turkey"! 😝 (Jerky, in case you're wondering). 🤣 In my home, in my private time, I do not wish to have to handle this sort of monkey business. Therefore, to maintain peace at home, I'll either find a fellow geek, a bigger geek, or someone who understands and accepts geeks. Logical, no? I may have preferences, but my relationship history shows that I'm flexible and I compromise all the time. Talking about our ideal dream man is, of course, different from loving in the real world. Shorter, fatter, not fit, non-executive, lowly educated, small dicks, etc. dated them all and had serious LTRs with a few of them. I reserve every right to talk about my ideal man's height, appearance, blah blah blah... In reality, the ideal is just a dream. I make my profile sound snotty to eradicate the crazy deluge of msgs and flirts I used to receive. Once I edited the write-up, the Inbox volume became more controllable, peace! ✌ Might I say that it's a bit insulting to insinuate that I'm living with rose-tinted glasses on? I am not desperate for a relationship. I will have my own home very soon, I'm financially independant, I have my friends and hobbies to keep me busy... so if there's someone in my life, it's going to be because of love and a true enjoyment of their companionship. Outside of that scope, it's just hook-up and FWB, congruent with my newly-adopted White Tigress lifestyle. So... high standards? Yup. Perhaps. But why settle and make-do for a co-dependant relationship when deep in your heart, you know the love isn't there?
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RHP User
8 years ago
At you PurePeony x. Just people in general. LC.
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RHP User
8 years ago
by Lovechild17 as being a very general comment......"If your only motivation is.... That there is always someone better out there. Then, I'm sorry, but people like that are just shallow knobs" .......the word "your" being directed at nobody in particular. If people (anyone and everyone) think that there's always someone better out there in the big wide world, they will never find true happiness or inner peace, will always be unsettled and never have deep, meaningful relationships with anyone. Their loss in life's journey.
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madotara69
8 years ago
Someone better for options ? Mate, I grew up sitting out the back waiting for the next wave, looking in at some fine looking girls swimming or sun-baking, surfing, lifesaving, playing..all up and down the coast. After surfing on any day, I knew many fine girls too, looking at one for the other thinking there's one better out there than them, never entered my mind, had some girlfriends, had some crushes on others. I gave surfing away, knew something was missing, ready to take on the ski slopes of the world as a barman to find the right girl. Landed bartending in a prestige club of a dozen gentlemen that were kind enough to give me the advice to now, true and sound with a promise, only a walk from the beach. "Mado, when you find the girl you will fall in love with, keep her in the centre of your life always, maintain by whatever means as to remind you of this, until it becomes second nature" those men promised we would be happy, successful in this life. Those men kept that promise. I just had to figure out what it would mean for this girl I will fall in love with to be in the centre of my life, our life ? What would make her be my friend always ? That's kept me on my toes for twenty eight years, I respect her, never told her what or not, stood by her decisions, she is her own person and my best friend. Now it's nearly second nature. Tara tells her favourite word is equilibrium, she loves the way it looks, it sounds and everything it means. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
It reminds me of an article published on another site (amm) titled "men need a muse" (can be googled), apparently written from a relationship therapist view, based on her experiences and interviews with men. Your view of having the partner essentially central reflects all it said. I would likely be similar. Of course specific dynamics will vary with other couples. I would like to think that once you find the character/personality in a partner that compliments yourself and your own life, other, smaller and less priority characteristics are of even lesser concern. Some of my family I might be inclined to ditch if they were only casual friends, because of certain attitudes they may hold or have expressed. However, I love them, not despite their imperfections, but because of them. So in the dating world, one will never find a perfect match for yourself in all the checkbox descriptors, but in the connection that builds. Couples will know all about the variety of imperfections each partner has. And obviously they have accepted them. The problem is, in dating, if those imperfections are shown too soon, or even on the profile, there is little chance someone will meet and even start building that connection. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
... almost a decade of my life with someone whom I knew from Day 1 wasn't my "type", neither was I his. We had tumultuous years and peaceful years. In the end, we learnt to love each other and cohabit well. However, when his anger issues resurfaced yet again, I decided to leave. He did thank me for making him a better man but in the end, some incompatibilities and red flags shouldn't have been ignored in the very first place. I've since had a few more relationships and each time, against my instincts, decided to go for it and not write someone off so quickly. With the exception of two ex's, who remain close friends, I regretted wasting each other's time for the other relationships which weren't going to take off anyway because of glaring incompatibilities. For some of us, our high standards are bourne out of heartbreak and fire. We have learnt our lessons from previous failed relationships and have no wish to waste our time nor anyone else's time. We learn from our experiences and our mistakes, and the next time, better decisions and choices ought to be made and it shouldn't be more of the same ol' same ol'. Once bitten, twice shy. 😛 Let those who wish to go around giving everyone who approaches them a fair go do so. And let those who desire to do so be more prudent. You don't hear the high standards / shallow knobs calling the "let's give everyone a fair go otherwise we'd have no one" peeps, indiscriminate / desperate. I'm no angel myself but I'd like to be a bit more tactful and diplomatic... ... ... but I shall make exceptions for a small number, particularly in retaliation. 🤣😛 Look at Mado and Tara! So in love with each other. If Mado had just settled for any of the women he'd met before Tara, they would never have been together! 😉
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madotara69
8 years ago
Well I guess you're right in one sense, our first date Tara didn't show up. The next night I bumped into her and we never dated again. We've just been together ever since. We knew nothing of each other really, I made her a cocktail at a party, her eyes smiled and I got all caught up right then, didn't see her for a couple months after, and after the first date never happened. We just hung out with each other with a bunch of friends that night, snuck out and she reckons it was when I asked if I could kiss her, that was it. Everything after we knew nothing of, I could have fucked it all up if I hadn't put to meaning how important the friends we were then mattered (that's not the easiest to put to words right now, be a book) but for Tara to want to be my friend started with a kiss (yeah righto) Guess I'm asking why can't this happen with someone you don't know yet ? A problem ? IMHO I hope this makes sense in a good way.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Your love story... 😍😍😍 You guys are probably soulmates! Madotara, wish I could have a drink with you guys! I've kissed someone before, my knees almost gave way and my legs turned to jelly and I felt like I was spinning! It just felt... supremely good and absofuckinglutely amazing! 😍 Now THAT is a kiss I'll remember for the rest of my life! 😙
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
But we have varying complicated minds. To satisfy complicated minds, we need to make our life complicated to meet the demands of our mind. A simple life will not cut it as we tend to search to fill in the voids and therefore one partner may not fit the perfect mole. A psychiatrist told me 30 years ago it is perfectly normal not to be genetically suited to a LTR. The sooner society accepts it, maybe we can stop inflicting our children with the brainwashing of the need to couple up to be fully accepted in the social world
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RHP User
8 years ago
Having standards is good and healthy and if they are classified as high standards then so be it but how far do your high standards go before you say to yourself (or other people say it to you) maybe I'm being unrealistic? E.g. there was a news story a couple of years ago about a girl who claimed to have gone on about 100 first dates in two years but none of them interested her enough to turn into second dates. She went on to say there's no good quality men around. To me I think if I went on 100 different dates and none of them satisfied me enough to go even on a second date then maybe the issue is with me. Besides, I wonder how many of her dates felt she lived up to her own high standards? Btw this comment is not having a go at anyone posting on here or any particular gender, I don't know any of you so your standards, however high they may be, are probably reasonable and realistic. However I don't think that's the case for everyone in RL who claim to have high standards, and this applies to both men and women. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
The thing is I, and I'm sure many other women are the same, have become comfortable in my own space, with myself, my freedom & space etc. I have high standards about what I want 'now', and would quite frankly rather stay on my own than put up with 1. Overweight/hairy and being disgusted/repulsed everytime their clothes come off 2. Full of their own self importance, never listen, not curious to ask and learn, hence arrive in their 40's being useless sexually, but hey if you want stamina (shoves his cock in your mouth for 4 hours before he then spends another 4 hours in/out in/out before he cums) and 69 yee hah 😉 3. Don't have children and have zero understanding of how I would die for my kids, that they have priority over him, also zero understanding of why I don't want to force them onto my kids. My kids didn't ask for another parent figure, and I don't intend on giving them one. If men don't understand the brief on that, they can take a hike 4. Bad kisser - staying with a bad kisser will never work, it seems to make everything else bad, has a knock on effect 5. Lack patience/understanding/maturity to deal with things as they come up 6. Jealous. I didn't know how I'd feel about this one but if you're jealous of other men when we're out in public, I can feel your eyes flashing between them and me as they get close, it's probably not going to work for me 7. Monogamous vanilla. Again, it's not that I need to have heaps of different partners ALL the time, but I like the freedom to be able to when I do. After being so open, to be closed off might work for about 5 minutes, but would then go on to end in tears There's more, lots of things, some little things, some big, some compromise don't get me wrong, but I think it's because women get smarter, men get dumber 😂😂
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RHP User
8 years ago
Obviously that was a general sharing of my thoughts in response to your comment, none of it personal to you of course
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RHP User
8 years ago
is there any dogging area in and around melton in vic??
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RHP User
8 years ago
you'd be surprised how many men over 40 fit that brief above. The pool of others is tiny or they're taken. What's left, drop standards or remain single. That's a no brainer for me I'm gonna drop my standards, line up boys 😘
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Sawadee
8 years ago
... the walls get taller ? Criteria is one thing , but if there's one thing that's off putting its when a woman thinks everyone else is here to conform to her opinion or cop the consequences... Wrong ? The reasons ppl are here would differ from person to person, so you can never presume 1 hat fits all... If I read a woman's profile and its full of me me me and I want want want .. then you just lost me , quite simply i don't want to work that hard to try and please someone who doesn't really know them self that well anyway ? However , give me a simple description with a few interesting likes and I'll read on..
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gazpacho
8 years ago
You’re right op, people are far more accessible, potentially, by reason of social media. I’ve discovered like minded people from all over the world in whom something in common is shared. Some of those people I’ve met face to face and many, I have not. What interests me is that, without social media, those inaccessible people would not haveprovided company, when none was accessible. It’s a different kind, a new kind of friendship. As for peeps finding partners on line, well, it’s really common now, right? So it’s not all bad news. What I see mostly is people who build up expectations based on a perception of a profile generated in social media. It’s a glimpse of that person. That’s all. Your expectations must be lowered. Then at least you might get a pleasant surprise when you meet that person! Hugs Gaz
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RHP User
8 years ago
I can appreciate what you're saying, but as I think someone else already mentioned, criteria/preferences are outlined in a profile, sometimes quite extensively, but with the intention of culling incoming messages, or only wanting to connect with someone who at least has some of those qualities. If that is a turn off for you, then the two people aren't suited anyway, both continue happily going about their business. That rarely happens by accident, it's by design. Men can tell us we should drop our standards til they're blue in the face, it won't make any difference, and it shouldn't, our personal choice how we choose to proceed, keeping in mind we're not paid for this service, it's for our enjoyment, hence personal 👍
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RHP User
8 years ago
...whingeing about how other people choose to live their lives, how they decide who they want to sleep with, etc? Our bodies, our decisions, our perogative! Or is that concept too hard to understand? Are men who keep on complaining either: - too lazy to put in much effort and just want selfish sexual gratification without giving anything (eg. time, conversations, etc) in return? Or... - unhappy and sour puss over what or who they can NEVER attain? Maybe just being grouchy old men in general? This site has real women who don't exist merely to fulfill any and all horny men's fantasies. We are all diverse with different preferences. We are all here for different reasons.
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Sawadee
8 years ago
You are looking at this with a woman's prospective , some of which I get , but my comment was made from a males prospective.. It's true ' some females really overdo the criteria thing . Quite simply '. I exercise the choice to move onto a post that's more reader friendly. It gives me a better feel and prompts me to look a little deeper . Besides , if you find a demanding post , you can only imagine what the woman would be like in person..
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think men, in general, work on the premise of catch, fuck and release. We, women, are just getting with the program. Like anything, the more options you have the pickier you get. That would apply to everyone and lots of things, not just online dating.
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RHP User
8 years ago
No, you're wrong about that last bit. I find the opposite, men don't detail what they want, then after meeting them, they can be very vanilla, suffer jealousy etc etc. I on the other hand am very cruisy these days, with the exception of my children who I keep separate and guard fiercely, I don't place demands on a guy after meeting him. The criteria is quite rigid though leading up to meeting, largely because I want to weed out those that aren't on the same page. I'm actually surprised how many men are on this site yet are very old school with relationships and sex. That's not directed at you, just a general observation from the 40+ few I've met. There is more that I can't put on here which would go someway to explain further but the guts of it is how difficult it is to find someone who is open, not jealous, and respectful, who appeals. Not giving up, few sniffs lol happy in the meantime as I know you are 👍
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think inspirit is spot on with the societal thing. Trying to explain this to my niece and nephew of 9 and 5. No longer do most wait for that yo-yo we wanted as there are 100 different versions at $1 instead of the one at $10 you saved your arse off for. I guess some have always had high standards and this will never change but I would think and I hope that most just have likes and dislikes. As far as options go I would have to say yes this ease of perusing and chatting has made a huge difference. I see it as like a party I was once at as a teen. It was a big gate crasher which was fine as it was a three bedroom house with six punks and us five bogan drop outs living in it. I was enjoying a session with a lass when she went to get a drink, didn't come back just someone more interesting in there than me. It is now one big party these days. As far as someone better out there. I see this as a waste of time. If you are always looking for something better you will never find anything that is truly worthwhile. But I will admit I struggle with and very much dislike this fast paced disposable waste of society so I probably have a bit of a bias to start with
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Sawadee
8 years ago
I'm content to accept age and just be my happy self .. Besides ' attraction is in the eyes of the beholder... or in some cases ' in the eyes of the beer holder..
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RHP User
8 years ago
Along these lines. If I may be so blunt, but on something like RHP, it would appear that the same 10 studs are getting to fuck the masses of randy Woman. While the other 1000 blokes get the cold shoulder again and again. You know how every second ladies profile has the same Men profile pics under the friends list. So it would seem the same few Men fuck every second Woman on here. You all putting out to the same Men while limiting you'r options, seeing that you are all so full of shit with such high standards. You know, along the lines of tall, dark and handsome, a chiselled six pack, and the standard 8 inch cock etc. You woman on these dating sites like RHP , are honestly full of yourself's. Keep it up, the same 10 guys are all doing the rounds with every 100 Woman on this site.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Can I suggest how you could potentially be number 11 😂😂 bad joke sorry 😉 but simply adding more 'clear' pictures. The pictures you have are grainy or hazy, pictures like that I never trust. I might have replied if I could see you properly and trusted the vision. But leaving it like it is and then attacking women the way you have, how far do you think that will get you?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Nobody puts peachy in a corner 😀😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
I apologise to everybody for interfering.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes I touch myself. I have still not so much as had my pretty pink cock sucked. No I have not met one Lady of yet still. But that was the first time I have had a little "rant" of my negative opinion of a certain trend that follows with the very vast majority of Lady on RHP. Meanwhile little would any Lady know of what a sex machine I truly am. But. I have flirted you so many times .
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RHP User
8 years ago
Someone is a little grumpy. And you don't have a picture up so why should women respond, especially when they have revealed what they look like for blokes to judge.
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Sawadee
8 years ago
you didn't interfere.. you simply stated what most were thinking...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Have you put me in the corner. I feel blocked. You should allow me to give you oral sex. I will not disappoint.
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RHP User
8 years ago
My hope was an end to it here. I've had enough now, as have everyone else, as of yesterday. Peachy
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Sawadee
8 years ago
I'm agreeing with you once again.. Let sleeping dogs sleep...
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