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Hickeys - acceptable or not
April 10 2017
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RHP User
9 years ago
If it's only a slight mark and not very visible I wouldn't be too concerned. If you think it's noticeable it really is up to you if you cover it up or not, but I don't see any need for it to disrupt your life and plans. Personally, if I was in a workplace or other professional type setting then yes I would cover it up, but seriously if a guy you're meeting on a casual basis judges you negatively because of a hickey on your neck then IMO he's really not someone you want to waste your time on. I don't see why it should matter at all that you're single either. Most people these days accept that single people are perfectly entitled to a sex life and any normal, reasonable guy that is meeting you with the hope of getting you naked would, I hope, understand that you haven't been keeping yourself chaste all this time just for him. I've occasionally ended up with hickeys, I seem to mark fairly easily and even gentle teeth grazing on my neck has left marks. I know it can seem a bit embarrassing but as I've ended up telling myself, it's a reminder of (hopefully) a good time and why the hell should I be embarrassed because someone might work out that I recently had sex. Also, something else I remind myself of is that the majority of people are so caught up in themselves that they rarely notice these things about ourselves that we think are flashing a neon sign saying 'look at me!'. So, my advice is don't stress about it, buy a cheap concealer if you need to / want to, and just keep on doing all the things you were planning on doing and meeting the people you were planning on meeting.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I find it so amusing to look back at younger times when it was all about long pash session and the pride some held in a hickey. Not so much as you get older though can look a little out of place if it is too strong a mark. If you or your partner enjoy this find areas that are not so visible. Chest, backside, inner thigh etc. It is rather enjoyable from memory . Cheers
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RHP User
9 years ago
Is being bitten and bruised up by sexy bites ... I've not had them too visible mostly (I did once have to buy a scarfe from the airport to hide a hickey from the kids), hubby may have been incredibly turned on by that lol:) I'm careful when I play with people to not go too hard. My neck is seriously my sexiest erogenous zone, I'm putty when I'm kissed, bitten or choked lol. Bruises are inevitable. I think if you've got a chain of hickeys it's far more deliberate and can be tacky but things happen and some people bruise with a more passionate kiss on their neck. Each to their own though :) Mary xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
That the mark I have is roughly the size of a 5c piece maybe smaller. Being single versus being in a relationship was that only to me I feel like I had the blanket of a relationship giving me security against judgement but yes your absolutely right, single people have sex too! 😂 Thanks for your wonderful insight ms_dragon it's much appreciated. And thanks to other posters as well :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I promise to make sure they always in places not seen by the public... BUT.. I digress..... I don't have an issue with them.. either on my own skin.. OR on a female..I LOVE the feeling of them..I have scars from teeth.. AND from other forms of sexual behaviour, somewhat shunned.. and POSSIBLY even illegal..and I don't have issues with THAT either..I have left scars on people performing their (OK.. OURS too) sick and perverted kinks.. and honestly??FCK anyone who has issues with that..FCK anyone who has issues with Hickies too.. NOW KAY.... IF you ever find you are having trouble getting someone to mark you.. call me eh... I don't live that far from you....
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RHP User
9 years ago
You never cease to make me laugh 😂 your hilarious x love it - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Don't really care for hickeys, I don't care what others do I just don't like to see them if they are all over people's necks - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Of Hickies. I've got very sensitive skin and bruises easily. Also the bruises seem to heal a lot longer than most people. If I get one visible, by mistake after a night of passion with men, I'm not happy about it as I have to cover it up with tons of make up and scarves. Too much trouble and not too professional looking at work. So for me, no thanks.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Loved them when I was young, not heaps but one was a mark that made you his, seemed kinky in those naive heady days lol 😀 hard for me to comment now though, haven't had any recent experience with them 😊
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RHP User
9 years ago
Particularly if they are visible. I find them childish.
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RHP User
9 years ago
A hickey is sucking on flesh till a "bruise" is raised. I'm not a fan of those. You can suck on something else tho....in fact a few things spring to mind... Now biting....that a a whole different thing. 👅 - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
9 years ago
We would not find it acceptable, to be given one, by anyone during a play session, or in fact ever. Certainly not as adults. Best reserved for ones teenage years, in our opinion 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's up to the individual but I don't like them. The sight of them doesn't bother me as long as they're not on me. It's a little like piercings or tattoos. Some like them and some some don't.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I've been known to give one to my sexy wife, in the heat of the moment, on the breast or neck. When it happens I just can't help doing it and I don't think she minds it either, although I'm sure they're a bitch to cover for work the next few days or week. I'm guessing the very occasional bite marks may be harder to conceal though!
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RHP User
9 years ago
When I'm in a relationship, I don't mind hickies, but not on areas of high visibility, eg the neck. It gets hard camouflaging them well for the workplace and it takes up extra time in the crazy morning rush to do it well so I am not fond of hickies on the neck. If I am vacation, then ah... it's a totally different context altogether! If I were meeting someone for a liaison and they had hickies from their other lovers, I'd be put off by it. Whilst I understand that we aren't in any exclusive arrangement, and we both might have other FWB's and all that jazz, I don't need that to be in-my-face obvious. I find that too crass. Not my cuppa tea. There are folks who get turned on by that though, so different strokes for different folks. Just go with whoever's on the same page as you are.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm not a fan of visible hickeys either. I too bruise easily. And half the time don't realise or remember how I got some bruises!I don't mind the hidden bruises or small marks from a good time...they're a sexy reminder after the fact.
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RHP User
9 years ago
To be bitten,it's the whole pleasure pain thing particularly on my neck at the top of the spine.But I also enjoy being bitten in other places as well..The small purple marks remind me of beautiful purple panies.Q
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