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August 20 2017

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Hi 😘 Right to all you rookies out there, I'd like this topic to act as a portal of sorts to offer advice to people new to the site, partly prompted by contact I get from newbies who aren't aware of my limitations as a guest, but also because there things I never knew when I joined, that would have been helpful to know at the time. So open to newbies or anyone who has questions about the use of the site. I'm no expert, but between us, we'll figure it out lol wealth of knowledge around the forum with things I'm not familiar with re chatroom etc So I'll start with just a few recent things that have come up in flirts. Now back to being a guest, newbies might not realise the following> As a guest...... 1. I can't message you, I can only flirt with you, unless you're a platinum member I think, sending a flirt saying 'please message me, I'm keen' is fruitless because I can't 2. If you have one or more restricted pictures (nude or showing privates lol) what I see at my end is nothing as in I see a site generic picture, but I can't see you at all. I would love to be able to see your nude self, but I can't, hence I don't reply to anyone I can't see. You could be exactly what I'm looking for but without other pictures, the opportunity can be missed, not just with me but with any guest members you contact 3. Chatroom - had a flirt request to meet in the chatroom but again, as a guest I can't do that. I don't like chatrooms anyway but for those who do, guests can't go in there 4. Be aware that women, and men, have to protect their security so the more open you are with your profile, within reason, I do understand privacy needs vary between individuals, but it helps develop early trust if you put more effort into your profile. I read one tonight that had me from hello. It was him, profiles should tell us something about you and yes fill out all the stats, we need to see them. It might not matter to you that you're 5"2 but to a 6" woman who requests taller, it will matter. Stats are important and often overlooked. Add enough pictures that look current and real, I'd hate to know how many times I've backed out of a profile because the picture/s look like chopped down pictures from your past, glimpse of the wife still in the picture lol and quite often huge variances with facial hair, body weight, age, like a scrapbook of your life. All great, but we need to know what you look like now and again, develop that early trust 5. There are forum guidelines. The biggest one for me is privacy. Never ever ever out personal information you either know or think you know about people. There is no excuse for that, it is a low act and unforgivable. Devastating for the person on the receiving end, so never cross that line. It is a public forum and that needs to be kept in mind. Having said that, I'm not pretending to be perfect either but never crossed that line, never will Okaaaaaay that last one was a bit serious 😜 so any questions you have, ask away, and inviting responses from anyone who thinks they can help. Along the way, we learn a little more ourselves 😯

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  • LetsFrolic

    LetsFrolic

    8 years ago

    Might be if someone sends you a message and you're a guest you can reply to that message.. no need to keep asking to have a message sent to you - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • karma_kid

    karma_kid

    8 years ago

    Thanks I_touch_myself2 still a bit of a newbie myself. There's some good advice to work with for profile and approaching peeps. Still need to work on my initial contact message I think, based on success so far lol 😉. Cheers. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    It's tough to find compatible people, more so for men. I hope it goes better for you 👍

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  • karma_kid

    karma_kid

    8 years ago

    Thanks 😘 yeah I'll persevere, maybe be less polite and cheekily with the opening gambit!! Lol Think hitting the meet and greets will help show that I'm genuine too. Cheers. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I am so new here it's not funny, so a lot of good info Touch, thank you.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I wrote that in a bit of a hurry, just to kick start thoughts and questions. Adding and removing access to private albums or pg's can be confusing for newbies, particularly removing access so I'll explain that now. So we can give access to anyone, the two private albums might have nudes in one, face pictures in the other, or they might be empty but used exclusively to add a particular picture for someone, a picture you might not want everyone to see. You also might want to remove access and delete the picture after they've seen it, special verification puctures for example. So here's how you give access and remove it if you want to. Others can correct me if I miss anything here. I also use the classic site, not the mobile app so it may display differently on that 1. To give access to a pg, when you message them, just above the text box, on the right side, is a drop down menu where you can select/tick which pg you want to open, or both if you want to. Once you've done that and typed your message, then send the message and they will have access 2. If at any time you want to remove access, you need to go into your lists. On the classic site, at the very top right corner of your screen, you'll see a black square near your profile name, click on that which acts as a dropdown menu, you will then be able to select lists. When that opens, you'll have all your lists, hot lists, block list, who viewed you etc and private album access list, you can go in there, select the ones you want to remove, and confirm when it prompts you to. Done! And I just learnt something. I didn't know videos could be exchanged. I've never taken any notice of that before. It must be for platinum or premium plus members? Maybe someone can enlighten me there 😊 Blocking someone will also automatically remove access to your entire profile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    lol less polite, you must have been reading my posts 😉

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    And what advantages does the high end membership have - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I'm sorry, I didn't see your comment when you posted it. I see you've now updated to premium, a good move. I was a premium member and found 5 messages a day was adequate for my needs. It does make you fussy who you use those messages on, but that's not a bad thing. Definitely think for men, having the ability to message will help you no end. So how are you finding your experience here? Any more questions, fire away 😀 Welcome btw

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I wanted to talk about emoticons in profiles. Newbies might wonder why text within profiles is often followed by 2 or more question marks. Emoticons are replaced with question marks, annoying. I managed to copy and paste one in my profile. My other attempts failed, though I might be missing something. I've seen them in other profiles. But that's why you'll see so many question marks 😃

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Done on my mobile using the full classic site, probably different on a computer

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    How do gingers go on this site lol. We have such a bad rep - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • bonefide

    bonefide

    8 years ago

    Thanks for the info hindsight is a wonderful thing. Found your to be a great word smith ref explainations. Unsure if I've crossed any lines but if I have I apoligise, newbies mistake.

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  • Openminded45

    Openminded45

    8 years ago

    We are newbies and have been on the site a month now and had our first experience last weekend (which was amazing and went beyond our expectations!). We quickly worked out we're OK with full swap but are wondering what people mean when they write "looking for play meet only"- does that mean soft swap, no penetration or is it another way of saying not looking for friends just looking for some action??

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Thank you so much for this thread, it's so appreciated! Question though, and it's more a manners thing.... Would it be considered poor form to ask someone how many people they've met on rhp? It jarred me when it happened earlier today with someone I just started chatting with and now I don't know how to respond because I would assume most people are adult enough not to care??? I may be reading more into this than he meant but it seemed like a lead in to passing judgement. A swift "none of your business" was my initial reaction but I held back. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • Chubsters

    Chubsters

    8 years ago

    Hi.. I am a newbie and have a question. Hope it is okay to post here. My partner and I were looking at uprgrading (we currently don’t pay), we noticed on each one it gave you a limit of messages. I was just wondering if someone could explain it. We weren’t sure if it meant every time you message someone or if it meant you could message 5 people and continuing talking Sorry again if I can’t post here. Thanks. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • EarthQueen

    EarthQueen

    8 years ago

    If you block someone can they still see your forum posts?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Yes, they can still see your posts. Your posts won't show on their homepage stream, but if they go to a particular forum topic that you've posted or posted in, they be able to see those.

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  • Hawt1

    Hawt1

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'tasandtrav' Hi.. I am a newbie and have a question. Hope it is okay to post here. My partner and I were looking at uprgrading (we currently don’t pay), we noticed on each one it gave you a limit of messages. I was just wondering if someone could explain it. We weren’t sure if it meant every time you message someone or if it meant you could message 5 people and continuing talking Sorry again if I can’t post here. Thanks. - Posted from rhpmobile Hallo, Yes you can send 5 brand new messages per day, if they reply then you can reply without it counting against your total and the conversation can continue indefinitely. Provided the "Reply" button is used. Anything else is a new message used up from your quota. Hope that clears it up... and Welcome :)

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  • Hawt1

    Hawt1

    8 years ago

    Good idea this thread... I forgot to ask, open for all veterans to advise?Ooops

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  • Chubsters

    Chubsters

    8 years ago

    Thanks for clearing that up. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Im still relatively new but I'm finding a lot of profiles either dont reply or are fakes. Im ok with people not finding a connection /attraction with me but there is a lot that I dont hear back from. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    So If I am a premium or premium plus member and I contact a guest can they reply to me?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    As a premium memberYou get to send 5 messages which can be sent back and forth as often as you both want to. Best advice I hear is to not leave the back and forthing too long before catching up. Peachy

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    one year ago

    True

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