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Friends With Benefits
March 08 2017
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RHP User
9 years ago
They were guys I saw on a casual basis but each of them were a bit special to me. We saw other people when we didnt see each other. We did other things apart from just sex. I met them first of all because there was an initial attraction when we talked through messaging. None of them were random. I know some amazing guys from this site and they all made me happy and were really good to me. Ive been extremely lucky, especially an old duck like myself! (Mr and I started out as FWB.) I always went for younger guys to ensure nothing serious could ever evolve. Its a great mutual agreement .....friends who have great sex. Im all for it and have grown sexually from each experience and also learned a lot non sexually from the different guys I met. I wouldnt change a thing xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
A friend with benefits is someone who is obligation free to me and who I would not consider being in a relationship with but was happy to hang with and finish up with sex. Obviously this is different for everyone just my opinion. I always get a little confused as to what lines you cross or don't cross to know what you actually are to the other person. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think fwb is danger Will Robinson, for men. Yes there are a portion of women who want casual only, specifically poly or married etc but a lot of women want it to be a proper relationship, hide behind the fwb but not being honest about what they really want. If you're single and so are they, given that many women want exclusive, along with dinner/dates/frequent time etc isn't that a relationship ie a regular relationship? Danger Will Robinson 😀 I have a friend who I've fallen for before, but following a broken heart, establishing he's a player, and telling him, he agreed lol 😀 now we're we're happy fuckers 😉 go figure I prefer fb because it's casual, not a disguised relationship, and gets straight to having sex, which is what I want, regardless of whether I end up in a relationship, I'll continue being a happy little fucker and sharing myself and him with others concurrently 😯
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think it would differ not only for different people, but also for different situations for a particular person. I've had 4 FWBs, and there were all unique in what went on, the boundaries, and how they ended. The only commonality is that there was no monogamy. One was more about the friendship, than the sex, and one was far more about the sex than the friendship. The other two were in the middle. One ended because it was a clusterfuck, one faded, one because he moved overseas, and the other... we will see. Two of them I knew what else they were getting up to, who else they were fucking and dating. The other two I didn't know, nor they of me. I think it is an arrangement that can be defined in anyway that suits the two people. It's not a one size fits all arrangement.
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Definitely define it how you want to have that 'relationship' for lack of.better word. I have a few fwbs. And I'm sure they have multiple took. Monogamy is not part of the equation for me. Not sure how that would work in a non committed relationship as.fwb. Essentially, I spend time with them as friends, hang out for drinks or dinner or checking out music scene in Melbourne. Or activities around their city. Common thread, we enjoy each other's company and sex. It could be ongoing or short lived. It's like any other friendship with the benefits of sex, hot sex I.hope. 😉 keep having fun.😊
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RHP User
9 years ago
As has been mentioned it varies quite a bit, the rules are what you make them, I look at it like a girlfriend in monogamous relationships and a pretend girlfriend where it's not. You do stuff that girlfriends and boyfriends do, but the sex is still the driver.
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Sawadee
9 years ago
Was at a BBQ last year chatting with lady friend about oral sex when she suddenly tells me she's feeling horny and wants to fuck... So we did.. back at her place. No obligations, no emotional attachments , just a mutual sexy time..
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RHP User
9 years ago
To me it's casual sex without a monogamous relationship or any kind of commitment. I like my FWB relationship to be purely based on having a satisfying sexual experience, it's important to Me to make pleasure a priority for both of us.... he "gets off" and so do I! I've had times where either myself or the FWB have developed more feelings and I need to remind myself or remind him that this is just sex and it's also the easiest rule to remember but the hardest rule to follow sometimes. It's normal to sometimes start to have feelings in the affectionate bond you've got going and feelings start to happen. If it happens to me I bitch slap myself lol It's what works for you. Every FWB relationship will have it's own rules. Do what feels right for you. For me I don't dinner. I don't want sleepovers. I don't want a commitment. I want sex. Loud, passionate, mind blowing orgasmic sex! Leave everything eles at the door.... Simply not intrested! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Someone looking for a booty call as others have mentioned above. Usually in/out and wipe your dick on the curtains on the way out. lol 😉😂 A real fwb is someone you have known for awhile that you actually care for. (FRIEND) The rest are just a fuck you meet occasionally when your horny. Only difference is your not paying them a service fee. From my experience all but 1 maybe 2 women I've meet here on rhp have wanted a relationship.Most women usually want a fuck then go back to there ex husband or boyfriend in time. Which they fail to let you know initially. Sorry if that sounds jaded and I'm sure blokes do the same. Lucky I've just meet someone recently who's intrested in actually spending time with me and enjoys my company other then my cock. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
FWB simply describes a friend.... someone you are comfortable with on a platonic level and attracted enough to on a sexual level to have the occasional night out with extras :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Exactly. I don't want a committed relationship with them. Yes, I treat my fwb more than just cocks I enjoy and do really enjoy their company. I love the banter, discussions over wine and having a wing man if needed. 😀
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Dirtyandfriendly
9 years ago
You hangout and fuck, no obligation to go to family events, know what you are doing 24/7 and not committed to each other. To me anyway
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's just a word or term just like someone saying I'm hunting cougars. Not really worthy of getting upset about. And calling someone a lover who is just a fuck is only taking away the true meaning of the word Love. Because it ain't Love ??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
The term Fwb is applied to fucking your friend. If your not fucking them then there just a friend. 😉😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
9 years ago
We have become good friends, with 2 couples we met via this site. We see them often for dinner , BBQ etc, and now and then have a "play". That's what FWB means to us - Posted from rhpmobile
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Katkat
9 years ago
Who I keep going back to for the past 9 months somehow we feel we have a deep connection we are compatible in so many ways the only problem is he's younger like 25 & im 36 so there is a big age difference there. He's been with so many women previously but he says he never comes back to them only me. He's my first FWB we do dinner, movies, shopping, I even cook for him if we get a chance but sex is mind blowing & we go all night long 😀🙌💦 Yes feelings do grow & more but I guess everyone just needs to be mindful what they're getting into. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't understand why it matters if they return to an ex if it's a friend with benefits? I am trying to understand what would make it an issue if there is no commitment in the relationship? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
So I see that there is a broad definition with commonalities of no monogamy some like to spend time together others it is a sexual experience. Does anyone talk this out at the start or does it just develop? - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
9 years ago
I only seek Fwb and clearly stipulate that on my profile. When in contact with someone, I reiterate that and then I hammer it in again if or when we meet for drinks. Lol. I can't stress it enough to make sure we are on the same page on what we are looking for. The person really only becomes a fwb, in reality, if you get to see him/her more than once and meets are ongoing. Frequency is decided by both of you. For example, I have 2 interstate fwbs. I met them when I was travelling for work to their states. Dinners and drinks and fun. All good. Great thing is that one moved to the same state as my other fwb. I try to catch up with both when I travel to their state. Separately. With both we are in continual contact via phone or kik maybe once every 2-3 months. It's ongoing from the start, 2.5 years now. No commitments, but some shared friendship. A fwb becomes an ex when you stop seeing him or her for any reason whatsoever. So any physical contact ceases and likely, the friendship as well. It happens all the time
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Lovinit28andKC72
9 years ago
If I'm calling someone a FWB, then firstly you'd be a friend, then to make that friendship a little more beneficial we throw in the sex part of it, then you have a FWB. I used to call people I played with, playmates or lovers, I need really used the terms FWB OR FB. Playmates were more of a casual arrangement, lovers were more of a regular arrangement.💋
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RHP User
9 years ago
Nothing wrong with going back to a husband/wife,boyfriend or girlfriend if that's what is arranged and everyone is happy with the arrangements 😎 I just it hilarious that people get offended so quickly by a word or term. Each to there own on there own interpretation on what a fwb because unless a friendship is formed to a degree in ain't fucking you 😉😂😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Nor is it cool to have a go at a 19 year old because you don't like his phrase of words. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
No 19 year old has commented on this thread, nor has Meander had a go at anyone on the thread. I have a feeling you're mixing this one up with the cougar topic. Might want to pull your head in a little.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Read this on a couple's profile "we are searching for playmates that may lead to friendship" 😛
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RHP User
9 years ago
The term lover and am very straight forward about what I want, so there isn't any confusion. Think everyone has their own interpretation of the various terms, so best to clarify rather than assume you are on the same page.
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johnisfun3
9 years ago
I did not think this would be so complicated. Friends with benefits i.e you are friend with this person who you enjoy spending time and your relationship is mutually beneficial where you get off also and there is no commitment. Whether you call them fuck buddies or anything else unless you like them as a person you may not see them again is it not.
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MissBishere
9 years ago
With a fuck right about now... 😂 Have had fuck buddies to me that's nothing more than you hook up when you have time and fuck. I would like a fwb that involved some social aspects without the monogamous commitment. I guess for me it's really more the boyfriend experience when we are together and some semi regular communication in between times together.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Call it whatever name you like At the the end of the day if you like someone and there company then call them by there name and treat them as you'd like to be treated. Sorry Ms Dragon and Mender for mixing threads. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
If she's smelling like fish for breakfast I'd be concerned lol 😉😉😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
For mine, a FWB is first and foremost, a friend. By that I mean someone you'll hang out with, grab dinner with, see a movie with. Basically whatever you'd do with a mate. It's just that on top of that you'll have sex together occasionally. Whereas, a fuck buddy is one where you pretty much just get together to have sex with one another. I've experienced both.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I may see things slightly different to some. But for me FWB is someone who I respect and want to spend time with enjoying outings and chats just as I would my friends outside here. But we both are happy to satisfy each others carnal urges... as we all have. I need to have a deeper connection as it has always been the only way I will let my carnal self out. Rather have a wank frankly and might as well be NSA for me 'cause without that connection I have no interest.
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