M46
Follow up courtesy.
November 19 2016
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RHP User
9 years ago
Then they're not compatible with you are they?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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TouchU
9 years ago
The banter seems to flow and like Melbourne weather it changes without any reason
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RHP User
9 years ago
you ghosted me, you didn't reply to my last message lol and worse, it was after I sent more pictures ahaha I'm a big girl, I can take it
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RHP User
9 years ago
Do you wait to show your face OP?..I am sure that you have a pretty face but sometimes if the face doesn't match the picture someone has in their mind after chatting for a while then phttt they may disappear without saying a word.Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
But assuming it's credible...... Sounds like it's you that changes not them.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's credible but to be fair, just some long distance chat, not the same as local connections
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RHP User
9 years ago
can I just chase that by saying, hell of a nice guy, I'm surprised this is happening to you and sorry to hear that
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RHP User
9 years ago
Because I really don't want to interact with people without face pics in there private galleries . No pics no chat sorry . What's the difference between sending pics through phone , email etc . If you want banter with people you never want to meet that's cool , if your genuinally want to met people face to face that's when you need the piccies up even for friendship or more . It's just the way I feel .. I hope this helps again 😀
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RHP User
9 years ago
getting back on topic, I'm really bad for ghosting. I can't help it, if I start to hesitate or get a bad feeling, sometimes just inconsistencies either with pictures or things that are said, I back off. I do it a lot and it's something I need to work on. I was just looking back through old text messages and I came across one guy who I either ghosted or cut off communication with because I thought his picture by text looked different to his pic on here, he looked younger on here, but he's bloody hot wtf was i thinking. A lot of guys put really old pictures up so if I see they've done that, i start to wonder what else they're lying about, so I guess that's why I didn't get back to that guy, but I'm now thinking I do want to meet him lol Wonder if it's too late after 6 months or so I had a guy contact me after about that long and rejected him with the reasoning that if it took him 6 months to get back to me, he can't have been turned on by me. I now realise how stupid that was because we all change along the way and sometimes there are one or two who monopolise your time, or a whole host of other variables, busy with work and life, and if they're interested now, who cares about the time in between. I was fussing over the detail. Anyway, dribbling on but I ghost to avoid conflict or to avoid offending with direct comments, and sometimes because I don't like the pg pics, but that's only when they're vastly different or a whole different person appears before my eyes. Some get blocked at that point. But you'll never really know why you're being ghosted. You could try asking them, but unlikely you would get a reply
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RHP User
9 years ago
??? When do you show people your face ? You have zero pics in your private gallery just courius to know You have met wonderful people which is fantastic I would just like to know your process and how you go about it ? I defiantly would not met a guy with the describtion of I'm wearing denim jeans with a white shirt see me then . Sorry I'm not picking on you just people on a whole that just don't have photos .
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RHP User
9 years ago
after reading Pink's comment, I realised we had extensive communications, during which time I sent you lots of sexy pics, and my face was on here so you had clear vision of me. All I saw of you were the ones you still have on here (3 but 2 are the same) and one other that was a dark nude looking down your body, not a clear picture at all and never ever got to see your face. I can see a bit of a pattern here. I don't even communicate with people anymore without trusting their vision and getting a good look at them, let alone meet them without seeing them, so there's you answer. You slipped through my filter there, but I never let that happen normally, just sayin
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TouchU
9 years ago
I do provide a face pic once a couple of massages have been exchanged.
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TouchU
9 years ago
Yes of course once a connection is established
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RHP User
9 years ago
Get the message?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'TouchU' I do provide a face pic once a couple of massages have been exchanged. then how did you never get one to me? Our messaging went way past a few messages, from memory we even spoke on the phone, but the message thread is really long, why didn't you show yourself?
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Sawadee
9 years ago
I only get access to the generic one liners that don't excite me at all.. So I just fade away hopeing the lady doesn't take it personally...
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
2 possible. As Pink said, no hint of a face shot in your private album and many will move on, too time consuming to try and pry one out when they have so many to choose from with pics. The other as you allude to, are not attracted when they do see your face. They move on. If they have nothing nice to say, then say nothing. Polite. And I do remember this subject from an earlier thread you put up about the same subject. And similar advice given and things in your profile haven't changed. Good to see you taking advice of the forum.........just wasting our time
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hmm... ghosting can be confusing and somewhat painful especially if there had been a good chat going just prior to the sudden silence and avoidance. One minute, you are potential friends / FWB's and the next minute, sudden death. I've been on both sides of the fence though, and I no longer take ghosting personally. Sometimes, people disappear because of any of a long list of reasons that others have already listed here. It could be you; it could be them; it could be a combination of both. I've ghosted people before when I'm fuming mad at something they've said / done / not done and find myself not ready to talk and reconcile yet or am not sure I want to reconcile. Some things hurt you to the core and are absolute deal breakers. Other times I've ghosted people on this site because of a jarring physical-personality disconnect, aka I'm very visual and I just couldn't dig the persons' physical appearance and I can't see myself going forward. People who are too clingy / sticky beak / manipulative or who set my alarm bells blaring because of whatever my sixth sense has detected will trigger ghosting. Whatever reasons people have for ghosting you, trivial or otherwise, learn not to let it get to you. Just let it go. Over the years, two things occurred that made me pretty immune to the pain that ghosting may trigger : - a healthy self-image and a growing love of self; and - being surrounded by friends and colleagues who love me and receiving positive affirmations from people, including those from strangers, eg. Clients, cashiers, wait staff, strangers on public transport, etc. Once you glow with this confidence and self-love, you sorta radiate good vibes. It doesn't stop ghosting from occurring but you no longer get negatively affected by it. It's not necessarily a rejection of you or a reflection that something is "wrong" with you. It just is. Sometimes, the other party has issues or may be facing tough life circumstances we know nothing about. Whatever it is, if it was meant to be, nothing can separate you. If it wasn't meant to be, let it go with no ill will, but with goodwill and blessings. I no longer fret as much as I used to about other people's actions and/or reactions, which I have no control over. Rather, I've learnt to let go, release all expectations I might have had, and look forward to meeting people who are meant to be with me on my life's journey and I with theirs. It's so much better to freely receive what is freely given. :D Don't force destiny. ;)
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RHP User
9 years ago
People that post on their profile... " please don't be offended but will only except friends requests from people who i have met". These same people have excepted a request from us without meeting then dropped all communication. We even messaged them saying if you don't wish to chat please drop us as a friend, message was read and guess what; still friends!!!! hahaha😃
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RHP User
9 years ago
Mrs D did exchange some messages with you 6 months ago, you disappeared for a while for personal reasons and then we took a break and deactivated for a few months also for personal reasons. You've sent some messages since we got back on and sent a photo via email but there are 3 guys and 1 woman in the photo and no explanation of which one might be you? We're guessing it's not the woman. (Hopefully they all don't mind you sharing their faces with strangers). This frustrated my gorgeous wife and she lost interest, we have limited time due a very busy "real life" and there's always other active email contacts that might be easier to communicate with. Unfortunately no reply is a reply when it all gets too hard. Mr D
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twowithnolimits
9 years ago
Sadly the issue for us was that you wanted only a woman for yourselves..we always shy away from one sided arrangments maybe others do too?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Twowithnolimits. Hi guy's, great profile, I think that you messaged us, if i remember correctly, jees that must have been ages ago though, maybe circumstances were different then? Don't known, who cares anway. The issue for us is people excepting friends requests and we don't remember sending you one! Once they become a friend you don't get any responses back from any messages. Fucken shits us! We even messaged saying if you don't care to reply kindly remove yourself as a friend. They obviously have read message but continue to keep us as a friend? So couples play together, some play apart, each to themselves, its not selfish its who we are! 😆
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'spankthatbum'Once they become a friend you don't get any responses back from any messages. Fucken shits us! We even messaged saying if you don't care to reply kindly remove yourself as a friend. They obviously have read message but continue to keep us as a friend? Why not just delete them from your friend list yourself? Why do you need to wait for them to do it?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sorry almost a screwup lol Don't sress about worrying about the obviously bad occasions with Rhp I'm guessing you will have worse happen to you at your local. I'm shy but I've found Rhp people a lot more tolerant than reality. We are all at different stages of life and circumstance and when we get older we've been there done that so maybe a little bit harder than we should be !! See through that and you will make some great friends. End of sermon Cheers Courtney - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Definitely not.....you're hot 😊
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RHP User
9 years ago
Lucky Dragon. You are right👍 and yes we have done so, its more of a test, almost a game to gauge just how shallow someone can be. Narcissistic behaviour at its best!!
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