First time nerves

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Maybe the F is just not ready. I think you should probably meet with someone first in a social setting. Maybe meet for a drink but stipulate it is just to meet. No play. That way Everyone can feel more comfortable with each other first without the constant worry about how or what will happen later. Have you discussed what will happen if someone gets jealous? You know watching your partner (are you two an item?) with someone else for the first time can be incredibly confronting. This girl is new so the male half will probably spend a bit more time with her... That can cause issues. What are the nerves about actually before I go on some rant. Then maybe we can offer you more of an opinion or some advice. :)

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  The day of my first GB I was literally dry retching from nerves - but decided to go ahead. I had nothing to lose, knowing that I didn't actually have to do anything if I wasn't comfortable/ready. Making fantasies a reality is always going to be nerve racking....and having expectations doesn't help - especially if they don't (and they often don't) go as planned. Suggestion? Just do it - if you don't like it, stop. Talk some more, sit around naked, get silly, laugh, get drunk. And those butterflies - like I was told as a kid - make them fly in formation! (Haha, so cheesy, but so true). Xxx Mrs Bom

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I have been to a fair few parties in my life, but honestly, the last party I went to, I only really knew 4 people, and 2 were the hosts, so being a single guy and nervous, I found myself on the outer. Im usually quite open, confident and talkative, but nervousness can strike you down anywhere, the rest of the night went well. The dutch courage did help to oil the wheels though... Knowing the people you are going to play with, before the actual night, is a HUGE bonus, Im all for meeting up socially with potential playmates before the night where everything comes together ( pun intended ) because learning the few base mannerisms can make you feel so much more at home.LadeBack

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Definately meet first, no play. On the night have a drink, relax and slowly build up to it. Lots of kissing etc. then let the ladies do what they need to. You might find that you're there more for support than playing at first as least anyway

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Quoting 'LadeBack'Knowing the people you are going to play with, before the actual night, is a HUGE bonus, Im all for meeting up socially with potential playmates before the night where everything comes together ( pun intended ) because learning the few base mannerisms can make you feel so much more at home.LadeBack Agrees there!we were so nervous, Mrs went walk about! but in the end having met before was so helpful... and the person we played with was just so nice and comfortable to be with so everything turned out nicely !and as a bonus he is still chatting with us Dont pressure her and things will happen!

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  Zsuza69

  13 years ago

  We all still get nervous at meeting new people exspecially when you meet them at their or your house or hotel room. There is that feeling that things will happen no matter what when you meet in a private setting.We prefer to meet say in a pub over a couple of drinks first that way if one is not happy the exit routes are all lit in green lolWalk dont run lolNerves are good it gets the adrenilene running and heightens the excitement but too much can be devistating (cant spell today lol) Be patient and choose to meet somewhere your wife knows and is comfortable with and remember for it to work all parties need to be in agreement.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  After 12 years of swinging, we still get nervous, it natural.But we found that we went to a swingers club for our first time try. It was good to see and chat to people with the same interest as ourselves.We got the same advice from most there. Set rules and boundaries and dont break them. Rather change them as you progress. And most of all talk about what you liked and didnt like.Keep it open and honest. Plus, dont progress unless you are both comfortable. And if you can turn your nerves into sexual energy. Good luck and enjoy

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  if shes so nervous that she doesnt want to go ahead with it.....then perhaps this isnt for her. while its natural, and even beneficial to be 'nervous' (read this as 'excited' ), its not right to force, coerce, or even convince her to go ahead with something that she may just not be comfortable with.....

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