First Steps

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  I think you should of had that conversation with your wife before you created a profile.

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  teamaj2

  4 years ago

  Matty , it’s good to ask questions on the forum but you may not always hear positive feedback . I feel I’ve said this many times on here , for that I apologise. My husband was upfront from our first meeting of his desire to explore . It took us ten years to come to fruition. I too came from a sheltered past . It was a definite no from me for a long time . He was patient , understanding of my being hesitant and never coerced or forced anything . He gently made suggestions of what may be exciting to explore , lots of visual enticement via us watching pornography together . It was a slow burn . We posted a profile we created together and talked , many , many hours about pitfalls that may occur , boundaries , jealousies etc etc Communication and having each other’s back at all times is very important. Your having already put up a profile creates in myself a feeling of distrust . Personally , we work as a team . Asking your partner to join you , once the horse has bolted seems not quite right . In fairness to yourself , you may have joined to get a feel for the site , how it works and different types of profiles . This to me would be part of your exploration to do together . I wish you good luck in all your endeavours. Ax

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  ddlbm

  4 years ago

  Very good point

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  FeistyFatty

  4 years ago

  Sack up. Open mouth. Speak words. Listen to words. Enjoy a new adventure together based on complete honesty and transparency. Worked for us, many moons ago. Best of luck.

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  Thanks everyone. M

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  Alex_Lover

  4 years ago

  It took 10yrs from 1st conversation, to 1st real life event for my super conservative, formerly religious wife. In the meantime there was a lot of listening to lifestyle podcasts, mostly for me, sometimes for her. Then sharing herself online, nudes and sexuality via a social network that starts with T. Before we finally visited a Swinger Club in May last year, where she kissed a girl. Then our life changed. It was a long slow road. But I said from the beginning it's her choice. - Alex.

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  For me I would start by using the term “we”. Given your profile is a couple as soon as you say “I” it implies your just 1 person who has set up a profile by themselves. Most likely a guy it has to be said. If you have pics then have at least a couple that you are together. Not necessarily naked but together. We would also say the profile has to be written by both of you as your wife needs to be included from the very start.

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  MrsTingle

  4 years ago

  Beautiful female friendly porn, Sinfulxxx, was what did it for me…that’s where I got my tingle, and opened me up to fantasies, then we found out about the term compersion which hubby gets in spades, so I started listening to podcasts like ‘sex is fun’ and that helped discover how big a spectrum of sexual possibilities are out there and normalise them. Nurture her to take charge, and be very very patient. Good luck 😉

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