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FFM, whats the dynamics?

July 02 2010

Ok so after many years of relative stability, the other half decides that she is curious enough about long held fantasies to consider acting on them, and has told me that she is curious and keen about trying out bringing another chick into play.Personally I am fine with that, and have been down this road before with a previous partner - many many moons ago.I just let the whole thing gather it's own momentum without getting too involved so that I could be fairly satisfied that this wasn't being done for my benefit, and was honestly something that was all about her.The sticking points to the thing are:Obviously one of her social circle would be out.None of my female friends, for the same reason.She doesn't want to bring a 'stranger' home, as thats 'her space'.I am not happy with the notion of a call girl.Swingers clubs are probably out, as she is uninterested in other guys, and I wouldn't be wild on sharing anyway - which is pretty discourteous to the other guy.So whats the way forward?I can pick up any number of random chicks pretty easily, but how do you say to a chick in the bar, "yeah ok, but by the way you'll actually be pairing with a chick and you and I will have very limited contact"!?Obviously my other half has clear rules about what she is cool with, so it kind of cuts out the impromyu pick ups (I believe. I could also be wrong).Hmm.None of this was in the manual.

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RHP User

15 years ago

Hey, Right. Clubs are out, friends are out. Good call. Doesn't want to bring someone home... OK.. so you're an expert with the picking up... just meet some lonely lady executive (she'll be the one alone in the restaurant with the bottle of wine half full) together in the hotel lobby/bar/restaurant, get her to join you for the meal or a drink and then drag the fuck back upstairs by the pony tails to your hotel room. What's the worst thing that can happen? hehe. Why do these things always have to be so difficult? HUgs Stalky

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RHP User

15 years ago

Hadn't considered the married girls playing separately, good point though.On another note, I need to start frequenting more restaurants perhaps!yeah the battle is won pretty much, all that needs to be determined is the location and opponent ;)Thanks for the tips guys, am in no rush, so happy to take information on board and keep an eye out until the opportunity arises.

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RHP User

15 years ago

Find a girl on RHP, or go to a sex club on a night, not to play just to scope out the action. Best go on the nights were single guys are allowed in, because for some strange reason it brings out the single girls. Couples International have delivered three of my threesomes, just by going there at the right time. If you find a girl, don't hit her up straight away, actually you just keep out of it. It's all about how the new girl and your girlfriend interact. You can have your say later on. Let the girls text, chat, e-mail etc. Organise a night out in the city, have some drinks with the girls, have dinner with them. Then send them off on their merry way, to dance the night away, eventually they will come back, horny, danced out and ready for some man time. Sal and I did this once, and it was by far our best threesome in the respect that Sal was way more into it. The two girls went out, in public, held hands, danced, chatted, flirted, got some free drinks (tarts) etc. You get to shine, before they go out, over dinner, and during the who sex time. If you want to have a successful threesome, that's my advice. Andy

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DonnaBrett

15 years ago

Man..you are making it difficult for yourselves LOL. It seems the only way you'll do this is to find a girl specific for your quest...good luck with that. Even though they are out there..they're scarce.On the subject of friends...that's how we started, it's never gotten weird or affected the friendships even though we only played a number of times over the years (with different friends too). We don't lead a secret life...pretty much all our friends know & everyone is cool with it even if it's not their thing....

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RHP User

15 years ago

Now Im no expert by a long shot and the verdict is still out regarding Mrs JJ' but from reading your post I would say you still have a few hurdles to overcome. It's great that Mrs Soldier has taken the first step by opening up to her fantacys and accepting what she wants to explore' but the obstacles she faces with her own criteria effectively makes it so hard. I think what SalAndy had to say makes some sense. For what its worth' my advise is that Mrs Soldier relax her rules some and become a lil more accepting of what it takes to get to first base. Then play it by ear.. Anyway' good luck with your adventure. Mr JJ

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RHP User

15 years ago

Yeah her criteria are pretty steep at this point, but I suspect that they will relax over time as the idea is less 'new'.This is her first time going dwn this road, whereas I'm pretty jaded from back in the day...But MY experience with this caper was with old friends/randoms, not partners.

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RHP User

15 years ago

You are making it all very complicated and complex, when, in fact it is not(mostly). You will get it after the experience, and all the talk and thought and concerns will not be as.... relavent as now. Make it happen - least in a simple fashion to start and build the reality from there (who, when why....) Reasons are things that stop you having what you want (by definition) Go do what inspires you...

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RHP User

15 years ago

Our experience just landed on our doorstep literally...... You are a bloke just watch other girls watch your partner..... Just go out for a night out relax, and have fun and watch the girls....... Us girls like to perve on males and females...... Book a room in a nice hotel and see what happens.... Be patient. It will happen.

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RHP User

15 years ago

So have discussed the pointers here with hers truly, and short of something falling into ones lap, going to give Stalkys tactic a run this weekend coming. If nothing else, could be a good start in putting things into action.Also, after a few vodkas, well - we would be in Surry Hills, which seems to be the middle of all alternatives.

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RHP User

15 years ago

Ok so based on the tips and pointers here we went out clubbing with a clearer plan.So what happened?I got asked to join a threesome, with two chicks who were already 'paired', and they didn't want a third F.Another chick was dead keen, and was happy to drop off her date for the evening, and it was all looking promising - short redhead in a neat bob but kinda ho-hum till the jacket came off and the inkwork became evident - was all looking up for a memorable encounter. Then she got blotto drunk while we were at the bar still - and that was kind of unattractive, so back to square 1.So it was a case of so near, yet so far.Better luck next time, but at least now we 'get it'. I think.

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RHP User

15 years ago

Oh man! Women fall down drunk around me all the time. Maybe that's exactly where I've been going wrong! hehe. Alright... we nearly got there!.. my next suggestion is to repeat your performance until it's polished... then you need to buy a round of roadies..... and lure sexy lonely executive to compare city views and check out your ... ahem... "mini bar" upstairs. :p ...... or you know... .you could try Andy's technique. That dude really makes sense! Hugs Stalky

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