M59
Ex Wife's Friend
July 20 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Go for it. Mrs TB_S - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well - if you are attracted, maybe then BUT will it ruin a good friendship? Really personal and you need to weight up pros and cons. Good luck. mx
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
If YOU feel it's the right thing to do..well do it. If YOU feel it's the wrong thing to do...don't do it. Who is anyone to deny anyone of happiness ? IF at the end of the day you are both happy, then who really cares what others think?? Do what you feel is right by not only YOU, but others as well, especially the children If it were me... I'd be looking at the whole picture, not just myself. If the woman is your ex-wife's friend first...why go there when there is plenty of other fish out in the sea? Do you want that kind of mess - if the ex wife and friend have a fall out? Can you live with that? It may turn out for the best??? Who knows? Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'd consider the worst case scenario though. What if goes horribly wrong and you end up hating each other? How would that impact on your kids' friendship? Would it be worth it?
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Paradisepair
11 years ago
She's likely to lose her friend if you guys becomes a couple. It could really damage communication between you. She may resent your new connection especially if she feels you were attracted to her friend while with you (if you weren't swingers). if you have a shit relationship with your ex, go for it. But if not you are playing with fire and I'd even recommend talking to your ex about it first. What's most important in the long term is your kids and making sure they grow up in a conflict free environment. If you think you might end up in a loving relationship with this woman then it's maybe worth it but if you're just seeking a root I say look elsewhere.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I say, go for it ..you no longer together after all , and when a person /woman says, you are a hunk ...it is not necessary they are thinking of bedding you either or in a romantic way, they just think genuinely you are a hunk without an Agenda.. so who knows worth a try i would say ,but then again it may not goin down well with the Ex- .
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RHP User
11 years ago
From Mrs.Paradise....this is about more than just the ex wife's friend and you...She probably knows an awful lot about you from your ex's perspective as well...tread carefully xQ
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gazpacho
11 years ago
Is your ex wife's friend also her mother? I mean that kind of thing can get real nasty. Enjoy. Gazp - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
hi Fukcable, just wanted to ask you how you would feel if your ex-wife was dating one of your mates. Would you be totally fine and cool with that?
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madotara69
11 years ago
You only know of the emotions that are certainly going to come about with this sort of situation. Friends often say things to lift others spirits, so assuming that your friend finds you fuckable because she called you a hunk? May not have been her intentions. Guess there is nothing wrong with friends going out, though if you go out expecting that there is more to her comment, it may have you in an awkward moment. Your call OP. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's not wrong, but take in mind how things are between you and your ex wife at the moment. If things were to work out, you orb red wife would then be your partner's friend. Would you be able to hang out socially with your ex wife, have her over for tea or go to her house for tea? My ex husband asked one of my friends out and, when she mentioned it, I told her I honestly didn't mind, however, she didn't want to go there as she knew why our marriage ended and she also has a personal rule that she will not date ex partners of her friends as it can make things a little awkward. Some can keep ex partners in their circle of friends and I admire couples who can do that. My ex husband and I are civil to each other for the sake of our kids, however, if we didn't have to speak to discuss what's going on with the kids and arrange days and times for the kids to visit I don't think we'd ever have kept in touch.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lest thinking make it so.
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RHP User
11 years ago
yeah at the end of the day she has probably heard all the bad things i have done and probably wont be interested now thats been pointed out superfoxxxy did not think from the kids point of view more so as kids from both sides are friends and that could effect that which is something i dont think about, BTW when are you going to reply to my emails so i can help you with your forum addiction Thanks everyone for your feedback and ideas
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RHP User
11 years ago
let us know how it goes though! Good luck babe.
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erotictouch4u
11 years ago
OP, you asked us if it would be wrong to ask her out now that you were both separated, not if we thought it was alright for you both to have sex...If your kids are good friends then why not have them stay together one night, with baby-sitter if needed, and then the 2 of you go out for dinner and a chat in some quiet bar somewhere ? Just feel the mood and let her drive what might happen ?We get from you that she thought you were a hunk back then and you are obviously interested if she is, so just play it as a friendly time out together and let her make the first move. ET xox
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tamworthguy46
11 years ago
Yes if it's genuine attraction No if it's revenge
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think you're a bit weird for wanting to go there with your ex's friend personally... It screams creepy to me.... But..... I ain't you....so you choose. :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Don't do it don't go there at all...
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RHP User
11 years ago
they will exchange info.. they cannot help it :) move to fuck out of home OP and get a fckn new life :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
While you were with your respective partners' a little flirting was titillating but out of bounds and to a degree fairly safe. If you feel this lady is worth the chance and you weighed it all up .. do as your heart tells you. You already know deep down how this feels. If its good, thats good. If theres too much baggage on either side, carefully consider.. I have a fwb who was part of our group of friends. After she split from her ex , she kept contact with me. Nothing serious, just the way we both like it and that's as far as it will go.
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Smilingwithfun
11 years ago
How badly do you want to piss the ex off?
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RHP User
11 years ago
It depends on what you want out of it. I'm in the process of the same with the ex' s best friend. We've known each other, gone through the last 20 years as "family". We are keeping it a secret - that way no one else gets involved. You just need to see it for what it is without rose coloured glasses. Its comfortable because you know them. It's also a bit lazy and it's a bit naughty knowing that you finally get to explore a different dynamic with a person your not supposed to get involved with. In the end the exs will get shitty if they find out unless they genuinely want you to be happy no matter what. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
do you just feel lonely. you seem to be chasing the hunk thing- it is hard to move forward and meet people. dont look back to the past for connections. enjoy your children for a while and if this friendship goes forward great but dont push it because of one word. day to day - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Paradisepair' She's likely to lose her friend if you guys becomes a couple. It could really damage communication between you. She may resent your new connection especially if she feels you were attracted to her friend while with you (if you weren't swingers). if you have a shit relationship with your ex, go for it. But if not you are playing with fire and I'd even recommend talking to your ex about it first. What's most important in the long term is your kids and making sure they grow up in a conflict free environment. If you think you might end up in a loving relationship with this woman then it's maybe worth it but if you're just seeking a root I say look elsewhere. a lot of different factors you should consider before jumping in first.
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