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Couples for regular meetups

January 22 2017

We are an easy going, average couple who have been on the scene for a few years now. We've had many great experiences with single women, single men and couples. We have met a male (single BBC) that we have had regular meetups (say every 2 months) with now for about 2yrs. He is nice, respectful and great company even before the fun starts. We can spend hours simply chatting with him talking about anything and everything. Our question is this. Is it possible to find another couple that we can do the same with? A couple who is local, easy to hang with, both equally interested and compatible sexually. We've met many couples and had some fun but have never hit it off so we'll that we want to continue meeting up. Does anyone have this connection with another couple? Or, have we just been a little unlucky? Yes we understand that meeting guy for regular meetups will be easier than a couple (or a single woman - something we'd love too, but that's a whole other topic ha ha). Any suggestions? Taking applications ha ha ha - Posted from rhpmobile

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DynamicCouple36

9 years ago

We have met a few really nice couples, from here, that we socialise with on a regular basis. What we have found, that works for us, is to take things slowly, and get to know them fairly well. And to base the friendship on common interests etc , as opposed to just playing straight away. We have had some fun weekends with them. - Posted from rhpmobile

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Starlet1

9 years ago

We've met some great couple friends whom we have developed rewarding friendships with. Our advice is, if you like them as people, let them know - it's easy to think all of this is purely sexual. Invite them out for dinner (even if it's without a play session afterwards). We have a handful of friends we see in casual settings and this is how we started. The added benefit is, when you do play together it is 10x as hot because of those deeper relationships. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

9 years ago

A regular thing with you and your BBC friend sounds great. Such a shame we are so far apart. 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

9 years ago

Initially, we wanted to join this site to find some local couples that we can connect with, but now we see it to be extremely hard and problematic. We hoped to find open and free minded people that we can feel at ease, talk with, connect and exchange ideas, without judgments that we all sometimes experience in our every day 'vanilla' life. We often wonder if we are to blame as we refuse to play just because we happen to meet...or because we should. It seems to be much more difficult for four people to feel that connection, on individual level and as couples. We don't mind having lots and lots of coffees before contemplating anything else. If someone considers it “time wasting”, then be it.(Ms)

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RHP User

9 years ago

Yes definitely possible we have regular couple who we have vanilla dates and swinging ones with - Posted from rhpmobile

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FredAndGinger2

9 years ago

Similar to DynamicCouple, we prefer to meet on a social basis to begin with - we want a connection much more than only sex-plays. That's where we currently are on our swinger's journey. We like to call this "couples dating" rather than swinging.. We understand that some couples and almost all the (supposedly) single males are after the spontaneous thrill and so we're not for everyone. Them: "Are you free now to meet-up for sexy times?"Us: "We've already told you three times over the past year - we prefer to meet socially first to find out if we have a 4 way connection"Them: <no response> There are many factors to consider before we feel a mutual interest and compatibility to continue: Age / location / availability / personality / interests / kids / sexual interests / matching attractiveness / and probably another dozen or so factors that are not front of mind until we've met in person and thought "oh that wasn't what we were expecting!" Yes we're choosey but once we've established a connection we enjoy lots of social and sexy times together. The attraction (and the decision to proceed) is a 4-way decision. Hey DC - we should catch up for drinks sometime ;) - Fred & Ginger

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RHP User

9 years ago

We have been looking for what seems to be forever for this but alas, we are still stuck at the station with no train in sight. It's always a case of the connection working 2 or 3 ways, but never 4. To be fair, we are a touch picky when it comes to attraction and as has been aforementioned, we too are not the wham, bam thank you mam types, we're a bit too old for that now ;) Having children obviously throws out a lot of options too. I think as we get to this point in life, there is so much going on that any of us couples with kids are so tied up that it's almost impossible to line up free time esp with another couple that also have kids. Between the kids social activities, work, gym, cleaning and gardening etc. Of Course we all do eventually get some free time, but then it's inevitably the roll of the die to see if this will be 'the' couple that we click with. Eventually, with perseverance and patience you are bound to find that match, as hopefully will we, but it's anyone's guess as to how long this journey will take, it better be worth it lol

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RHP User

9 years ago

Swinging as a couple with Couples can be a challenge to get all 4 in a group onboard we often get 3 out of 4 in the group that are all happy and set to dive in. That's why we invite single guys & girls into our lives and also explore playing separately on occasion as it's much easier to get matches that all parties are keen on. Swingers clubs come in handy as well for all the above reasons. Ps: I like the fact that my wife is picky I would expect nothing less from a Woman.

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usnow

9 years ago

When we first started out on this journey this is what we wanted to find .We thought many would have the same idea .It hasn't turned out anything like that .We put it down to this game being such a " meat market " that no matter how well things go the old " grass is always greener " attitude seems to overtake many people . Usnow .

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DynamicCouple36

9 years ago

Well written. We agree with you on all points. Yes, it would be nice to get together for drinks and to then see how things develop from there.

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RHP User

9 years ago

We had the good fortune to meet a couple from or local area at a meet and greet in Perth when we were both down at the same time. The attraction, chemistry and conversation was instant between the four of us and we set up a second date for when we got back home. A hotel room was booked for the evening and everything was effortless and comfortable and a fantastic time was had by all. After this , we went on mainstream outings together, dinners, pubs, picnics etc having a great time socially and the bonus of some great sex afterwards which was fully inclusive and unbelievably relaxed between the whole four of us. We remain great friends now though they have moved away and still talk regularly on the phone and are hatching plans to holiday with them. So to answer your question, yes miracles sometimes do happen on here.

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RHP User

9 years ago

Awesome news!

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RHP User

9 years ago

Or some other weekend long activity. We have met plenty of couples over the years and as OP has said, never really had found anyone for ongoing fun. After our first camping weekend in September last year we met 3 amazing couples that we hit it off with. The key is that you get way more time to form a connection. It is not rushed. We are going in 2 weekends time and we have 3 couples coming that we already know and another 6 couples that we can't wait to meet. Tent hopping anyone. Seriously people, create an event, head to a great spot, get some people there, and have some fun. We will come.

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RHP User

9 years ago

We have a few regular couples that we play with and a few are no longer in the lifestyle but we still keep in contact with as they are great people. We find that most of the couples we have played with we have kept in contact with. It makes it easier with the second and third meets as you know what everyone is looking for.

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