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Couples being "bypassed"
September 06 2019
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RHP User
6 years ago
Just be honest and say that’s so uncool We have had a few experiences like that and that’s not us Make a group chat on kik and ignore the private chat Hope that helps
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RHP User
6 years ago
This just happened to us. ...the other night. Unbeknownst to the other guy, my partner and I keep no secrets from each other and share everything told to us. So I knew about it straight away. Rule is simple; we both have KIK accounts, we speak to others together with full transparency, if you feel you need to hide something you are not someone we would want to associate with.
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DynamicCouple36
6 years ago
It happens often The make half of a couple , or a single male tries to lure the female away from her husband / partner, the intention of which is to play with her alone and without him. It’s a typical predatory male trait. The way to ensure that this does not happen is to not give out her mobile number or chat app profile details, but rather to use a dedicated number / app that is reserved for swinging use. And then to ensure that one is always together in the same room. We tend to also not give out our real surnames or address. It’s not about being insecure of one another, but rather about protecting our long term relationship and marriage. We accept that there are predators out there that will try to come between us. We simply put protocols in place to protect ourselves from any exploitation
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DynamicCouple36
6 years ago
Oops types The make = the male
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FeistyFatty
6 years ago
Usually because they're only attracted to or interested one (usually the female) half of the couple. Very difficult to get 4 individuals equally attracted to each other.
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FeistyFatty
6 years ago
And if its me, i only ever chat with the male. Cringe when the wife wants to talk to me as I have ZERO interest in her at all.
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RHP User
6 years ago
If this is happening to you guys, it might be that your profile says “Open Relationship” and you don’t really explain anywhere that you only come as a couple. So there is probably a bit of a mixed message there. If it was clear that you only play together, then yep ..... that’s uncool. But it is all how you guys deal with it. If you are open and honest with each other, discuss everything and keep no secrets then it shouldn’t be a problem, just a nuisance.
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teamaj2
6 years ago
Hi Nauti two RHP for anyone whether a couple or single , is all about finding people that are respectful,like minded and that we are attracted to . For those that don’t take into account what’s said on the profile , in regards to boundaries etc - you don’t want to meet up with them anyway . I agree in setting up a group chat and ignoring pm to just one of you . We found it pays to be patient . It maybe irritating but just ignore or block . Good luck x
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SpicyKale
6 years ago
Exactly what Robjen has mentioned You've got a great profile, maybe they're just trying their luck because you mention that you've been in the scene as singles? It might be worth making it a bit clearer that you're only interested in playing as a couple. We've only had it happen once and that was more the guy being overly confident that we were comfortable with him, rather than anything malicious. People will always push boundaries, just move on until you find the right playmates.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Thanks everyone...glad it's just not us/me being a little precious...and definitely point taken regards profile, I guess its just a matter of tweaking it a little to make things clear...was pretty disappointing as it was pretty clear what the other party were doing and it was pretty clear it wasn't just a case of "misinterpretation of a profile"... What we are realising tho that despite some peanuts theres some pretty awesome people out there...thanks again for all your replies and taking time to help a couple of newbies 🙏🙏
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Just ignore the bypassing or simply say we don't play alone. Or are you concerned your partner may go down that route? Other people will never behave the way you ideally want them too. It's not Pleasantville here. Take the ones that come close to your ideals, reject the others. For every 1 that meets your expectations, there will be 20 that fail, many spectacularly
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FredAndGinger2
6 years ago
This practically never happens to us because we have a system in place to minimise the possibility of it happening. Also, be clear on your profile what kind of interactions you are interested in and if the other party doesn't follow your wishes then be thankful you find out early. W suggest getting out to social meet and greet events. You get to meet genuine people and can assess personalities and couples relationships much faster than by text messages. Welcome aboard!!
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RHP User
6 years ago
Why have your own kik if you're worried about it? Just have the one kik account and block anyone you're not interested in. Also how do they get your kik addie?
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RHP User
6 years ago
He opened a private chat with my half and we made a thing of answering in the group chat. He didn't get the hint so we just stopped replying.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Two kik accounts means you can have a 4way chat with hopefully all 4 communicating.
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D_Light
6 years ago
cause its both I wish to explore with and together we shall over cum any BI Pass roots and bonded with unity and honesty. were not here, Us genuine, contributing and interacting in all mediums to play the games we endure and the low communications skills we see most accept but don't copy such as"Not Knowing" cause its accepted to be rude and ignored and left no idea where u stand in ignored messaging. We can inseminate these core values through exposure continuously and support encourage best safe practices and share not hide or manipulate all Bi Pass ing in this format is the only way for me to feel free but if you want straight I will bi Pass that option as I will adapt to conform and chat needs to resurrect us all despite how ea feell as others will pick up on it that avoid forum's so all couples that required an accommodating awesome adventure together or solo don't By Bi pass and be clear in the detail and ifu are still feelling as such then your not putting in enough positive energy and relying on ideas born from negativity. No Pass outs from this
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RHP User
6 years ago
Lol just had one now! Lovely couple keen to meet and I explained my male half is away working till Friday Got the sly message well come over tonight for a drink and they will look after me. Not in the group chat but privately
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Jackson1811
6 years ago
It’s happened to us twice but not in the way you’d normally think. Twice now we’ve gotten talking to a couple with a bi dude. Now at the time we had our profile set to he is (me) experimental and she is bi curious. We’ve since discovered I am indeed as straight as an arrow and she is most certainly bi. Anyway, I digress. On these two occasions the other guy, very quickly started messaging me directly through kik telling me what they were going to do with my cock when we all hooked up. One guy even offered to meet on a secluded road to perform oral on me. So far no one has tried to circumvent myself to get to the mrs, apart from a few guys who’ve messaged on RHP and ask if she plays alone.
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RHP User
6 years ago
DynamicCouple36 - you must really hate single male. I have been following RHP forums and I swear every post doesn't matter the topic you always find a way to mention single males and say something negative about us. You are the epitome of hateful casual on here. As per the original question, as a single male who sometimes has female playmate, I has happened to me in real life. I posted a forum about it on here about how uncool it was but received a massive backlash being told I was selfish.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Yes! People often go as far as "We can just play once, he doesn't have to know about it". I had a woman of a couple once try to meet up with me, with her husband there, saying that she didn't want my partner there because she's more comfortable meeting with just the girl first. Like, excuse me? We're advertised as a couple, that's the deal.
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Teaser7
6 years ago
It is very uncool to do the sneaky message but on the other hand we as a couple are happy to chat one on one with people once we feel there's a connection. It's not on the sly though and always ask first.
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RHP User
6 years ago
We don’t use kik and we only use our private mobile to chat. So even though wifey carry’s that one with her she always shows me the messages we get sent and always points out that the only option is with me there we have found that sometimes once they put the bite on for a quick fuck without me there and she turns them down they usually disappear
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RHP User
6 years ago
It happens a bit. You can always add your partner to the Kik conversation. I simply say we only play as a couple and 9/10 they won't ask again. The other one gets blocked
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just4fun48
6 years ago
I let my partner do most of the talking on kik as I hate chatting in chat.
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Swingingnudist
6 years ago
Similar thing happens on Facebook. My last partner are both on a private swingers party group. We have been to parties, motorbike group rides and low and behold she would get the friend request next day from males AND couples. I think a lot of is yes males want a female to play with but couples also want a female as the wife is bi
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RHP User
6 years ago
Its an entitled disrespect for boundaries to do it slyly behind someones back. Ask in the group chat, and only after some rapport and a little trust is earned, because it will be assumed you never wanted to play with both of them in the first place. From the Poly perspective, if you're trying to have a romantic relationship/triad, the one on one relationships also need to be solid, and couple dates are pretty important. but thats all down the line and shouldnt be assumed or laid as a trap. Thats rude and infuriating.
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