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Consent
February 25 2019
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countrytouch82
7 years ago
Simple. Get them to sign a statutory declaration. And apparently you need to ensure you have consent continuously. So while in the middle of one position you must stop every few minutes just to check again :p
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MsJonesy
7 years ago
Interesting topic EQ. Having just read, and posted on the forum called "What's is the best approach if a woman thinks you disrespected her", it is clearly a topic which needs to be revisited often.
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RHP User
7 years ago
There is no guarantee in anything, other than death. You can take ALL the precautions.... and tick all those boxes.....but if down the track someone decides to flip a switch for whatever reason and drag you through the fire, theres little you can do about it. So.... whats the solution? The best approach, is to choose wisely, deliver in abundance, and wish people well if there comes a time to end it by not building a fire at either end of the bridge.
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
To give consent with the ball gag on. Oh well, maybe she can sign something after l untie her?
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RHP User
7 years ago
Consent is an issue of contention for me atm.... I’ll just leave it with the thought that it’s ironic...
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RHP User
7 years ago
"When does no mean yes?" or similar was a topic. Safe words were mentioned. Interesting that you only mentioned women Annie. It's necessary to widen the discussion to include us all. As much as it's not talked about, men suffer too whether it's at the hands of other men or women. Good communication is a thing. Not taking advantage of people who are under the weather and making sure we have proper control over ourselves makes sense. Common sense approaches that could do with being pushed everywhere. Peachy
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LetsFrolic
7 years ago
I actually have a fantasy of a hot woman taking control and raping me or even just making me be her waiter. I'm not a sub but I like when a woman has control because I don't like how there's that stigma where they aren't. Plus I like to please.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Then the stat dec and finally collect DNA samples not used in post-agreement concessions granted in anticipation of litigation. Shizen...what happened to the good old daze of "Hey....ya wanna?" This will soon be more complicated than getting married and.... Hold it.. who in the fuck is trying to trick who with this one?
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' There is no guarantee in anything, other than death. You can take ALL the precautions.... and tick all those boxes.....but if down the track someone decides to flip a switch for whatever reason and drag you through the fire, theres little you can do about it. So.... whats the solution? The best approach, is to choose wisely, deliver in abundance, and wish people well if there comes a time to end it by not building a fire at either end of the bridge. I'm watching Skyscraper, and just as I read your post The Rock is building a bridge in the middle of a towering inferno! The topic is about consent though. Maybe if we keep pushing the idea it's a thing to be respected as much as people take advantage at times. Peachy
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Bit hardTo give consent with the ball gag on. Oh well, maybe she can sign something after l untie him....or them.....or it Better?
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Bit hardTo give consent with the ball gag on. Oh well, maybe she can sign something after l untie him....or them.....or it Better?
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RHP User
7 years ago
Given I’ve had consent taken out of my hands then consent to me is a big thing... Consent indicates mind is attached to the bodily act which is important. Consent at any time can be revoked and it needs to be listened to not brushed off as a joke or a you’ve got to be kidding me thing. The way someone reacts or responds to you should be suitable enough for a reasonable adult to interpret whether someone is into it or not and adjust actions as required.
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horneycouplewa
7 years ago
too late your already in when I wasn't looking
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RHP User
7 years ago
I always ask for what are likes or dislikes prior to meeting with a couple/single. Once, I met with a couple who I discussed with the husband about certain play, and I was assured that the wife is okay with it. When i started playing with the wife, I found out that she was totally not okay with it. The husband claimed I was not ‘dominant’ enough to make her submit to allow me to do those things. Personally I think it’s rape if I have to dominate her to make her do things that I want. Domination is not forcing someone to do the things they want against their wishes. I was extremely angry and insulted by the husband and I had never been as angry for my 10 years of swining experience.
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RHP User
7 years ago
This is about "con scent" and thank Christ for it! How else are the sniffer dogs gonna find them ol' cons if they're all clean and shiny and smell like a basket of daffodils? Fuck it... makes about as much sense as some of the other shit here. ʗɱ
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technologic
7 years ago
I think the problem with the whole topic consent and why is getting played over age over again like a broken record is that most people still don't really know how to do it right. Both the giver and asker. A friend who has been to the famous orgy dome at burning man said they always run a workshop/talk teaching newbies about consent before they enter the dome. They teach what is the right way to ask for and give/refuse consent. PLUS the right attitude to have when you are rejected. Of course it helps when those experienced are there to show others how to do it right. I think that's pretty awesome and I would love to listen to that. Something that would be great to have not just at orgies/swinger clubs.. Perhaps even taught at school for sex ed!
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technologic
7 years ago
Oops pardon all the wrong autocorrects!! 🙇
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RHP User
7 years ago
This area is fraught because not everyone is on the same page.It's important in my opinion to pick up on the cues that the other person is actually not so keen even if they aren't saying a clear NO. Use the big brain not the hormone driven brain,and take responsibility for your interactions. And ambiguity is a confusing thing so be clear if you don't want/ like something and don't let politeness get in the way. Women in particular have been socialised to be polite and not offend. Hugs Q
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RHP User
7 years ago
Traffic lights Yes it is difficult to provide consent for every aspect but a detailed discussion before playing and the traffic light system makes it super easy and clear and non offensive. I used orange the other day for an activity i usually love and no offense was taken.
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