RHP

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Confuzled - obviously

April 05 2010

Is there a guide to decyphering female signals? ie 1000 ways women give men the come on and then pretend they didn't. Is it games or just they they have no idea what they actually want? (I have my money on the second) Eye contact - lite chat at the bar (half a dozen smiles on both sides) - walk past once - smiles on both sides - then as I move towards a little later to chat some more - walks off no eye contact - avoids eye contact next couple of times we end up near each other in the club throng. Possible options going through my mind: She realised I look like an axe murderer that why I looked familiar; Noticed a sign on my back that said Nice Guy - Boorring; (need to put the Dangerous - Utter Bastard sign on next time) Noticed I smiled at another girl and figured I had no loyalty; Remembered she had a boyfriend/husband and wanted to kill the moment early. I am sure there are more creative and some realistic answers to this one. Also how is it that cute slender women cannot walk past without body contact when bigger guys and larger women have no problem keeping out of my personal space? Not that I mind. Is this a come on or is it just prick teasing?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    I'm now an expert at this... its all prick teasing... unless she grabs your hand and puts it down her panties... that's when you know she wants you. HUgs Stalky

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    i dont play those sorts of games so yeah i agree with stalky lol and hey men do that shit too ya know roxxy xxx

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    Sorry...I have been guilty a few times brushing past a hottie in a bar.....I am not teasing though..Just hope he notices and will come talk to me ...They never do!....lol What is with that! Maybe because they are married and have a GF? Those lil jesters and eye contact are fun...But heck! Doesnt get me anywhere! lolz.. sheesh..men are weird...hehe.. huggies sweetpetite41xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  • Tart_Du_Jour

    Tart_Du_Jour

    16 years ago

    Sometimes people are like that because they are trying to be friendly, sometimes people aren't even aware of the signals they are sending out, sometimes they are doing it because they are bored and want ego validation, sometimes it's they are attracted to you and just testing the waters. I do admit, sometimes I like to flirt without the intention of taking it anywhere not because I am trying to be mean but for me flirting is supposed to be fun with perhaps some mutual ego boosting. If an attractive man flirts back at me it can put a smile on my face and extra spring in my step for that day even if nothing else happens. Nothing wrong with that in my opinion :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Jeese.... all this time.. Im in a crowd and women keep brushing past me all the time... stopping.. asking for directions.. making silly comments... grabbing my arse and rubbing their titties on me... You mean to say Sweet... that all those women are... that they're trying to come on to me? To think... for years I've been turning around and sneering at them! Oh dear. I'll never get the hang of this. Women are so complicated. Hugs Stalky

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    I cant say for all women...but if I brush past you...That is a def hint from me that I Think the guy is cute kisses sweetpetite41<<< Wish me luck!. xxxxxxxxxx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    I always go for the "interpret as just being friendly" just because a woman talks to you doesn't mean she's on the prowl....does it? For me she has to be blantantly obvious...i don't do subtle inuendo and i suspect lots of guys miss the little clues, i prefer to ignore them and just wonder what if! But most of the time if i am out at a club or pub its to see a band and thats all that interests me, curiously that seems to be when women are most interested ie when i am not...lol......maybe they just don't like being ignored..lolBut then sometimes i will do the little flirt thing and show some interest for a brief period....then just ignore them.Is that bad?....am i a game player?I have however never figured out how to have a convo at a gig....so some visual cluesIf she is drinking out of a stemmed glass,and she persistently runs her thumb and fingers up and down the stem....thats a good thing...or she is bored or nervous....lolIf they keep touching you on the arm/hand..thats a good thing or they are just really a touchy feely type.If they are in your face all the time..no matter where you are in the room...thats a good thing or they are a stalker!.Who knows really!Cheers Nev

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    You just aint all that desirable...when uve come to terms with that life becomes ever so much easier.....trust me...I know...lol

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    You know what slowhand ? How long is a piece of string ? this stuff has been going since Adam took that bite from a Woolworths apple !! I find the easiest way if someone makes eve contact is to smile and that is it. Half the time i want even say hello !! It may have been a second that your eyes caught eachother and she meant nothing by it at all ! You know when it is time to do more ...

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    Quoting 'stalky' I'm now an expert at this... its all prick teasing... unless she grabs your hand and puts it down her panties... that's when you know she wants you. HUgs Stalky I try that all the time Stalky - and it just scares the men off!!!! I admit it - prick teasing is fun

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    I'm a shameless natural flirt and like nothing better than to be taken by surprise or have my number called. The rising blush on my face would tell you everything you need to know ;P To me flirting with my eyes, my smile, my touch is just friendly invitation to communication. So slowhands...are you sending back the "received" signals, or are you hesitating? Flirting is a fast paced activity, an in the moment sorta thing...miss it by taking your time or thinking about it and the moment is gone. Jx

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    Hav'nt heard that analogy before......good work! Cheers Nev.....sniggering

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    Quoting 'Capital'how do you know if a woman likes you,?? when you put your hand down her panties it feels like your feeding a horse Nev!! Help me out here will ya please??

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    I'm a naturally 'smiley' type of person, if I enjoy your company and am having a good conversation with you then I will smile, laugh, giggle, touch you... and I do this with men, women, colleagues...anyone. I hope that not everyone I smile at or chat to assumes that I want to sleep with them!! And if I do want to sleep with them? I'll most likely say it, or at least be a little more direct than merely flicking the hair out of my eyes and assuming the man in question knows that this is the bat signal to saddle up! Not sure if I was of any help (no, re-reading this I really wasn't) but I'd suggest going with the flow a little more, enjoy their company for what it is and if they happen to get so worked up that you've haven't jumped them yet...they'll jump you instead! Good luck, Belle :)

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    Havn't you hand fed a horse before....lol Cheers Nev

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Meeka, just give me a go please...I promise I won't be scared...please...if my tongue teases you there it would be more of a fun for you ..please...give me a go please..

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    Quoting 'NevandKj' Havn't you hand fed a horse before....lol Cheers Nev

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    When I was a kid I used to have to climb up on the front fence to get on my horse.... as for hand feeding... you have to be careful or lose your fingertips. :p Hugs Stalky

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    cupped to start with and flatten out as you go!been awhile for me to! personally ...have no time for bloody nags anyways!Cheers Nev

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Hand feeding horses can lose you a finger - just depends where you put it. Make sure the feed in in your palm - which in this case would take all the fun out of it. Thanks all. Bottom line for my own future reference - followup any possible flirting as if it was - since it is better to get a proper knock back than miss out on a knock up.

  • RHP

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    16 years ago

    Have actually hand fed plenty of horses...where were you Nev when I needed this analogy ? Must admit the setting was a bit weird..in a hospital..in a private room..hers ...she placed my hand under the bedcovers and something tickled my fingers...lol I thought of bloody spiders and withdrew my hand...if only I had thought of feeding a horse...Talk about a Golden opportunity missed. True story.....only the actual setting needs to be confidential to protect the innocent and extremely naive, stupid, idiotic, cowardly even..oh that's me