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Changing your mind
September 18 2014
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Paradisepair
11 years ago
Some people don't photograph well, or are so goddamn naturally charming that they ooze sex appeal in person.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Absolutely. I have a certain type, but there have been occasions where a guy' looked completely different and his personality/what he said/what he did/how he looked at me totally made me change my mind and want to jump his bones. Last night was a good example.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Pictures give you an indication of what someone looks like. But not the full picture.And we all know how to fudge pictures so we look our best. Unless your blessed with stunning good looks your not always going to photograph well. And a persons personality can make me alter my view of them.Not even a 100 messages, texts or calls can replace an actual face to face meeting. So if there is any sort of attraction/chemistry I prefer to meet them in person. Its the only real way of knowing. (apparently, depending on where a woman is in her cycle, effects what she finds attractive?????)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just before our last M&G I started chatting to a man, he gave me access to his face pics and they didn't really appeal to me. I met him briefly at the M&G and thought wow, his pics don't do him justice at all. I have since gone out with him a few times and realised what an amazing man he is and now I'm eagerly waiting for his return from OS
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
tangent to your question, but still in the general area. Pretty much all of my life, I have always had many more female friends than male friends, by a considerable number. I have always found that once a girl got to know me they always enjoyed my company, and that is one area that I find lacking here. I don't photograph well - don't know why I can't make up a decent shot, but there it is nonetheless, so trying to 'impress' purely by photo here is pretty much mission impossible. I try to make up with my commentary in the forums to try and give the ladies a chance to understand my other qualities, but again very hard to communicate to some this way (and has at times been misunderstood by some). I would hope that should I get the opportunity to get past some prejudices on site, I would be able to present a more favourable impression to many. Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
Several times, how someone looks is one thing but their sexy personality is another... I like charming and confident men (to my detriment) and even now can look back at old pics and think 'what the??' Just as easily though I can be instantly turned off someone I find attractive. Just one sentence... Bang! Kryptonite! I'm repelled! I was talking about this with a couple of friends on the weekend... A guy (hadn't met yet) asked one of us in a message 'what do you think of my photos?', all agreed 'bang!' Instantly turned off... Needy, attention seeker, insecure, it's all about them... All that attraction up in smoke.
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RHP User
11 years ago
but by today's 'model' standards they wouldn't rate. I tend to recoil from the models and the six-packs....It puts me off? I think I register somewhere in my brain that 'really attractive' people have qualities that are not sincere or don't have the depth that average people do because relationship or a root comes so easy to them and in high numbers?I have met men that when I first see a not so attractive pic i'm like 'umm'? Not really sure? But when I meet them they are smoking hot, well to me anyway. Some guys just have 'it' even when they are fat, balding and middle aged. All of my past partners have had a distinctive feature like a big nose, or bald and one even had a missing big toe! My latest squeeze is a 48yr old man who's the big 'teddy bear' type with a protruding stomach just like 'Fred Flintstone' or 'Shrek'. He's even Scottish. We have great chemistry together and really hot sex. He is gorgeous and so caring. A good guy. *sigh* I think I'm in love.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have always liked the phrase, " Never judge a book by it's cover ".. But that's me, people are also beautiful inside as outside. In age, shape or size each person has their own grace.. Thanks for reading.
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MissBishere
11 years ago
Awesome pics looks amazing but not so great in person. I have also seen pics and not really been attracted but then later have met in person and it's been a very different story.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I begged and begged for a hot 55 plus to molest my body, but alas.... nothing
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' Awesome pics looks amazing but not so great in person. I have also seen pics and not really been attracted but then later have met in person and it's been a very different story. And you are all that and more Missb72 too!!!!! :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Guilty as charged ! I am a total sucker for ugly sexy in real life - I adore a charming man and will overlook everything for that charm . However on here , just ONE picture that is a bit unattractive might away me off meeting them ! This is why I prefer to meet people at events or clubs , I suck at choosing on here because my vagina takes over and makes the choice - and she is terribly attracted to gorgeous bodies ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Good on ya for giving a bloke a chance - to be commended ! Hope you find a very happy future with your current squeeze. Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe there IS hope for us fella's after all!! Obi1 (Feverishly putting clothes back on and getting out of the bathtub!)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Come on ladies. Enough with the "I hate guys with good bodies because they are all morons" stereotype, it's really wearing thin. I work in the health and fitness industry, and I manage my own club. Prior to this job, I was living and working in SA as a breakfast announcer and voice over artist on a commercial radio station. I also have a history in the performing arts, and quite adept and acting/singing/comedy on stage. I scored well in my high school and tertiary studies. But some here take one look at my '6-pack' and instantly assume I would have nothing to offer outside of the bedroom, that all I would do is 'TALK ABUT MA MUSCLES ALL DUAH' as if I am some kind of complete moron. It's the same as us guys saying things like "If you have big boobs, you obviously have a tiny brain" And "all blondes are clueless and stupid" I'm sure women would totally disagree and rebut the above statements, and yet the same women are convinced a guy who works on improving his body and physique cannot be considered as a partner, casual or otherwise? It was interesting to read a recent study in the herald sun (not saying that it's 100% credible, I mean, it is a newspaper after all) that claimed 7 out of 10 Aussie women would prefer a guy with love handles than a rock hard hot body, even though they DREAM and DESIRE a man with a good physique... And it WAS NOT BECAUSE OF THE INTELLIGENCE FACTOR. It was because apparently (and this was as stated BY THE WOMEN), that they don't feel comfortable undressing in front of toned men, because of their own insecurities (they don't feel they could 'measure up') and because of lifestyle pressures including not being able to eat what they want, when they want, for fear of upsetting Mr.Ironman. heres an excerpt: Seventy-four percent of women in the survey said they'd feel self-conscious taking their clothes off in front of a perfectly toned man.The sad answer is this: we're worried we won't shape up.Why don't women want some hot, buff, perfect-bodied man lying beside us?The question is: why on earth not?But when it comes to real life, we don't want chiselled perfection in our bed. (If you want the whole article, feel free to send me a PM.) So maybe there is something else there, but its easier to just put us in the 'no-brainer' basket, and it's getting tiring to read considering I do a lot of work trying to improve my body as well as my mind. Come on ladies, next time you get all juicy over a ripped, awesome looking male body... ...maybe there IS some substance there. Maybe after having your body ravished, your mind could be postively blown. But if you keep passing judgement early, you'll be stuck with only what you know... x
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Obi1Kenietzsche' Maybe there IS hope for us fella's after all!! Obi1 (Feverishly putting clothes back on and getting out of the bathtub!) There may be some hope if you get out of the tub, THEN put your clothes on though.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I dated a smoking hot "looker" once, couldn't believe my luck ! Then she began to talk, oh dear ! Looks are indeed skin deep.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We don't even bother sending messages to the so-called pretty people. Most dont even have the courtesy to respond to a well written and thought out message so why bother. And judging by the messages we recieve from some of the men with the six-pack abs well lets just say they cvould've spent more time in the classroom or learning manners than in the gym lol. We know our limitations. Plus, the gym junkie look isn't really a turn on for either of us so theres a bonus ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well, Joan Rivers kinda did it for me until 5-10 years ago :-P I think that may place her at 70-75 under all of "that". Lol Or maybe it was the comedy genius of her that was the attraction...
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RHP User
11 years ago
This is the reason I prefer to meet people at Meet and Greets... photo's don't show the personality of a person. If people judged me by my photo's I'd never get laid Oh and OP, age is not a big deal... looks fade, inner beauty lasts. SG
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RHP User
11 years ago
I take a TERRIBLE photo and I was dread the face pic portion of a chat As for others, I'm more into personality and a sense of humour and I can tell if a face pic is an awkward, uncomfortable, I hate taking photos type of pic and I try to give them a chance if the messaging is going well
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RHP User
11 years ago
Perfect symmetry and studied poise leave me cold. It's the little imperfections that make faces interesting, preferably with a mischievous sparkle in the eye... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Quoting 'Pink_Lotus' Quoting 'Obi1Kenietzsche' Maybe there IS hope for us fella's after all!! Obi1 (Feverishly putting clothes back on and getting out of the bathtub!) There may be some hope if you get out of the tub, THEN put your clothes on though. If Obi wants to be a little eccentric why deny him ....makes a refreshing change from time to time... Tall
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Smilingwithfun
11 years ago
if one is to be judged by a picture, why have a brain & personality? its why some are called shallow.
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RHP User
11 years ago
so much the physicality that I have found disappointing, it's the reality of who the person is....its often the opposite of how they represent themselves'on here.as you often say Kiss,it's all smoke and mirrors xxQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
can I Please have a chiseled no body hair male and a hairy ordinary looking one. Ohh I would be in heaven.......we can all share my bed and live happily ever after together. PLEASE CAN I HAVE MY WISH
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RHP User
11 years ago
All you need is a pack of Tim tams and you can have three ;)
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' I dated a smoking hot "looker" once, couldn't believe my luck ! Then she began to talk, oh dear ! Looks are indeed skin deep. Met a few of them meself - say no more..... Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe if I change my name from Happi to Hairy do you think I would have more luck....( happily changing my profile name
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Wild_Pagan_Love
11 years ago
Absolutely, interpersonal sexual energy can totally trump visual appeal - and works both ways! That's the real problem with the online world.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya' can I Please have a chiseled no body hair male and a hairy ordinary looking one. Ohh I would be in heaven.......we can all share my bed and live happily ever after together. PLEASE CAN I HAVE MY WISH those two would be bloody happy campers. the ticket line is over here..........................
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RHP User
11 years ago
sitting here reading the comments drinking my strong black coffee.....hey males you made my day I am a happy pussy this morning.
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