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Changing Sexuality?
March 10 2014
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
Maybe you just haven't been attracted enough to the man of the couple to play with him. I can't play with anyone I'm not attracted to, male or female. I hadn't been with a woman in many years and in recently times I've found myself at a couples club/swingers party's.(Experiences that I'll never forget) There was a woman before me and she looked so beautiful, I just couldn't help myself. I've done girls a couple of times since then, but my true desire is always a man, as long as I'm attracted to him.....💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
12 years ago
After reading your scenario, I think you would be better of to seek advice from a professionally trained medical practitioner or Psychologist, as they may have the proper knowledge and methods to analyse your situation for you :-) Of course, I am not saying that this Forums couldn't help you to get a rough idea of what is going on in your sexuality, but since you are actually beginning to worry about your level of intensity towards girls, I think you would be more benefiting from seeing a professionally trained specialist to help you find out the answer to your worry :-) You seem still loving your partner and are not yet prepared to give up on men, therefore, seeking proper help while it's still in the early days is a wiser move in your case. After all, you would still need to do something about it in the end, so why not do it sooner? :-) However, please pardon me for making this response if you think it's irrelevant, and I mean no offense to you whatsoever :-) I wish you good luck and hope you would get this worry sorted out soon. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Seriously, I don't think there is anything wrong with what you are going through. Why do you think you are feeling weird for? You're exploring and to honest I believe a lot of people go through what you are going through. People in society don't talk about it, that's all. I remember a few years ago I was attracted to my best friend (female). I have a female gay friend and at one stage was attracted to men. I also believe people have to try things to find out what is for them or not. How else can someone find out their likes and dislikes? You maybe surprised at what some people may post, I dare say you are not alone. Foxy xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Taby, a really lovely and heartfelt post, I remember a doctor I was seeing once explained to me that sexuality is a ladder some people never get off the first rung others take their desires one step at a time, rest and check again or step back. In other words you find where you are on the spectrum of sexuality. Some sit firmly in the middle, bi, others try and step back... Some like me.. Can't find the bloody ladder...
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RHP User
12 years ago
You are going through exactly what I am at the moment... If you get any answers let me know.. I was discussing it with a friend and I think it has something to do with feeling safer with women but I'm not sure- I'm just totally drawn in that direction and I have always been bisexual but not this much into females. Xxviolet
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gazpacho
12 years ago
Your sexuality is your sexuality. It will just be there doing its own damn thing no matter what you want it to do... so you may as well sit back deep in the saddle and enjoy the ride. We are socially programmed to be heterosexual. Once you break the ice, and keep lifting your inhibitions, I think you feel closer and get closer to your natural disposition. That might mean that you are still heterosexual... or something else... you don't need to label it, as, for all intensive purposes you are heterosexual while ever you remain strongly and emotionally connected with that big muscular stud nugget. Perhaps the definite contrast between him and very feminine forms entices you for now. It really doesn't matter, and obviously you're not concerned. HugsDad
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
Perfect......Gaz well said. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't have any useful advice, but maybe you enjoy the dominating aspect of it all? That is controlling the woman's pleasure? Otherwise it's probably a bit of a phase in your experimentation. Might last a few months or might last forever. As Gaz said you have allowed yourself to explore your sexuality so it is new and exciting. Also people are different how they deal with the different sexes. For me I am super fussy with women and I probably have a particular type I am attracted too, where as I am not so rigid with my attractions for men, but I know women who feel the opposite, as in they find being attracted to females comes more easily and they are much more fussy with men. I also understand, you have a gorgeous man at home, so you are trying to match that feeling with other men you meet at a swingers club which isn't an easy thing. are you worried that you are really gay? I think if you are you would have known it for a long time... I think.
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RHP User
12 years ago
When I started swinging (only 10 months ago) I was bi curious, tried it and thought mmmm not to sure and went back to male..... Then about 2-3 months ago I found that I was really desiring the female side of things, which I thought from my previous trial was a bit strange....... Now I absolutely love women, everything about them and I realised this love of women coincided with my acceptance and understanding of my own wants and desires and that I could actually understand what I was doing and enjoying........... Exploration is wonderful, learning new things about yourself is wonderful........ Labelling yourself is NOT so wonderful. Enjoy your exploration of your likes and dislikes, don't be concerned about them..... Only one suggestion - keep your man informed, keep your communication open, don't let this experience come between you. Enjoy
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm the same but reversed. I've been with my girl for almost two years, never really been with anyone else. I was always into girls. As soon as I. Turned 18 I hit the gay clubs, I never had much experience with guys. It's caused me a lot of problems now and I love woken, but I've been drawn to men a lot lately. I've slept with two - nothing great, but it's left me wanting more.. I have this stupid idea of what sex is meant to be like. Being so young doesn't help and I've just put it down to I want it all and I'm greedy :P
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RHP User
12 years ago
....that's really interesting Hidden but I think you make a wonderful point. Often our desires are driven by what our culture says they should be. I think that sex is supposed to be whatever the people involved get out of it and nothing more. If you get 'education' or 'experimentation' or 'variation', then (providing everyone involved is consenting of course) that is what sex is supposed to be like at that moment in time. I think trying to label your sexuality is not always a positive move. You are feeling whatever you're feeling and I reckon you should roll with it. Just be honest and hold on for the ride :D Kisses, Mrs - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
There comes a point in time when you've been around long enough to appreciate how much things change, and which things don't. And to realise how the models of how to view the world that you've been given effect your day to day. Change can be good, and exciting, and unstoppable. Good luck!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Every morning you check out a hot naked chick in the mirror. It was only a matter of time before you turned.
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hotcple0069
12 years ago
I feel the same way I don't question my sexuality though as nobody does it better than hubby however I only fantasise about women been that way for years and its perfectly normal.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi, for twenty years I only found women attractive and was gay. A few years ago I decided I wanted to explore and doing that, I discovered a new world...first I only played with girls, if they were in a couple, I didn't mind the guy there, just no touching:))))....then I meet a couple, and woooooow, hehe.... I discovered that I actually liked males lots more then I thought.....anyhow, I am with the perfect male for me, I love him with all my heart and soul...we fortunately both love being with girls and have playmates to come visit all the time...I could never just be straight, ......sometimes I just want more girl play actually I crave it..and my partner understands this, he knows I love him, but girls just are different to guys, and to us it's normal.... The most important thing is, is to talk about your feelings, craving girls doesn't mean you don't love your partner, it just means your growing sexually, the more open you are about sex, the more you may feel like you want to experiment more...sorry does that all make sense!!!
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