Can anybody explain...

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  I only flirt if there is initial interest. And I always reply to messages. I dont get why someone would flirt if they had no interest... Majick

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Maybe you should be happy that you are getting flirts at all. That alone is better than 90% of the single males on here. One would expect if it is a positive type worded flirt then there is some interest but it isnt always the case. The best flirting type conversation I have had through messages and even on msn from someone on here over several days basically ended with. Oh sorry I could never meet anyone from online and never will. Makes you wonder why they bother to be here in the first place. So it is impossible to tell the meaning behind a flirt. Most go unanswered.

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  I dont like them anyway but sometimes i respond to them cos the profile mightn't say enough and i want to see what the message says, if there is one that is, and then decide. guys why not just send a message straight up??

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Although I am a female, neither my partner, nor I understand why some women are such "players", if you like. I personally think that they are just attention seekers for the moment. Kinda makes women look stupid and degrading towards men, with actions like that, I feel a tad ashamed, just by having the same gender in common with those kind of women. Hell if your online, why would you send messages etc instigating your interested and/or attracted to someone, only to turn around and say you wouldn't ever meet anyone online in the real world? Fookn state that in your profile!! SSheeshhh "ladies" we give the guys a damn hard time, here, just to lead them into proving there sense of intentions and worth, so really women, we should be expecting nothing less than the same treatment. x Wet x

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  We usually send a message if we're interested... The times we send flirts is when we're not 100% sure if we're what that couple/guy/girl is after, or if we think it could be a fake profile... Just testing the water so to speak. if they flirt back as interested, we'll send a message. But really, as Platinum members, we'd much rather receive a message first up... No one has an excuse really...

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Thanks for the replies guys and gals, I hope some more pop up as well... Just wanted to say that after sending message after message (no templates either, all original), and getting little to no responses, i upgraded to platinum and started flirting in the hopes that some women might take the initiative if they were interested and send me a message for free... And to their credit, some have... Even if a few WERE fake lol. And to lovenlust, No, to be honest, Id rather receive nothing than something like a flirt that leads to yet another fake profile, or to another girl simply looking for a confidence boost by the attention. And also to all the women out there who DO reply, even with a template, i thank you! It really is just a simple courtesy. Jamie (The Hungry Gentleman digesting himself) *does that sound dirty???lol

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  being competitive is not just a bloke thing. most women are pretty competitive too. but where we have sport as an outlet they do not. even if we men don't actually play sport we can exercise our competitive nature by watching it and cheering a team on.. we understand being overtly competitive. for a whole bunch of socially wrong reasons, young women are not encouraged in anything like the same way to enjoy sport. so what outlet do they have? so many of them try to out sexy each other, play games to get attention and be manipulative. it's still a competitive outlet even though it's not driving a race car or chasing a footy. most people are products of their environment and social conditioning has a lot to answer for. covert competitive nature is a total mind fuck to me, i try to steer clear of it. but i'd never hold it against someone who is at a loss for a way to express them selves with out resorting to it. LRE (too much sport is barely enough)

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Hungry, people do things for all different reasons and we can really only summise why someone would send a flirt and then not respond to a message. Strange behaviour? Yep I think so but that's just my opinion based on how I behave. Ms Wet, its not just women who behave that way and it is certainly not just women who are players on this site though I do admit to being a bit over hearing that women get so many messages and flirts they can't respond to them. Having a template reply is an option AND a response and while not personal at least is courteous. I agree with Wet that if you are not up for meeting people you should say so. I have read profiles that say online chat only or social chat and I use the lock profile option when I am needing time out. Hungry, in an ideal world everyone would be polite and their behaviour would be rational and abnormalities could be explained. However, its not an ideal world and as the title of a book says "There's been a hundred years of psychotherapy and the world is getting worse!" so I don't know that we're ever going to understand people's behaviour, or change it. Wildly idealistic

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  But we have responded to flirts, with 'the pic' or 'only a guest' response in the past, and received a message in return. Sometimes we decide at that point that we don't want to go any further, but will make sure to return a message with our decision. Like yourself we have also received flirts from females (when we still had women in our looking for settings) all guests in our case, and sent a message in response. Only one of them ever bothered to get back to us (who we now consider a friend :-D) which is why we don't have women in our looking for settings anymore... We pay for the privilege of sending messages and resent wasting them on guests with a free membership who don't even have the decency to send a quick reply (besides templates, there are 'quick replies', similar to flirt replies, already set up ready to use at the click of a button) after they asked us to contact them... An interesting point to note is that we don't remember any fellas not replying ;-) About 10% of our messages are mainly from men and some couples to thank us for replying... humbling... thank you, on their behalf, Hungry :-) Stylishgangbangs... paid members get a limited amount of messages to send per day depending on their level of membership. Considering, assumed just from reading this thread, they get an extremely low response rate to flirts or messages, I imagine they prefer to send messages to people they believe they have a better chance of getting a response from. Not only that either... I can't imagine the time it would take to write a well thought out, pertinent to the profile message regularly... with the knowledge that the person on the other end may well not even bother to click a button in reply. Wild... I'll be interested to check out the book you mentioned... it continually amazes me that we live in a supposedly more 'civilised' society these days yet there seems to be a lack of honour, manners and good will a lot of the time, that seem to have been more prevalent in less 'civilised' times, when a hand shake was your bond and a 'person' was as good as their word, for example. MrsPeachy :-)

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Only for myself. Sometimes, as in my case, it can take time to answer. I just took nine days to answer a message from someone I had flirted with. Flirting can and does lead to further contact, so, I don't flirt with people I have no interest in. We're all different.... That's part of the fun... Just take it all, Very Lightly! Have Fun!!!

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Paying members have a limited amount of messages and flirts they can send but that only limits to a certain extent or time. I'm now at a stage where I'm lucky to find a female profile in NSW that is looking for a male that I haven't already sent a flirt and message to. Despite that I'm still waiting to meet someone irl from here and have no one that I am in proper contact with. So even if I had more flirts and messages available it wouldnt help because I've run out of people to use them on unless I start going over the ones I have already sent ones too. I should point out that I do not normally send messages to females that do not have my age group in their profile, or by reading the profile it is obvious they are not interested. Saves a little time that way. I do sometimes send a flirt to them to see if they may be interested though and if I received a positive response I would send a message.

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Ello stranger, now with the politeness out of the way... I have a bone to pick with you........re sporting activities.....you obviously have not been around me when the AFL is on, women do watch sports and drink beer too.......hell I release my competitive nature all season long...ya cheeky sod lol X Wet X

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  I don't bother sending flirts but send emails because I can say what I mean. After sending quite a few to all the girls around my age group I've had two replies - one saying "not interested" and another quite exciting reply which kind of fizzled out after a while. Replies are great even if you get the brush-off. I figure if somebody doesn't have the decency to reply they're probably not even worth getting to know. Apparently typing "sorry, not interested" is much too difficult for a lot of people. sensuous1956

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