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Blocking Etiquette vs Respecting Others

June 07 2018

Talking of blocking, I have a dilemma. Although most sites including this one will make a blocked profile try to make it look like there’s nothing wrong and it’s nothing personal, I still consider being blocked a little bit of a rejection and so I try not to do it to others unless I actively dislike them (almost never happens). What that means, though, is that I keep having profiles that have said they’re not into me appearing on the list of potentials. Is there a way to be able to have those profiles not show up for me without actively blocking them? Is there a way to just focus on the profiles that haven’t actively communicated disinterest without using a block? It would be great if there was a way to communicate to a profile “I’m totally open to talking with you and won’t prevent you talking to me, but since you’ve communicated your disinterest already, I’ll respect that and not keep flirting with you or messaging you”. It seems at the moment there is only “I actively refuse all contact with you because you’ve rejected me and I’ve retaliated in a childish way” which isn’t at all what I want to communicate. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

That all sounds a bit unnecessarily needy. You have no idea who or what is going on at the other side of the screen..... so why even bother trying to understand why someone doesn’t reply, or why they’ve blocked you UNLESS it’s clear that you messaged like the typical run of the mill dribbling sex offender in here. They had their reason, who knows why but it really doesn’t help asking why. It was THEIR reason. If you’re ignored or blocked, and you *genuinely* can’t see a reason why...... just move on down the road. But please get out of your head that they owe you anything. DG - Posted from rhpmobile

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MsJonesy

8 years ago

I'm also offering a handy tip; if they have said no - what you describe as disinterest - it is highly unlikely they will ever change their minds. So you may as well block them, whether that is in a literal sense on here, or in a figurative sense - be gone from my brain!

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RHP User

8 years ago

I don’t like to block people unless they’re a total douche. I communicate honesty and openly if I’m not interested. But from your side of the fence, I guess that would help avoid that occurrence. Or perhaps tweak your search filters? - Posted from rhpmobile

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AnnieWhichway

8 years ago

You need to ignore the recommenxed ones entirely. Half seem to be dead profiles or dummy ones. One of my x's keep coming up on the recommended hot girls for you list even though we had blocked each other. Just move on. Just ignore the lists. No need to block those that have declined you. Its wasted mental energy. Stay positive move forward in your search

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funfindersxx

8 years ago

We take the view, we are on this site to meet people If we get a reply to message we have sent saying we are not what they are looking for. We see no reason to ever view their profile again or them view ours, so we block its nothing personal as apparently we are not suited according to the other party.Its a simple matter of moving on.

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PeterAndLily

8 years ago

Thank you for all the great replies and your different perspectives and advice. - I’ve sort of settled on blocking people that just don’t fit for practical reasons. To clarify, no, I don’t live in eternal hope of people changing their mind, rather I like to treat people courteously. - Posted from rhpmobile

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FunLoving

8 years ago

We block if we are blocked first or somebody does not take no for an answer. We like people looking at our profile as often as they wish.

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