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Being considerate
July 08 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yeah i've been there. Everything was going fine and then they wouldn't answer my calls or messages! If they'd had a change of heart or if I somehow pissed them of I could understand that, it just would have been nice to have known. I figured it probably wasn't worth turning into a stalker just to hear them tell me something I probably wouldn't believe. Either way it was pretty obvious they didn't want to hear from me anymore. Life's too short to get stuck in some else's baggage!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yes had that a couple of times. We got along so well in chat/phone conversations and they seemed keen to meet but they were unverified profiles not sure if that had allot to do with it. We ended up taking a break from rhp for a while. You could say were a bit wiser now. The best advise we can offer you is don't get your hopes up to high as there's a lot of inconsiderate people out there. And if you do arrange a meet try and have a backup like meeting up with some friends in a cafe or club just so you don't totally waste your day/night..
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yep its not uncommon for it to happen, and not just from this site either. It's even worse when you have arranged for a sitter to take care of the kids, and regardless of the outcome....they have to be paid. Let's face it, some people are just arseholes and have no manners or no conscience. I try to make the best out of the free time I have if this happens, and just think that Karma is a bitch and it will get em.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'd lined up a threesome, the lady and I were ready and raring to go..... but the morning before the big event this other guy I'd invited wouldn't return our calls. That wingman made me look bad. My fault, I should have met him in person before hand to make certain he was genuine. Probably not even his own photos. Dickhead. Another time, a date fell through. We'd planned to go to Aarows because she had never been there and was curious. Not that curious it turned out as she never made it to the door... lol. But it is a sleazy place and first time in a joint like that can be intimidating so I wasnt too miffed. Besides, I still had fun. I take the good with the bad, I guess... but you are right. What's it take to say "I've changed my mind". Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey Jen, I think it just comes back to basic manners. If there is a change of plans whatever the reason then just say so. If I made a time with you , no way I wouldn't turn up, David
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RHP User
16 years ago
I have had flirts and i stuffed up as i was to meet someone at a club that night and i ended up in hospital that night. The next day i did text him and we meet up all day so i guess i tried to make up for it. I know i do not make promises unless i am going to do it as i could not leave anyone stringing. ree...
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RHP User
16 years ago
well well lifes a treat isnt it0--- what a surprise people not turning up- lol well at least they left u with fond memories of that plus frustration despair dissapointment etc etc--- i wonder if thats more fibre than the person itself:) always look for a silver lining
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RHP User
16 years ago
I agree with you Lusting, its a lack of basic manners. I know of one friend that arranged a sitter etc has even talked to the person about 10 mins before she left, and then turned up at the agreed place...only to receive a TEXT 30mins later with a message "not coming". Poor girl was upset. Just plain rude. At least have the courtesy of a phone call, if you cop a blasting, you darn well deserved it.(No there was no emergency in this case, he couldnt be stuffed) People make an effort, whether it is time off, arranging sitters, etc, have some respect. I'm sure people got better things to do then sit around waiting for disrespectful people. xx Miss Honey xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I've never not turned up, if I make a time I stick to it. Have had a few no shows, but generally I've found they're on here to get their jollies & aren't really that serious - especially the ones who are online 24/7.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think for a lot of people here they don't really know what they want. They come on here as a bit of a fantasy and then when it comes to crunch time they can't cope. We're lucky up here in QLD. There are plenty of clubs you can go to. Organising through RHP is pretty hit and miss from what I gather. Altho, all of my meets have followed thru, even when I was given fairly short notice. Just make sure the person really is who they say they are. In physical, emotional, mental and personality sides. Or just organise to meet at a club, and if they don't shop up, find someone else! :D Make the most of the moment.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well i've had it all, no shows, change of plans, time changes and there the good ones, sometimes i think its a power trip for people them knowing that they could of had you or whatever, i've never missed a date always plan ahead its all about manners.
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RHP User
16 years ago
i to have found myself e-mailing and chating to people thinking that our chat was going very well and thinking ive made a friend here only to never hear from them again real pity sometimes max
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yeah, same has happened to me, not here (I am new here) but on other sites. I have gone to meet people and sat around for awhile (in one case over 2 hours) and had no one turn up. A bit disappointing, I am shy myself but if you commit to meeting someone in person you should do it.
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RHP User
16 years ago
When I wasn't as stringent with my screening process, about 6 out of 7 people who asked to meet me never bothered showing up or saying why. They just dropped off the face of the earth. I've failed to meet people myself, twice. I felt terrible. The first time I completely forgot about it, the second time I gave the wrong restaurent name, thankfully the two restaurents were right next to each other, so I spent 30 minutes floating between the two restaurents in the freezing wind tunnel that is the Docklands in melbourne, hoping to catch my lunch date. Apparently he was there, and I thought I saw him on the way there (though I only had a vague memory of the one photo he grudgedly shown me 3 years ago to go on), but then he disappeared, and I couldn't see him at either restaurent. I did try to make amends for both, the second one, we've yet to agree on a time both suitable, I sleep during the day, and he can't make it at night. As for the first one, he stood me up on the second date as well as the third one. I didn't mind the second one, I figured I deserved that, but that third time was a bit much. These days, I don't make too much of an effort when meeting someone, I usually make arrangements to meet someone in the course of my day to day activities. ie. If i happen to be out shopping, I'll make arrangement to meet them at the shopping center that I'll probably be in and if they're there, great, if not, my day isn't disrupted by sitting around waiting at some cafe. I know it sounds terrible, but I refuse to rearrange my social schedule for anyone from online.
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RHP User
16 years ago
All to commom have lots of chats (private chats) lots of arrangments by there terms mainly to make them feel at ease .Then just before the meet they just drop off the planet .Or worst have a meeting with someone and you go buy there pics and honesty and they just dont look anything like ther pick without going into detail i gueess you all know the rest .We can understand the cold feet as we are a couple and they are one. Courtisy just to say sorry cant do it is all it takes
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RHP User
16 years ago
We have never had a no show, and have been lucky in that regard. It must be daunting for a woman to meet a couple for the first time, and did expect a no show, but it has never happened to us. That said there are alot of timewasters on here that just want to get their jollies as someone else put. Particularly younger woman who are maybe curious rather than ready. We too mourn the death of common courtesy and integrity.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Come on Shiloh, I looked at your page, and you are obviously an inteligent young woman, so you cant tell me you dont realise that there are lots of people on this site and others that live their lives and worse, their sex lives on line. Insecure people who talk the talk on line but are too insecure or scared to walk the walk in the real world..... It is sad but true. And yes, we agree that it is about manners and HONESTY! If you meet and dont click, that's life, get past it, but to not even turn up at a meet, yep, your right, that is just plain rude.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I try to reply to all flirts & messages, sometimes though you get the urge to ask "have you actually read my profile or reply to the flirt you sent" - I know what I'm looking for & the types of peeps I get on with. I get pissed off if I've said "sorry, thanks for the flirt/message, but you're not my type" & cop an abusive message back ! Got one yesterday from a couple (the guy was asking for discreet fun, bet the wife didn't know he used THEIR profile for that) who I had politely said "thanks, but no thanks" - next thing I get an utterly disgusting message back calling me everything under the sun (slut was mentioned). Call me old fashioned, I thought NO meant NO, not maybe.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Jen, et al, Yep we have both been "victims" of the dreaded NO SHOW.. My partner and I have seperate accounts and genrealy play that way.. but we have had no shows by guys gals and other couples.. I too think its just plain rudeness, luckily I deal with this kind of thing on a daily basis, and just shrug it off.. but it really annoys both of us when the missus gets stood up... After all, it only cost a few cents to call and cancell... its better than having someone waiting forever.... Cheers Mark
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RHP User
16 years ago
They will show, they will not show They will show, they will not show. Well from experience, we can say that it has happen about 50% of the time. And that’s in Darwin. (Sorry to bag Darwinite’s- but we have also met some great people also) In Brisbane only once out of 30 or so couples / singles. But one thing that boils my blood is when you go to meet a couple and only one person who has pretended to be a couple shows.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Call me old fashioned thats cool but I didn't waste my time joining this site to get my rocks off or however you put it. Yes I've spent a bit off time here getting to know my way around but thats because I'm interested to know how things work. In life you meet alot of differrent people some genuine some not so. but I hope I can judge.If not, well so be it but I'd never be as rude to say yes when really I meant no or maybe.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Gotta hate timewasters... we're all here to have fun, meet folks. So, reply to those messages & flirts! (Jen - Shiloh!!) Never, ever stand someone up... nasty. Cold feet, then watch a movie, go 4 a ride... don't waste time, mine or yours! Nerms!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Accept it or leave.
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RHP User
16 years ago
But thats only because your a guest, im a guest.......what to do, hmm??? lol
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tamworthguy46
16 years ago
Hey...I know your name now.....lol to you and nerms.....i allways respond to flirts,and messages, even if they are guys ...I have had a faily good run in meets over the years , well at least in the way, that if they get cold feet they will tell me, or apologise for not turning up etc...Im still a guest member so like yourself ,i don't send to many.....but when i do decide to get a membership i'l be geting in contact with you....I don't suppose you ever come to tamworth do you ? because i never go to darwin ! aj.
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RHP User
16 years ago
We have been lucky so far but we do have a stringent screen process.... 1) we dont contact or respond to guests, we figure if you are prepared to put up cash you must be at least partly serious 2) photos are a given of both parties and face shots again shows committment (and how do you know who you are meeting if you have never seen their face) 3) at least 1 msn chat with both parties not just one member of the couple 4) mobile phone number swap and I generally will call the female of the other couple to ensure she knows about the meet up 5) confirm on the day So far so good we haven't had a no show. I agree though it is rude and bad manners and a reflection on that person not you. You should be glad they didn't turn up if they are that spineless anyway. Kilee
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RHP User
16 years ago
Honestly, I would make a special trip, just for you!! If you wait until Saturday, I get my one free message a week again........youll be the one I use the message on!! And you should come to Darwin!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'd arranged to meet a fetching young lass, we'd messsaged on the site and SMS'd a few times to set it up. So I turned up to her place at the appointed time, only to be met by a couple of gay men. Now, I realise everybody tarts up their profiles a little bit - but I think turning yourself into a hot young _female_ when you're 2 overweight old bears is a bit beyond seeing yourself through a vaseline lens.Live and learn. Other than that its been all good :)
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