Attraction vs Fetishisation in the Lifestyle

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  Temptress_T

  3 months ago

  I hate labels in this lifestyle. For me it can lead to confusion and lack of understanding of wants and needs. The right to call someone a particular name is earnt not given. Starting a converstation with MILF, Bull, Cuck is a red flag for me. To be honest most do not even know what the terms really mean. For me it is about the entire package not just one part.

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  MrandMrsEss

  3 months ago

  I'm attracted to a wide variety of cultures and the looks that go with them but being married to an Asian woman I do cringe at the stereotypes and cringe more at how many people think I'll be on board when they express them. As far as your attraction to black men, with what you describe might I suggest you are meeting men that have the mindset to get out into the world and are well travelled and life educated more than any particular racial nuance? I know I find people who have immigrated here to be much more interesting and engaging that Aussies that are born and bred and consider Bali the epitome of cultural exploration.

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  selfless__lover

  3 months ago

  I think as humans we can be very simple creatures and so we have this inate urge to put labels on everything and ensure that everything and everyone fits into its own category, thus people using labels which can fetishize people and make them feel a bit gross. I have friends who are non binary or who can't define themselves as being straight, bisexual or gay, yet they constantly have to explain to people which category they fit into. One of my friends who is more fluid with his sexual orientation uses the term heteroflexible which can still upset people who believe everyone should choose a category or label and live or die by it. It's a very interesting discussion and does give you an idea of people's mindsets and thinking. I've found people often label themselves as "open minded" but then demonstrate a lack of tolerance when presented with something they don't agree with or enjoy personally.

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  Cucknshells

  3 months ago

  Thinking about this in regard to the fetish/ kink world I generally like labels as it helps bring together like minded people and provides a starting point of conversation. Yes some people see a label and make assumptions but that is true with most things. I find in that world that it is us who are labelling ourselves. I am Cucknshells. My husband is my cuck. He owns that and I embrace it. When connecting with someone I want them to know that upfront and to meet people who have experience with and have an understand of it. We all have different likes and dislikes. Some have specific kinks like BBC or liking older women. When talking to people about their kinks and why they have them it is varied and individual. You like what you like. I don’t think it’s degrading. Like I said it’s the individual who is advertising and owning that label. I suppose with everything it comes down to communication and not assuming and using what you can to find your person/ people. Shells xx

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  MsSuperFoxy

  3 months ago

  Everyone says “we like what we like”, until the label doesn’t suit them. Ms Foxy

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