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Attached Guys
December 11 2017
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Profile says single. But always get the message " Hey, what you doing? I'm horny and in your area right now!" As though your in your best lingerie just lounging around ready for a call. Unpaid prostitute. The hookups revolve around a third person, but your not having a threesome........
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RHP User
8 years ago
I definitely don't judge and actually used to prefer attached guys, found they knew how to keep their mouth shut, when it counted anyway 😉 However I now share the annoyance over having to cater to their needs. You know the first minor annoyance for me, or sign of things to come, is that messaging doesn't flow back and forth, waiting for a moment alone to be able to reply. From there, they can't host, they can't be seen in public with you, free time is limited and most often rushed, though not always, the paranoia about messaging and uploading pictures on here, the list goes on, with it all abour them. The worst thing? You can be really into each other, full on explosive meets, then they suddenly get an attack of the guilts and pull the plug. Had a guy do that once and I was devastated. I knew he wasn't mine but it was so bloody good between us. Left me high and dry. So what's in it for us? Not much hence why I don't generally go there anymore, knowingly at least. Fuck being hidden away too, definitely had enough of that 👎
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RHP User
8 years ago
Since you asked to hear from other chicks I'll say little.I'm one of those married men who gets sex outside of marriage. I never claim to be single in fact I always state at the outset that I'm married.Check out my profile if you like, or ask me anything you like either publicly or privately.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I encounter the same type of men here (online & locally) as well. I respect & don't judge others' situations or relationships. But they obviously don't respect MY desire to meet someone unattached or single. I don't know whether they think they're just that awesome that they'll change my mind or they just don't give a sh!t about what I want (suspect this is mostly the case!) - Posted from rhpmobile
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aussian43
8 years ago
The search function on here could be improved. You would think the attached/unattached criteria would be pretty fundamental, but if you check the looking for me box, it only looks at sex and age. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
It wouldn't matter how refined the search options were, it still requires the person to be honest on their profile and state attached. I have been lied to about someone being single, to be told at our second hook up 'I'm married' oops easy to forget lol. Funnily he is still on here as single. Attached people are just too much hassle, like has been mentioned previously there is always a third person to work around. Even guys in a open relationship will only be able to see you if the partner is busy or not available. Nah I'm single and I like my guys to be available too....life is too busy to always have to check with the third person.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Forgive me but are you telling me you're blaming the search function? Unless you're not reading profiles and randomly firing off template messages lol Am I the only one who's a little discerning here 😉
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aussian43
8 years ago
No, not blaming the search function for guys lying about their situation. And i can understand not wanting to get involved with someone who is attached. Just making an observation about how the interface on here can be misleading to some. It is annoying to see a list of potential matches, then seeing the dreaded unattached in many of the profiles. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Dirtyandfriendly
8 years ago
A lot of men out there are always looking for something on the side, married or attached sadly most think with their dick. It makes me laugh with the 5:30 am meet up for a quickie, it's just about them getting off. Last year I organised a threesome and had obviously countless replies from men and a lot were attached. To me it's the selfish act, I would organise a time for it to happen and they would want me to make it another time to suit them. Things I notice is their need for discretion, times they can only meet and vague details about their life. Always trust your instincts if things sound to good to be true or something doesn't sound right.
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RHP User
8 years ago
At the time of posting my last comment, comment by norush wasn't showing, so didn't make my comment off the back of that, just my personal thoughts 👍
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
Even if you make it very VERY clear, within your profile wording, that you are not looking for an attached male, many will simply ignore this simple request . Either they don’t bother to read through ones profile wording or they do, and simply try to take a chance regardless. The word “opportunists” springs to mind. There is not much one can do about it though . It’s the way it is on here. It’s a male thing. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sawadee
8 years ago
But being on a site such as this ( a adult site ) I think you must partly expect some of the kind of feedback your receiving.. Not that I agree , on the contrary' but we still don't all think the same... I haven't read your profile , but reading what you have to say ... Your post definately comes across as having higher expectations , maybe more than this type of site can offer.. You don't go to a fish shop to buy petrol right ? So coming here you're likely to get a certain percentage hoping for a easy root .. Some women are happy with that so it works well for them while others have higher expectations. There's heaps of things I see here I don't always agree with , and often say so .. Usually starts world war 3 but that's the nature of the beast...
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RHP User
8 years ago
New here so yet to experience that. Surely just being straight up and honest saves a whole lot of hassle and lets everyone get it on with who they want to get it on with without drama. I guess that sounds too much like common sense for some. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Freaky_Fun
8 years ago
just can't read full stop when it comes to profiles or topics. So many chicks with male profiles 🤔
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
If your going comment on the expectations of someone, at least read their profile. Not sure how you arrived at your conclusion. Her profile is quite straight forward and well written. Even the OP doesn't reflect what your putting across. Although you didn't address the OP, Im presuming you are. Old fashioned attitude. "Your honour. She had a short dress on and was obviously looking for sex...." Or "Your on an adult site so you should be expecting sleazy males to message you so stop complaining......"
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RHP User
8 years ago
Only last week, I had messages from three attached women pleading to come over to my home and offer their bodies to me for a fix of Lad-ness I told Beyoncé, Scarlet and Margot...... "no".... but they insisted and finally I just gave in to the begging just to make it stop! 😄 @sexy sub.... You set your expectations and your standards as high (or wherever) you like.... they're yours, and if others don't match up to them, that's their issue. Not yours. Asking that potential friends are not attached is very reasonable. If they play a game of lies and deception, then it is they who are unreasonable and earn the right to be treated in a manner you see fit. If they start with a lie and disrespecting your preferences, they can't complain when you decide they don't fit your preferences DG - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
And we are that way as being honest doesn’t deliver outcomes.... So... Given our primal instinct to fuck things, if it moves, fuck it...if it doesn’t, kick it!!! Lol I know that’s not the answer you wanted, nor is it an answer that will be very popular....but when you understand the motivation, you understand how to manage it better ... and screening becomes more refined... - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Men have no idea what it's like. Women have to wade through the inbox, select someone suitable that may fit the criteria. From that short-list, 40% who say they are single will in fact be attached. Then it's a matter of how much of our time is wasted finding out that really, the ideal meet time is their lunch hour or perhaps a married tradie has been rained off or has an rdo and would love to meet in the arvo. But really has to be home by dinner time as the wife has a roast on....
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RHP User
8 years ago
Anti Christ I wasn't sure you were the same stirrer from awhile ago...as I hadn't seen your favourite saying ' People are cunts' but now I am sure. Welcome back lol
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RHP User
8 years ago
“An inbox to wade through” yeah right. Sexy_sub5. Your a guest, so your doomed forever to wade through the shit that washes up on your beach, if you are a member you can be more selective, apart from the cash that also takes a bit of depth and substance to be able to handle the dreaded “no thanks”. 😎
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RHP User
8 years ago
pretty sad that your comment reads that honesty is a higher expectation.
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RHP User
8 years ago
lol in time for the wife's roast 😂
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RHP User
8 years ago
The one and only cunty mcCuntface himself my dear :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
As someone else mentioned, as a guest you will only ever be able to recieve messages and respond to them. As a member you can message anyone. Is this relevant? Perhaps, but it depends on the types and quality of profiles you are currently seeing from these men who aren't honest in their profile and are contacting you. Are their profiles only quite basic? Are there other things that are not quite right in their profiles? Or are they well written and insightful, seemingly well suited to what you want, but still not honest in the "attached" department? If it's the first things only, then being a member gives you the chance to go searching for profiles and contacting them on your own terms. Perhaps other people may have advice about whether dishonesty in the "attached" part has any correllation to the rest of their profile (or perhaps messages). There might be some things that raise a flag perhaps. (But who knows, I might have things that raise a flag too but I never know...) I always try to put a few paragraphs in my messages, in an attempt to show effort which I hope also shows honesty.
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FeistyFatty
8 years ago
Get over it. Nature of the beast. Unless you're planning on attaching yourself to one; what's the difference? Their availability doesn't suit yours? Woopdeedo; just another in one of he multitude of potential hurdles between initial contact and playtime. First world problems. Hopefully your bullshit/filtering skills will improve with time because it certainly aids the process. - Posted from rhpmobile
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twowithnolimits
8 years ago
we have a similar pet hate which also seems to be increasingly common...the single female who two or three messages in wants to bring her "fwb", single woman profile, no mention of a partner until you are talking meet times then suddenly she is a pair...often apparently "not a partner" just someone she knows who is really really keen for their first experience....really c'mon! there vent over LOL P&n
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SugarSugar69
8 years ago
twowithnolimits I'm a single female that has a regular "fwb" that I may sometimes suggest when chatting with other potential play mates. He is an option an added extra and NOT my partner so don't presume all single females play that game. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
So you're one of those 'it's a sec sure, why won't you root me' sort of guys? Heaven forbid a woman have 'higher expectations!!' Everyo - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm upfront about being married, it's in my profile under the lifestyle Tab so I would expect anyone that contacts me has read my profile. If a lady or couple has "unattached" then I won't make contact unless she or they (couple) chose to make contact first........ it's just common sense, and keeps it simple and uncomplicated
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AKAHunk
8 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Men have no idea what it's like. Women have to wade through the inbox, select someone suitable that may fit the criteria. From that short-list, 40% who say they are single will in fact be attached. Then it's a matter of how much of our time is wasted finding out that really, the ideal meet time is their lunch hour or perhaps a married tradie has been rained off or has an rdo and would love to meet in the arvo. But really has to be home by dinner time as the wife has a roast on.... Annie, I think you've nailed a big part of it on the head there....we males have no idea what it's like! We don't have an overflowing inbox, and you ladies don't need to lie about your attached-ness to meet up with someone for some fun. Most guys here won't care if you're single or not, they're just happy someones talking to them If we mere males could afford to be more fussy maybe we would start to be more understanding ;-) And hopefully that would bring about more honesty with their dealings!
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RHP User
8 years ago
...when your just ''that bad''. All those attached women just ... love me! Please please please....no more once off killer sex?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Triple A Attitude😍
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'Sailbadthesinner' “An inbox to wade through” yeah right. Well..... Paddle through at least
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RHP User
8 years ago
"*eye roll Get over it. Nature of the beast. Unless you're planning on attaching yourself to one; what's the difference? Their availability doesn't suit yours? Woopdeedo; just another in one of he multitude of potential hurdles between initial contact and playtime. First world problems. Hopefully your bullshit/filtering skills will improve with time because it certainly aids the process." Not a third world problem no, a good forum topic open for discussion. Right back atya with that eye roll honey 😏
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RHP User
8 years ago
Attached with permission is quite different to attached and cheating. Yes for quick play sessions only, it technically shouldn't interfere, except make mutual availability more difficult. But in my case, the other person's potentially jaded partner would be a man, and assuming he gets my details (phone, etc linked potentially to business, address etc) I have trusted to his (cheating) wife, the worst case scenario is not worth risking. If the woman has a "hall pass" etc, then I guess no worries. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'twowithnolimits' we have a similar pet hate which also seems to be increasingly common...the single female who two or three messages in wants to bring her "fwb", single woman profile, no mention of a partner until you are talking meet times then suddenly she is a pair...often apparently "not a partner" just someone she knows who is really really keen for their first experience....really c'mon! there vent over LOL P&n I know I sound naïve, but seriously? Blokes try this?
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm attached, and I say it on my profile. In general I respect the Unattached wishes of other people .. and if I did send a message, it contains something like .. 'I don't fit what you're after, I just wanted to say I enjoyed reading your profile' ...with no expectations We all have our readings for being here, meeting new friends is but one of mine ... my end point is, we're not bad. Don't tarnish us all with the same brush. Fxy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Im an honest open attached guy (clear in my profile)and find it almost impossible to find a date alone. I understand people want to find partners on this site but where are the ladies who want a good night out with dinner dancing and maybe a night of hot passionate sex. What do wemon want lol. Its disappointing guys lie but not all do...... mic - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Abi and I know many and practise it ourselves. The problem is typically verifying this without investing too much time and often it just isn't worth bothering with. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
My goodness- so many valid responses, thank you all. AnnieWhichway- yes I'm hardly going to be sitting around in my fine lingerie waiting! You're spot on with that comment lol As with us all- we put a bit of time into preparing for play sessions. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I too try to do the right thing as much as is possible. *yeah yeah I know, while doing the wrong thing* I agree RHP could be more helpful, my newsfeed page tells me about women who are "looking for me" one click soon shows me they're looking for unattached. Fortunately there are women out there who want to get together with the likes of us. Women like the farmer's wife who is sick of hubby's PE and selfish attitudes, or the divorcee who is happy to see Mr Right For Now until Mr Right For Her comes along. Oh and happy birthday to you today Mrs Farmer.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I’d love in box to have a wade through - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' My bullshit skills have certainly improved over time. LOL... you always make me smile. Over time, I've acquired the capacity to deliver more bullshit than a Kansas City stockyard could deliver...that's a lot!! They whack loads of cows and bulls there....anyway Google it if you like. Time for a hamburger for lunch. Kill another animal and super-size me!! SLH aka CM aka ....nope not tellin'
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RHP User
8 years ago
Wow what an interesting forum here. I don't understand how most guys think a quick "I'm in your area wanna hookup" message will get any positive results. Before sites like these existed we all (Men &Women) used to go out to bars and meet others..chatted, asked questions, found out about each other, danced, drank, connected, kissed, did shots and then only then was there the potential for more to maybe happen after. The best way to connect with any woman is through her mind first I feel. Quick one off messages won't work. Engage her mind, learn about her through chat and then perhaps great things can happen. It never hurts guys to get out to the bars, pubs, clubs and reactivate those conversational skills....practice makes perfect...and always be honest with her about your situation so she can decide what's best for her because if you really want to please her that should be your main focus. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Odd as it might be I rather prefer attached guys than single as it limits the possibility of them wanting more unless they are on the same page which seems very rare like unicorns. As have come across some guys asking me to leave my guy for them. I like being naughty but relationship isn't something I'm looking for here but saying that do admit have had guys claiming to be single till the moment u find them on social media with wedding pics and very much married. Lucky I take my time to know someone before taking the next time. Even had a guy claiming wife was ok about it then slipped in saying she doesn't know about it. I don't mind your personal life but just being honest about it. Somehow truth always cums out 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Regardless of whether this is an “Adult site” or not, honesty and integrity should be mandatory. We’re adults right??!! Some??!! And just because it’s an adult site, doesn’t mean everyone is just looking for a free hooker. There are options to date, friends and relationships. OP like you, I used to prefer attached men, preferably with permission, but their situation was theirs to deal with. Not my business. However that changed. In most cases, they expect you to respect their situation with no respect for myself or my situation. - Available on their terms only ! “ Oh I can just dump my kids cos you’re horny right?! Sure, I’ll be there in 5 mins” - Less respectful conversation. “ hey cop a dick pic!” “Love your boobs” - no interest in finding out about me as a person “So what’s your favourite position?” - don’t bother about asking to a date “ someone might see me, shared CC, you pay, I can’t book the room etc” - cancelations 🤬 “Oh I can’t now, kids, wife, dog ate my homework “ Now, I’ll only date single guys or those who can commit to weekends only. Pretty soon it will only be those willing to travel cos I’m sick of the last minute “I I can’t come now” after I’ve driven some distance and booked a room 😠 But that’s a new topic for another thread... in fact, I might start that soon 🧐 - Posted from rhpmobile
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nick42
8 years ago
this isn’t in response to any comment or directed at any person/profile so relax. it’s an observation, comment, question or whatever. is an attached guy claiming to be single the guy version of the girls claiming to want NSA fun, FWB, no commitment etc then two or three meets in trying to get all girlfriendy? ps i know ‘girlfriendy’ isn’t a word. feel free to correct me anyway. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Couple of suggestions which I think could help you. Firstly, you say you have a couples profile and your singles profile is with your wife's consent, yet you don't say the name of your couples profile. Definitely do that if you want women to believe you. Second thing that I would see as a red flag is saying you want to go straight to kik. Married guys always do 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Me personally I would never go to a attached guys They are not worth to be around the woman could be caught out if she is having a affair with the man - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm a Married woman and I prefer Married men. And when I was single, I preferred single men. It all boils down to your situation I reckon. You prefer someone in the same situation and understanding. I find single men annoying now coz they don't get where I'm coming from 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I get this a lot. Just because you are single, and on this site - some men do make assumptions that a) you are just here to be used and b) that your time isn't valuable and c) their relationship status is not your business. I personally don't want to be involved with a man in a relationship unless the partner knows. I have been cheated on before and don't want to be 'that woman' to any other woman. Regardless of circumstances. It is my choice and when that is taken away from me because the man has lied...it really pisses me off 😡 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
hi there me and my partner only ever found one true single female on this site she was so yum loved it she was so good. and yes totally agree with what your saying lots of fakes around, I wish I could meet her again shes no longer here :(
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RHP User
8 years ago
Dear Sexy_sub, I hear your frustrations and yes there’s isn’t any excuse. Especially those married. I must say I have seen your profile before this response and is definitely one I was instrested in seeing if things go further. It’s also true that the genuine ones get Missed or disregarded. You’re a beautiful woman. Best of luck. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well I am attached and have always stated that in my profile and I usually do not contact anyone if the profile reads only unattached men. Yes I may have contacted a few of them but that was just to compliment them on the profile or their pic and mentioned that on my messages. You may have had bad experiences but that doesn't mean that all guys are the same. Even women lie and men have to wear the brunt - but that doesn't mean all women are liars. It's a personal choice - you need to take the bad with the good. And as someone already said before - I get sex only outside marriage since wife doesn't like sex. I can use the services of a young 20 year old girl but I prefer to meet up nice people connect with them rather than just have sex. You sometimes need to compromise on time and availability as most people here look for discretion. Apologies for the lengthy response - hope haven't offended anyone. Regards Charmer - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
"In most cases, they expect you to respect their situation with no respect for myself or my situation." Yes, that right there, unfortunately not restricted to just married men sigh
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RHP User
8 years ago
Guys are generally douche bags who will say anything in order to get off. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Up front i am a male, i am on RHP, i am married and i agree with everything stated in this original post, and responses. In my profile I am 100%up front, i do not hide it in any way. Believe me or not i think that is fair and absolutely the right thing to do. I also respect those who clearly state unattached only. Plus when i search i search for married or attached, but i have at times added seperated, my apologies if that offends anyone. But while we all love sex i dont treat this as a trophy hunting venture, o am well capable of intelligent and mutual chat and i enjoy that. Sex may result but if so only because both want it, because it feels right and everything is on mutual terms. Clearly many are different, i just wanted to be clear that we are not all that way. However, i have had women contact me just to abuse me for being on here and married, which tbey only knew because im up front. It may not make sense to some, but we are all different and our circumstances are not always the same. But again, i totally agree with the original post and every woman on here needs to be respected as a person. And yes, this is the real. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Aaw c'mon tell us what you really think.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Tonigirl8' I get this a lot. Just because you are single, and on this site - some men do make assumptions that a) you are just here to be used and b) that your time isn't valuable and c) their relationship status is not your business. I personally don't want to be involved with a man in a relationship unless the partner knows. I have been cheated on before and don't want to be 'that woman' to any other woman. Regardless of circumstances. It is my choice and when that is taken away from me because the man has lied...it really pisses me off 😡 - Posted from rhpmobile Me to, exact same. But Im honest up front and say I am married, so I like the chick to be married to, more trusting. Also, its a turn on to be with a married chick/ someone else wife.
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RHP User
8 years ago
It can be the same for us blokes to. Ive had some contact on here with a number of ladies, both being contacted by them and me making first contact. The conversation goes well for awhile then goes cold, even made plans to meet up. Im not sure if its that they are married or just got cold feet or maybe a better offer lol. Im not about to speculate what the issue was, could be a multitude of reasons. Im sure theres plenty of men and women on here that are cheating on their partners but just because they cease contact doesnt mean theyre all attatched. It might be just you. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thank you, you've listed many examples I could have posted in my initial post. x Thank you to many others too that have had similar experiences and shared their story. Honesty and being genuine are a common theme in this thread. And I'm sure it doesn't relate to just attached guys. My summary to attached guys being secretive- I'm a swinger and that does not make me an easy root, you want quick, fun, adventurous sex- pay a professional for their time. I have feelings, preferences and an honest life. I'm not going to take the risk and potentially have your partner find out about me. I wanted to find out whether this was occurring more and more for others on RHP- it seems to me that too many 'secretive' people are joining thinking it's a place to find a hook up- on their terms only. Maybe it's the world of internet dating/sex whatever- Easy come- easy go! - Posted from rhpmobile
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technologic
8 years ago
Thanks for posting! So far we haven't 'dicovered' any guys who were lying about their relationship status yet but have been approached by a number of guys who are honest about their married status. The interesting part is most of them claim that they're in a sexless relationship and wish they can divorce but they have to stick together for the kids so he's resorting to RHP for sexual fulfillment. Has tried talking to her but she refuses to accommodate/is very conservative. I think this is very possibly a true situation but how often is this REALLY true? Would a support group for guys who are genuinely in this situation be more helpful to coach them on how they can talk honestly with their partners & find SOME form of resolution? Apologies, I am digressing. Just reflecting on our own experience. 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'SugarSnaps69' twowithnolimits I'm a single female that has a regular "fwb" that I may sometimes suggest when chatting with other potential play mates. He is an option an added extra and NOT my partner so don't presume all single females play that game. - Posted from rhpmobile ......same here. A while back in my previous single female profile, I stated that I had a long term, trusted FWB who is quite hot actually and that he would be interested in meeting others for 3somes or 4somes with myself included.He had no sex/dating site profile at that time and did not wish to have one at all, either as a single guy or as a "FWB couple" with me.So he asked if I could state in my profile that I had a male friend that would like to join me in sexual liaisons with others and that I could provide photos of him via phone or email to start the ball rolling.He trusted my judgement and was very willing to attend meet and greets with anyone I thought would be suitable for us and have a chat with them to ensure we all clicked and were on the same page prior to organising a play meet.I only got 2 or 3 queries about this scenario but ended up being ghosted by those who initiated messages/enquiries.I think people are suspicious about this kind of scenario and won't give the benefit of the doubt.Shame about that but understandable given there are so many people on these sites who aren't who they claim to be.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Nikki and I met a unicorn (from another site) for a coffee and she comfortably spoke of playing regularly while sneaking away from hubby. Even while pregnant and the topic of the next child. It didn’t sit very well with us inspite if the rarity of unicorns. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree with your concerns because it makes many ladies more sceptical and then harder for the single guy. Now I know there may be a few blocks saying it’s because I can’t get a lady but it’s not the case. Given what these men say and do does impact us sungle guys. Good luck ladies. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
As a genuinely single man who doesn't have an "inbox to wade through" I'm concerned that I'm being overlooked because it's assumed that my stated single status is regarded as not being genuine. I recently went to the Melbourne meet and greet and I was asked about how I was going and I replied that as a single guy I wasn't doing ok at all to which the reply was "you'll do ok if you're not an arsehole" I can only assume I'm regarded as such as a default position! Be careful about throwing the baby out with the bath water!. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Can someone please tell me what a unicorn is? I want to know if I am one! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
In addition to the current discussion, as for single ladies, I typically assume any single woman (or any woman for that matter) has at least one fb/fwb etc in their life, unless proven otherwise. If it says single, I assume that means she is not in a relationship/in love with any. As for honesty, I don't look at guys' profiles much, but I see many women who are at least openly honest that they have either a hall pass, or are looking for something secret on the side. I don't see how men lying helps their own cause, as I assume they would be found out very quickly in any case, and then have to go through the whole process again. Unless of course they get a sense of accomplishment from having fooled someone, or perhaps treating it as a "roleplay" of a single guy. Then again, if you're a con artist and people can tell, you're not a very good one.
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Mctag9
8 years ago
Quoting 'technologic' Thanks for posting! So far we haven't 'dicovered' any guys who were lying about their relationship status yet but have been approached by a number of guys who are honest about their married status. The interesting part is most of them claim that they're in a sexless relationship and wish they can divorce but they have to stick together for the kids so he's resorting to RHP for sexual fulfillment. Has tried talking to her but she refuses to accommodate/is very conservative. I think this is very possibly a true situation but how often is this REALLY true? Would a support group for guys who are genuinely in this situation be more helpful to coach them on how they can talk honestly with their partners & find SOME form of resolution? Apologies, I am digressing. Just reflecting on our own experience. 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile This is very common I think, this was pretty much my situation and I was open on RHP about being married and playing without my wife's knowledge - I was in a loveless and sexless marriage and my twisted logic was that it was physical fun only and there was little chance of getting emotionally involved and having an affair. I was a player before I got married, but tried to do what society expects and be faithful and monogamous to my wife - I don't believe monogamy is natural, I love group play and I couldn't do it... I was not brave enough or prepared to put my wife and children through a separation and break up of the family but eventually came to the conclusion that I had to separate or we would both remain miserable which is bad for everyone!! The break up was hard for everyone but we are all better for it... I'm now happily single and having fun but hope one day to find a partner with similar views as me and with whom I can have an emotional attachment - I'm not desperate and I know the odds are slim of finding such a person but I'm having fun from now on regardless... :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
There is/are support groups for PEOPLE in sexless marriage. There are also plenty of us who have no intention of divorcing our spouse. We even have adult kids. We form a subgroup who want to remain married and have a sex life. How we do that is our business.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree that having people be deceitful is frustrating. I have to say one of the things that annoys me most is the number of profiles that say they are looking for, men, couples, groups. And then have unattached. Either your open to couples - which means attached, or your not. It’s on of my pet peeves— end of rant! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
There are gross misconceptions on this site pertaining to a man's status! *Attached / separated = too hard has, baggage. *Single = sleaze bag WTF 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I like how the chore of working your way through to find a suitable partner is the main issue... convenience seems to be the issue. Easly resolved is looking at peoples profiles that a) show pictures b) seem open. This seems to be a easy solution to closet cheaters...? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sometimes girls don’t read your profile in full, after a few messaages back and forth you notice their profile says looking for “unattached” - Often have to proactively draw their attention to their “oversight” and set them back on their stated course to avoid any form of disappointment later on. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
"a) show pictures b) seem open" Nope, stolen pictures are used a LOT, only have to look around the forum 😎 and seem open? lol let's say some have finely tuned their craft. Not all liars are illiterate or unwilling to have a conversation, although that last one can become obvious with hindsight sometimes 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
"Either your open to couples - which means attached, or your not" No, what they're specifying is couples are of interest, single attached are not 👍 are you confused? 😂😂
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Jimmy0311
8 years ago
We are all on this site for our own reason/s and we should all consider and respect each other without being judgemental. Disclosing that your attached I think are an absolute for so many reasons. That said it is difficult to say the least if you are attached to get interest from willing friends/playmates. Additionally being attached does throw some logistical issues into the mix as stated earlier with a third person needing to be considered. But it is not impossible. - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Quoting 'technologic' Thanks for posting! So far we haven't 'dicovered' any guys who were lying about their relationship status yet but have been approached by a number of guys who are honest about their married status. The interesting part is most of them claim that they're in a sexless relationship and wish they can divorce but they have to stick together for the kids so he's resorting to RHP for sexual fulfillment. Has tried talking to her but she refuses to accommodate/is very conservative. I think this is very possibly a true situation but how often is this REALLY true? Off topic sorry OP.... but.....I actually think its very common as people get older and have had long term relationships. Most of my married girlfriends winge about their sex lives and having sex with their partners. Majority of them say they could take it or leave it and/or wish they didn't have to. Also some of them are married to nice guys who are attractive. One in particular. I asked her in a vague kind of way would she every consider sharing him for sex with another woman. She said no...BOO..... TBH I would never go there. Sisters before misters. ...he is hot though LOL... and it is a waste..... Good forum topic to start technologic.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Philacrocorax' Since you asked to hear from other chicks I'll say little.I'm one of those married men who gets sex outside of marriage. I never claim to be single in fact I always state at the outset that I'm married.Check out my profile if you like, or ask me anything you like either publicly or privately. Same here not all the same do not judge everyone male or female as being the same, openly married and say so from the get go everyone's situation is different. I would never contact another member that is looking for "unattached" I respect everyone's situation & choices, & expect same in return. I have found as soon as get noticed as being "Married" immediately labeled as a cheat, my wife knows what is going on & tell her everything well maybe not the intimate details but she knows exactly what is going on and supports it even hooking me up with her friends.
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RHP User
8 years ago
We don't want single guys .. yet there are many who think that rules don't apply or that they are special. It is a courteous virtue that lacks in many to read something fundamental and ignore it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Irish4u
8 years ago
As many liars as dreamers on this site as there are on others. - Posted from rhpmobile
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what_you_see
8 years ago
Being a married man on this site I can see where the ladies are coming from. My wife who is on here also as a married woman gets lots n lots of requests from single and attached and married guys but yours truly has none. It's says ladies have a different set of values than men , hence guys will lie because if they tell the truth there is none to little chance of hooking up. - Posted from rhpmobile
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sensualandsassy
8 years ago
It's a shame that more people can't be honest in regards to their status. It is their decision to step outside of their relationship and mine to not be involved... please respect my choice to keep things less complicated. My profile clearly states to please not contact me if you are attached (if the lady half is involved the chance is I may be too), yet over and over you get messages from attached people. I'm starting to wonder if anyone reads the profiles or just looks at the pictures ;) It also does a massive disservice to the honest people out there when after a while you question the honesty of everyone. Unfortunately it does make you question men and their integrity. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hmmm read the first two pages but not the rest, sorry. Ladies, you have to wade through all those messages on your guest account? I've stopped being sad for you. You reap what you sow-so go off to your toy boys and badboys and deal with the microclimate YOU have created. Try being an honest, half-sensitive, married guy on here... I've recently set about destroying my account (because you can't delete it) after just one too many subtle insults.... honestly I had more interesting conversations and met more lovely people on a non-sex site (where I was also honest about being married and in a mutually agreed and permissive marriage) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Id be happy with SOMETHING in my inbox! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Tender egos, men or boys 😏 bit of a hypocrite there too sailorboy. Aren't you the one whinging all the time about filtering 🐒
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm new to this site and also state on my profile, unattached and no married men. I don't judge or blame men for wanting to go beyond their marriage or relationship for whatever reason and especially if their marriage is "devoid of bedroom fun". What I do judge however is when I've chatted to them for a while and think they sound sincere enough to meet and maybe go further but then they can't make the meet up for family reasons. They arrange another time only to cancel again for fear of being found out. I did met one guy and I would have happily been his "mistress" until he made rules for me follow - no makeup, lipstick or perfume - so needless to say that ended abruptly. These are my experiences only and I'm not saying that I'll totally rule out seeing married or attached men but for me they are in the "TOO HARD BASKET" - Posted from rhpmobile
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technologic
8 years ago
Philacrocorax & Earthqueen: I think the main issue is whether there is consent from all involved. This could take many years to achieve and it will take skill to maneuver around maintaining that consent IF it wasn't naturally given in the first place. Question is whether the one who needs more has the patience to wait & whether both parties want to LEARN how to manage it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes. I used to have a lot of car sex 😇 I could count on one hand when that happened in their car, only a few guys. Others would always make up an excuse or skirt around the question. Granted I'm messy but most single guys love that. The others, me thinks they didn't want the trace evidence 😀
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RHP User
8 years ago
one guy was single but had just bought his car, spent the whole meet mopping up with paper towels lol needless to say, it didn't go well
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
The door is a little hard to find. It's in the account/profile section, I think under preference s. Tick the box and your account vaporisers. Can't be sure exactly where as they don't give cd\tv and women the option to disappear easily. We are a valued commodity here, swimming in our inboxes. Did l say swimming? I meant splashing.......
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RHP User
8 years ago
Im attached and say it. Wat gets me is what this site is all about. (Having fun with sex) and then you get people have a thing. Or get in to you because your married. Lot of girls are way to full of themselves these days. Dont even bother getting to know someone. Whi know that person might change your life. Well thats just me 😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
It always cracks me up these types of topics lol... as some men and some woman do this or sneaky things in general. Responding to the first message, if this is happening more and more often to you maybe the fellas you are talking to are dicks lol or if someone when says it, its prolly just a polite way of saying they dont wanna meet, even tho it is a bullshit way of doing it. I think we've all had at some points in time after chatting and then time to meet, been fed a story... the kid excuse, im not ready to meet anyone atm, my car broke down, can you get gear?, i dont think your into the same things as me, i am not here to be used, my ex husband keeps on hopping into my bed, i am still married but dont love him, im not into younger guys, im not into older guys, i like older, i like younger, i miss my exhusband etc... then theres the ones that have a list of characteristics, grooming techniques, career, physic, political views, work commitments, personal commitment, performance/technique, fashion sense... that they want. Sometimes its because theyve decided im not their cup of tea but to polite to say, their a troll that is only after validation but from a far or they have purely just chickened out... But who really knows... yehh i prefer to meet, but if it doesnt happen well no foul no harm... life goes on for all ☺☺ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'maxpain' Lot of girls are way to full of themselves these days. ''I'm shitty that women are exercising their right to make their own choices about who they want to fuck, and a lot of them won't fuck me because I'm cheating (or for various other reasons).'' Fixed it for you
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Freaky_Fun
8 years ago
Phew I'm glad you fixed it before l did, you're a little more eloquent than me 😂😂😂 Love how the OP asked for chicks feedback. Yet every married/attached/it's complicated/open relationship guy on the planet feels the need to justify why they do what they do. That wasn't the question 🙄. OP wanted to know why she gets messages from married men when she states she is looking for unattached men. But it appears you're all too busy trying to tell us why you would be the best thing since sliced bread if we go there. Maybe one of you could start a forum topic up about why you do what you do and then you will have people to compare excuses with and have a whinge to.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Unattached means Unattached If it is clear on your profile then that's what it means.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Haha that's bloody brilliant 😂😂
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RHP User
8 years ago
Too Hard Basket! 😂 Ok so this is my first post on any forum here and as an attached lad thought I’d add my two cents . I started out stating single on my profile and was soon questioned about it. After coming clean I decided to change it and do believe honesty is the best policy, even if it means lowering my chances. I find some of the comments amusing and it just goes to show how differently we all think, especially men and women. Anyway thought some of you might like to watch this video that explains the difference between how women and men think.✌🏽 The tale of two brains - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
😀
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j_jones1969
8 years ago
Something about book, cover, blurb here that just ain't ringin' true for some... Interesting pun in that too! - Posted from rhpmobile
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