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Are RHP Woman Interested in Swinging ?
June 18 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hi OP, I guess what you are looking for is some one to go to a swingers club with and want to find out how easy it is for women to hook up with some to go to the club... Singles both female and male are welcome at most swingers clubs the problem is the cost if you are a single male. Single females do not have such a big impost. Couples tend to be the cheapest. So why look for some to go with you ? Your are good looking guy and i would think that provided you have the ability to have a good chat you would not have a real problem hooking up. Your chance would be increased a great deal if you were Bi as couples often like to play as a couple so being open to some sword play would be a bonus. LC
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RHP User
10 years ago
OP, Reposting a forum tends to be frowned on especially if it was recent : http://www.redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Swingers-Clubs-43504 LC
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HotandBig
10 years ago
I appreciate your reply to this topic and your view.. It is correct! I am looking to find a Female here that is also on the same mindset and looking to explore or have explored the swinging scene and would love to include me to join her into this great lifestyle. I am not so much worried about the cost involved but rather for a single male some clubs do offer a night where a single male can attend provided the numbers of single males are kept equal, however i am mostly interested in couples only nights where the attendance is greatly larger and more amazing! I have found that it can be quite hard even for a good looking guy like me to find any single or attached woman that is willing to explore the scene together. I know there single girls that go on there own to swingers clubs and parties on couples nights and wondering if they would ever consider taking a guy with them via RHP or other. I am totally st8 however i don't have an issue with swinging and playing with couples which i have done many times and love! tho still strictly st8.
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HotandBig
10 years ago
By the way that post is not recent and about a year and Half old.. no comments so not really and issue there
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RHP User
10 years ago
But the only Swingers club in Perth I know of has a couples night on Saturdays and a more open night on the Friday. Personally I find the Fridays tend to be more busy and social as there are A LOT more single guys than couples/single women. Saturdays are hit and miss depending on the crowd but tend to have more play. And personally I dont think being bi will play a greater role in playing with couples at all. I think the majority of men in swinging couples are straight and some are scared off by having a bi male in the action with them. I'd say your best bet OP is to make friends with a woman first and foremost, then see if she'd like to accompany you. Oh, and I'll just say...single women are usually the ones who pay the least on the door, then couples, then single men
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
if you get out of the sun you won't be so hot.... and the big... well the 'good looking' self description takes care of that. So what is in it for her??? Swinging together takes trust and understanding, a good level of communication, trust and most importantly, an acknowledgement that you are interested in her not just the experiences she may help facilitate. Did I mention trust - I'm so forgetful. How are you going to build all that with this woman you seek?
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HotandBig
10 years ago
Thank you for your post ! very helpful! here in Sydney its pretty much the other way around, thus more fun when you are part of a couple exploring the swingers scene. Quoting 'The_3somes' But the only Swingers club in Perth I know of has a couples night on Saturdays and a more open night on the Friday. Personally I find the Fridays tend to be more busy and social as there are A LOT more single guys than couples/single women. Saturdays are hit and miss depending on the crowd but tend to have more play. And personally I dont think being bi will play a greater role in playing with couples at all. I think the majority of men in swinging couples are straight and some are scared off by having a bi male in the action with them. I'd say your best bet OP is to make friends with a woman first and foremost, then see if she'd like to accompany you. Oh, and I'll just say...single women are usually the ones who pay the least on the door, then couples, then single men
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HotandBig
10 years ago
Thank you KISSK for your feedback! and very Valid points i must say! Yes Trust is a Huge Factor and so i do like to form a great relationship / chemistry before exploring the scene with the Gorgeous Female but also sometime it is ALSO great to take a chance and live a little and not worry about the formalities! I like spontaneous sexual / adventures and sometimes not knowing is very exciting! I Offer Respect! Trust ! great conversation and an AMAZING Sexual adventure!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have taken a few RHP men to swingers clubs... sometimes as friends so they can see the sights and sometimes as a first date. Although these days I would only take someone I had built up a bit of a rapport with or knew well from the forums. Can't be bothered with strangers. I disagree with KissK about the trust stuff. With an FWB it's just a bit of fun, if you have respect for each other i am not really sure where the trust is supposed to come in? Alas, I am have been hibernating for a really long time so haven't gone to any clubs/parties for about 8 mths (i think).
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RHP User
10 years ago
...where I had 3 lovely single ladies take me to a swingers club. I felt like a piece of meat. And yes, Loved every minute... Bragging aside, I've also been to a couple with couples. Entry fees are always non-negotiable, and I never played (not really my thing. I love the social aspect and surroundings), but I had a blast, and found it really easy to mingle with things. Also, the couples that took me were extremely courteous, and make me feel really comfortable. If you get the opportunity with the right couple, I would definitely take up the offer...
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
Trust would make sure I didn't end up with that plug up my arse without knowing it's on the way
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hahaha yeah I agree with you Kissk I'd like to know when that plug of Meeks is coming at me too…..
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HotandBig
10 years ago
I thank you for your feedback and love that you are totally cool taking RHP men to swingers ( just wish i was one of them ) and yes its all about FUN and Respect!! You sound Awesome! Love the pic to by the way!
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HotandBig
10 years ago
I am so glad you mentioned the experience you had! i have to found ( for my first experience ) that people men and woman are very helpful, polite and extremely cool and easy to talk to which really made the experience memorable. By the way you going with three girls is JUST A DREAM!! thats hot!..
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RHP User
10 years ago
Why don't you just go by yourself? As a single woman who goes to a swingers club, I find it off putting when a single guys comes along with a female friend. I feel like I need to compete with her or get her permission to play with her friend. A single guy attending by himself is impressive because it shows you are confident enough to go alone and not a chicken shit. LOL
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have been asked countless times by single men, to take them to the swingers club, but I have learnt the hard way that its generally not a good idea unless I know the guy very well and the rules are clear. If I take a guy, I feel obligated to make sure he is ok, and having fun etc. Its also a risk that he will act like a dickhead and I'll be the one that brought him along. No thanks! It fair more fun for me to go by myself where I do can what I want with who I want, whenever I want.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't want to speak for the million of so women on RHP but I personally know a few dozen that do like to swing and about the same that don't. I have been swinging many times with women that have not been before. They seem to make the best partners for a guy that is in the scene to invite. I dont take them to get my end wet, its a swingers club, its easy to get my end wet. I take them to make it an easier introduction, they are curious, and having someone they can trust makes it a less daunting experience. Usually when they have relaxed they go mingle what ever that may be. At the end i take them home. Some come back for more others don't. Each to their own. The idea is for them to enjoy them selves and thus i make it very clear that I am merely an escort to show them around, nothing more. There are some guys who want to take a girl for the soul purpose of getting sex. You may be lucky but on the whole this is not the way to get people interested. If they have a fun night, unpressured and relaxed they are more likely to return. Too many times have I seen guys all over the women they invited along expecting something they are not going to get, and the poor woman wishing she had not come. men mehh So Op you should look for a lady that knows the ropes and is happy to escort you in. It works both ways. The problem is finding them on here. That will be a problem, but stating what you want clearly on your profile may help them find you. Remember you are not going to get root, you are going to see what its like. Get the sex out of your mind and then its easy to find a friend. If you are going for the soul purpose of getting some it might help to keep your fingers crossed.
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Hottie1
10 years ago
About going to an adult cinema with a gorgeous man. I said yes immediately because I can 'trust' that he will look out for me and me him, I get were Kissk is coming from. I'd like to think of myself as a mentor and I would take a single guy to a club or party (I play without hubby at times) but like Meeka said, I'd need to have some sort of rapport with them. Lately, I've been hit up by a couple of guys I've never met or had any conversations with ask me to take them to a club - No thanks! Mary xx
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HotandBig
10 years ago
Quoting 'Kisskiss80' Why don't you just go by yourself? As a single woman who goes to a swingers club, I find it off putting when a single guys comes along with a female friend. I feel like I need to compete with her or get her permission to play with her friend. A single guy attending by himself is impressive because it shows you are confident enough to go alone and not a chicken shit. LOL WOW That is Some very Interesting Point of View which has totally given me another point of perspective. I Think its Great and Hot that you like to be free as a bird while exploring.. I Have been to one of the Swingers Clubs here in Sydney that offers SINGLE Male entrance for only a selected nights which is probably not the most busy or happening time to go to and have quite enjoyed the experience Tho for Single males you are limited for entry Specially during FRIDAY and SAT nights where its the most attendance by couples and single females. So Strict Single Females and Couples apply here thus why Us Single Guys cant get in unless we are couples up. Otherwise I don't have any issues and VERY Confident to walk in feel extremely comfortable.
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HotandBig
10 years ago
Quoting 'ag4mg92' About going to an adult cinema with a gorgeous man. I said yes immediately because I can 'trust' that he will look out for me and me him, I get were Kissk is coming from. I'd like to think of myself as a mentor and I would take a single guy to a club or party (I play without hubby at times) but like Meeka said, I'd need to have some sort of rapport with them. Lately, I've been hit up by a couple of guys I've never met or had any conversations with ask me to take them to a club - No thanks! Mary xx Yes i totally agree with you and i also am in the same mindset where I find that going with a Female on couples night would make my experience that more special and i don't ever expect anything more than a great company. Valid points and thanks for your feedback.
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HotandBig
10 years ago
Quoting 'ag4mg92' About going to an adult cinema with a gorgeous man. I said yes immediately because I can 'trust' that he will look out for me and me him, I get were Kissk is coming from. I'd like to think of myself as a mentor and I would take a single guy to a club or party (I play without hubby at times) but like Meeka said, I'd need to have some sort of rapport with them. Lately, I've been hit up by a couple of guys I've never met or had any conversations with ask me to take them to a club - No thanks! Mary xx Thank you for your great feedback, i totally understand and respect your point of view.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Perth, I'll go with you
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'ag4mg92' About going to an adult cinema with a gorgeous man. I said yes immediately because I can 'trust' that he will look out for me and me him, I get were Kissk is coming from. I'd like to think of myself as a mentor and I would take a single guy to a club or party (I play without hubby at times) but like Meeka said, I'd need to have some sort of rapport with them. Lately, I've been hit up by a couple of guys I've never met or had any conversations with ask me to take them to a club - No thanks! Mary xx I should clarify, I am have taken people I have not met before to parties and swingers clubs, however the places we went to were familiar to me, I have been to them before and knew that I would be safe there and feel comfortable there. I would not go to a place I was uncertain of, particular when it is more than likely it would be full of men, with a guy that I didn't know well. It would always have to be with someone I trusted not to be a dickhead.
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HotandBig
10 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself' Perth, I'll go with you I would be Honored to go with you I_touch_myself. xxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
If you want to try it out, grow some and go along one night. If it's a lifestyle and you want to meet a lady interested in this lifestyle, then you'll need to go where they are... and my guess is you'll find these ladies at swingers clubs, so I refer back to the first point... grow some and go along :p
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'VerticalDancer' If you want to try it out, grow some and go along one night. If it's a lifestyle and you want to meet a lady interested in this lifestyle, then you'll need to go where they are... and my guess is you'll find these ladies at swingers clubs, so I refer back to the first point... grow some and go along :p He has gone on his own, but anyone who has gone on the nights that single blokes go knows that the experience is very different to the usual nights. Theme nights can be huge nights with loads of people and lots of girl on girl action... something you don't really experience in the Sydney clubs on the couples + single guy nights. Hence the reason why he would like to find a woman interested in going so that he experience more wilder nights.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'VerticalDancer' If you want to try it out, grow some and go along one night. If it's a lifestyle and you want to meet a lady interested in this lifestyle, then you'll need to go where they are... and my guess is you'll find these ladies at swingers clubs, so I refer back to the first point... grow some and go along :p has to 'grow some', I think he already has
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HotandBig
10 years ago
Thank you for your comments Gorgeous Woman!! Vertical Dancer i guess you are still a BOY and NOT and MAN.. thus woman are always attracted to MEN ... keep that in your Advice Booklet!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I misread the OP as another thread of wanting to find a woman to hold his hand to go to one of these clubs. Yes, I can certainly understand wanting to go with a friend. But my experience is that if you go enough you make friends there, and things possibly blossom with someone :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Wanted! Sexy, classy and sexually aware woman to accompany me to couples events, swingers clubs and all the stuff that suits! Must be available once a week and no strings, just for fun, laughs and new experiences!!!
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RHP User
9 years ago
No. You must be available when I want. Or no go. :P
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RHP User
9 years ago
I haven't attended a swingers club as yet but I'd imagine it would be sexual arousing to be preyed upon by seasoned couples wanting to devour a single man! lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
^sexually - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I've been going to a club in Perth for the last 3 and a half years. I have only ever gone with a partner a handful of times. So much better going alone! - Posted from rhpmobile
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johnisfun3
9 years ago
I have been also trying to find a partner to go to one of the swingers party but no luck so far. Few years ago I went to a club in Surry Hills. As I am a shy person I found it bit daunting trying to talk to people wearing just a sarong. I thought it could be easier and more fun going with another female. Thanks Blindman... What you said makes sense letting people know what your intention are and you are after a companion and not after easy one. After reading some of the females experiences I am not surprised its going to be hard finding a partner to go to one of the clubs as a couple. There are all kinds of men and some overly keen and eager ones would have spoiled many parties. But as I am new I am learning how things work on this site its good to hear from some of the experienced members. I did not even think that the female may feel obliged to look after the single man. It seems it will take some time to know people, build trust and understanding and find the right person. Well although I am keen to attend a party I would not go with just anyone also. Its always said good things come to those who wait........
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RHP User
9 years ago
@Candydelicious Changing " must be available...' To "arrangement to suit...."
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have attended as a single lady, and found a couple who were in an open relationship, not necessarily wanting to hookup together, but at least at the same place with openness and honesty, discussing their attractiveness towards others and playing separately ... which freed up a hot young buck who, along with myself, were approached separately to join another strongly committed couple. Some people (especially the females of a couple) are very selective (like me) and won't get busy with just anyone for convenience or just to satisfy their partners fantasies. This means one half of a couple may be seen as attractive but they have no interest in the other (therefore a complete forfeit). Two singles means they can pick and choose a combination (at the pending consent and overall reciprocated interested of the singles). Perhaps that could be an option for you?
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