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4 Way Connection and Your Satisfaction Rate

July 22 2012

We've read comments from couples here and elsewhere who now play separately due to the rarity of finding couples where everyone clicks. With a few notches under our belts we can see why some feel this way. 1/3 of our encounters have been awesome, 1/3 could have been trainwrecks if they'd been handled differently and the remaining 1/3 were interesting but nothing to write home about. We entered the scene expecting awesome. We're choosey, respectful and we do what we can to make our playmates feel sexy, desired and comfortable. As our expectations drop we'll probably be able to simply enjoy ourselves a little more and experience will help us find the right playmates. It seems there's the probability that 1 of the 4 doesn't feel it or is bringing their issues into the bedroom. We're coming to realize that this is simply a bit of raunchy slap and tickle and that we might well stumble across couples where we all feel that electricity but that's a bonus not our norm. Maybe it is a reflection on the great sex we have together or maybe it's normal. You tell us... How would you breakdown the chemistry ratios between earthmoving, nice and meh?

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RHP User

13 years ago

We pick our playmates very carefully, yes it has taken a fair while to find the right people but it's worth it when you do. Where we live, every one of the people we've met have lived about an hour or two away so we wanna make sure a meeting has got good potential. I think the ideal chemistry is when you could all be mates and are physically attracted, but there aren't really fireworks. Fireworks are for your partner, not your playmates. Being attracted to the people we play with is a must for us so just because we meet a couple, it doesn't mean we feel obliged to play. We got into swinging for the experience together, so we wouldn't play alone. If that limits our options then so be it. Swinging is just an extra bonus to an already awesome sex life, not the focus.

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RHP User

13 years ago

We only play in threes for this very reason. Too many variables makes it far too complicated. We have a great sex life ourselves and inviting someone else into the mix is supposed to add, rather than retract from the experience.MrTri

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RHP User

13 years ago

With our limited experience we found having 4 different personalities to please a lil daunting . We experimented with a few straight single males with mixed results, but on the whole quite good. Looking for a female for my man at the moment cause of my endrometriosis condition ( no fun for this girl for awhile ) trouble is we find it hard unless I'm included. Anyway' it helps us to sort out who's for real and who's not....

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Paradisepair

13 years ago

I read something recently that explained that their are 6 relationships which need to balance out in a 4way - You and Your PartnerYou and the FYou and the MYour partner & the FYour partner and the MThe F & the M...

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RHP User

13 years ago

Only had two 4somes and there hasn't been a repeat performance with either. They were pleasant and enjoyable experiences but the chemistry was lacking. I would really like friends with benefits not just fuck buddies.

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RHP User

13 years ago

Quoting 'Otori'We pick our playmates very carefully, yes it has taken a fair while to find the right people but it's worth it when you do. Where we live, every one of the people we've met have lived about an hour or two away so we wanna make sure a meeting has got good potential. I think the ideal chemistry is when you could all be mates and are physically attracted, but there aren't really fireworks. Fireworks are for your partner, not your playmates. Being attracted to the people we play with is a must for us so just because we meet a couple, it doesn't mean we feel obliged to play. We got into swinging for the experience together, so we wouldn't play alone. If that limits our options then so be it. Swinging is just an extra bonus to an already awesome sex life, not the focus.Spot on guys! Totally agree with you. When you do eventually find the right couple, it's amazing and very special. XXX

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RHP User

13 years ago

For us to be in the bedroom with another couple, Body type and personalities meet with our expectations otherwise we would not be there. We find the let downs are performance based with guys, jealous issues from the guys and girls and the girls trying on the bi play. We only play couple to couple, no single males or girls and definately no open relationship, if one of us cant play for medical reasons etc ...its no play. We seek out others with a similiar mindset as it has other health advantages in our opinion.

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RHP User

13 years ago

A few years ago I was part of a couple on Rhp. We met and played regularly with two couples and created wonderful friendships that I still retain until this day.It did take a while to find them and one couple did move to Cairns but it was still well and truly worth every minute of our time together.Don't give up because when you find the right playmates....they are worth their weight in gold and sooooo much fun.

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RHP User

13 years ago

Quoting 'Waterbabes' Quoting 'Otori'We pick our playmates very carefully, yes it has taken a fair while to find the right people but it's worth it when you do. Where we live, every one of the people we've met have lived about an hour or two away so we wanna make sure a meeting has got good potential. I think the ideal chemistry is when you could all be mates and are physically attracted, but there aren't really fireworks. Fireworks are for your partner, not your playmates. Being attracted to the people we play with is a must for us so just because we meet a couple, it doesn't mean we feel obliged to play. We got into swinging for the experience together, so we wouldn't play alone. If that limits our options then so be it. Swinging is just an extra bonus to an already awesome sex life, not the focus.Spot on guys! Totally agree with you. When you do eventually find the right couple, it's amazing and very special. XXX First time Lotto winners ! We were lucky enough to be first time winners. During our first visit to a private party we found our perfect match, that dream couple you keep looking for but never find. It's kind of like the person that plays lotto all their life and never wins and then some lucky bastard buys one ticket and Hits the jackpot! Thanks RHP!! Mr 2n2

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RHP User

13 years ago

Thanks everyone for your comments. I got a couple more very helpful and honest replies as messages too. We went into our most recent encounter with no expectations and it was our best yet. They come from the other side of Australia so there's no chance of regular hookups :(

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