I don’t think Dating sites would be growing as quickly as they are if there wasn’t a good success rate. That said it isn’t as easy as clicking your fingers and hey presto! Like all things, finding someone special can take time and effort. Of course we could all shack up with someone who we know isn’t what we really want, but with online dating I think it makes it easier to screen  person and pick who we really think we will get along with. But you really have to know what you want and put it out there for others to see. By now I’m sure you know exactly what you’re looking for, and definitely what you aren’t. So be blunt if it means weeding out the good from the not so good. Throw yourself entirely into your profile. Be specific. There has to be someone out there for you so get dating! As you said you are competing with a lot of other men, so make yourself stand out. Persevere and check back regularly and don’t give up. Your match is waiting for you!