You are both right. Whatever works for you IS the norm. The norm for you! So a better question might be. How can we agree on how many times we have sex?

Well an interesting book was written some time ago, where a couple who felt their sex life was going south, decided to have sex every single day regardless of how they felt.

It became a mission! What would happen? How could they find the time? How would it make them feel.

Whilst it started out as a bit of an inconvenience to both, and had some ups and downs along the way (pun intended), it utterly changed the quality of their relationship long term.

They developed a new appreciation and connection with each other and their loved deepened.

A good relationship is defined by our desire to make our partner's lives better. So why not have a 'his' month and a 'her' month. No complaints. No headaches or out of turn sexual advances.

But a better tip might be: why not take away some of the stress from her life. Empower her more as a sensual woman, rather than a business partner/flat mate and watch what happens!.

You can't treat a car like a tractor and expect it to behave like a Ferrari when the mood takes you!