The good news is ‘you’re really over it’. That probably means you are ready and willing to do something about it.

Lots of people complain about lots of things in life, from the size of their bank account and bums, to the quality of their relationships. But most seldom do anything to about them. So ‘really fed up’ is a great start. In fact it’s ESSENTIAL.

You have obviously experienced some form of rejection in the past and believe it or not your brain actually thinks it is doing you a favour. By turning on your fight/flight response when you’re around women, it’s trying to prevent you from getting hurt again.
Crazy logic I know. But ask anyone on a diet what it’s like.
“I want to be thin so bad I’m going to eat a tub of icecream to cheer me up!!!”... good plan.

“I want a relationship so bad I’m going to turn into a blithering idiot whenever I meet a girl"... so how do we beat these mental contradictions? Easy. One word – Practice.

Once cracked you will wonder what the big deal was. So set out a plan of action. Exactly like going on a diet or learning any other skill.

1) Read a book like 'The Game'. Whilst some of its principals might be dubious it has some awesome conversation starting techniques. Memorise them and PRACTICE THEM.

2) Take a public speaking or acting course. They are cheap and work wonders by helping you stay focused and engaged whilst your subconscious is screaming ‘get me out of here’!...and yes it takes PRACTICE.

3) Talk to EVERYONE you meet. Just a “good morning”. Or a passing “Nice shoes”, or a casual, “What a beautiful day, is your hair different?”.

PRACTICE this on the girls you run across every day.

Finally, just remember your shy behaviour is LEARNT. If you want to learn a better way of living, a way that will lead to a happy healthy relationship, then it’s simple - PRACTICE! PRACTICE! PRACTICE.