Frequently Asked Questions to Samantha

There are probably a thousand products on the market out there that promises long lasting erection at the drop of a hat. Sexual performance products have become a massive industry but who knows which of them actually work? You can take a punt, do some research and order up a few of the products that seem to get the best reviews.
However, if you have a genuine impotence problem that may be related to your physical health, you MUST consult your GP. Never mind pleasing the ladies; inability to get an erection (particularly if you're not in your 60s and above) may be pointing to other underlying issues with your health. In most cases it's probably not serious but this is not the time to get all shy about talking penis stuff with your doctor.
Once you clear all health issues with your GP you can talk to him about pharmaceutical assistance. If he is happy with your health, he'll write you a script for the magic pills. He (or she) will not think you're a pervert for wanting to have an erection.
As tempting as it may be DO NOT under any circumstances take prescription drugs without consulting your doctor first.

Many women are highly turned on by the idea of being serviced by a team of guys but not all of them will ever actually go through with it in the real world. Fantasies are wonderful, natural enhancers and sometimes that's all they need to be.
I think you need to definitely work out what she really wants. If you're sure that she's game to try something with another man, then a swingers club isn't your answer (at this stage anyway!). It's probably wise to start her off with meeting just the one man. There are many eligible guys on RedHotPie to choose from and your lady should definitely be part of the selection process.
Once she has chosen a guy she likes, make a date to have drinks first. Play can come later if everyone agrees. If your wife is indeed up for some multiple male fun, she probably will be keen to move on to a hotel room.
In terms of play, do work out with your wife what she prefers before things get steamy. She may want to start off slow just with the other guy, or she may feel more comfortable making love with you first while your guests watches and joins in at the appropriate time.
If your first session works out well, then you may want to ask your new friend if he knows a mate that could lend a... hand :)

I don't think you need to be too concerned. It just sounds to me that you're at a point in your sex life where an orgasm just takes a bit longer to achieve. This happens to a lot of men except a majority of them probably only needed a fraction of an hour to reach orgasm. You simply set a higher benchmark for yourself so needing another hour or so to orgasm makes sense.
It probably wouldn't hurt to go and see your doctor however and ensure that your plumbing is all working. This is important if you have erectile problems as well as delayed orgasms. If however you have always taken a long time to orgasm (even as a teenager) and you can still achieve and maintain a good erection, I would suggest that you simply have formed a pattern of delayed orgasm. Do you take the same sort of time to orgasm even through masturbation on your own?
While many people would assume being able to go for hours is a good thing, I appreciate that you or your partner may find it annoying or frustrating at times. If your partner isn't really up for marathon sessions, let her take the lead. If she wants to rest and do something non-sexual for a while, then do that. If she wants a break from intercourse then work on pleasing her for a while and take the focus off your own orgasm. With any luck the stop/start style of play may speed things up for you.

Rest assured that many couples have experienced the same thing as you but have happily gone on to meet other couples for fun and friendship. You just need to go through a process of trial and error to see what seals the deal for you. It may simply be that while you're not unattractive, perhaps your photos are letting you down? At any rate, try a new set of flattering photos that you could get your family & friends to rate (they don't need to know what they're for!).
Perhaps also hold back from sharing your private gallery until you've had a reasonable exchange of messages to let your great personalities shine first. Some couples are time poor so may demand PGs right away but perhaps they aren't the sort of people you'd want to meet anyway?
Also, don't always assume that your looks/pics are the deal breaker. It could simply be that some couples are only seeking to hook up with a new couple every so often and perhaps another couple just pipped you to the post. You also mentioned that you are fairly new to the swinging scene so if this has been mentioned on your profile, some couples may find this a little unnerving. If that's the case, it may be worth targeting other newbies who may not be that hung up on physical attributes and would prefer someone with less expectations. Right or wrong, couples do fine-tune their preferences as they get more experienced in the scene and if absolutely all boxes aren't ticked for them, they'd rather not meet. It may be superficial but as most couples are busy people (many with families), it's more a problem of them wanting to ensure a perfect fit than something being wrong with you.
So to increase your chances of actually meeting couples, do a bit of experimenting with your profile and photos. Do also consider attending various events and parties for couples posted on RedHotPie. Most are very newbie-friendly and an actual meet will ensure you get a chance to endear yourselves to other couples.
As you get more experienced in meeting couples, you'll care less about how other people may or may not be viewing you. In most cases, it's them, not you.

Ahh Viagra. Every man seems to think it is the cure of all ails these days and by all means, it has been a Godsend for many. Regardless of age, a lot of men experience erectile difficulties and Viagra *may* be a good solution. It has certainly become popular in the swinging scene where the use of condoms, excessive drinking and unfamiliar partners make getting and keeping an erection difficult, even for men who otherwise have no problem at all in that respect.
However, your friend should know that Viagra won't necessarily help him last longer. The only bonus for him may be that getting the next erection can be easier so he does not need to take a rest for session number two or three. If delaying ejaculation or increasing stamina is the real issue, then he should look at options other than Viagra. He can look at natural or herbal solutions or even learn the art of Tantric sex. His GP may be able to suggest a few things also (and yes, he may as well ask since if he does want to get Viagra, he should ONLY do so in consultation with his GP).
He should also probably ask exactly what his girlfriend expects from him. Perhaps she's having trouble reaching orgasm through intercourse and he's mistakenly thinking that he needs to perform for longer. If that's the case he really needs to talk to his girlfriend and find out what *she* wants. Maybe she'd rather he spend more time orally pleasing her than thrusting away like a mad man. Perhaps she's keen to try other things such as role play or using toys.
At any rate, for a monogamous couple under 30, Viagra should be the last option taken if all that is desired is a spicier sex life.

This is a fairly common question so I think it comes down to how a lot of women are still conditioned to believe that it's somehow better or natural to orgasm through penetrative sex alone. Porn doesn't really help with actresses reserving the best and loudest orgasms for when being drilled hard and fast by Mr Stud. I think that's mainly for the benefit of men who need their egos stroked.
Having said that, I understand your desire to be able to achieve orgasm through sex alone. I'm sure it's annoying to have to find positions where you can self-stimulate easily. However, you need to keep in mind that female orgasm is pretty much derived from the clitoris so it's probably best to include clitoral stimulation to some extent.
There was once debate that clitoral orgasms were immature and vaginal orgasms are mature but there's been enough research since to suggest that there aren't enough nerves in the vagina to stimulate most women to orgasm. Some lucky women seem to have very responsive vaginal canals or sensitive G-Spots to help them achieve sex through intercourse but for the rest of us, we will need some amount of clitoral lovin'.
How about getting your partner to give you oral sex but stopping before orgasm. Try stopping and starting a few times until you can't stand it. If you're in a heightened state of arousal, you might not need much more to tip you over the edge. If during sex you find that you're not quite getting there, then go back to some oral sex and try again. You can probably find information on the net about the best sex positions for female orgasm and try those for maximum impact.
If no matter what you try you just can't orgasm through sex, then don't despair. The more you think about it, the less likely you'll get there. Sometimes it's all about the combination of many things. At least you'll have fun trying various things and at the end of the day, it's not how you get there, but that you do!