Frequently Asked Questions to Samantha

I don't think you need to be too concerned. It just sounds to me that you're at a point in your sex life where an orgasm just takes a bit longer to achieve. This happens to a lot of men except a majority of them probably only needed a fraction of an hour to reach orgasm. You simply set a higher benchmark for yourself so needing another hour or so to orgasm makes sense.
It probably wouldn't hurt to go and see your doctor however and ensure that your plumbing is all working. This is important if you have erectile problems as well as delayed orgasms. If however you have always taken a long time to orgasm (even as a teenager) and you can still achieve and maintain a good erection, I would suggest that you simply have formed a pattern of delayed orgasm. Do you take the same sort of time to orgasm even through masturbation on your own?
While many people would assume being able to go for hours is a good thing, I appreciate that you or your partner may find it annoying or frustrating at times. If your partner isn't really up for marathon sessions, let her take the lead. If she wants to rest and do something non-sexual for a while, then do that. If she wants a break from intercourse then work on pleasing her for a while and take the focus off your own orgasm. With any luck the stop/start style of play may speed things up for you.

Rest assured that many couples have experienced the same thing as you but have happily gone on to meet other couples for fun and friendship. You just need to go through a process of trial and error to see what seals the deal for you. It may simply be that while you're not unattractive, perhaps your photos are letting you down? At any rate, try a new set of flattering photos that you could get your family & friends to rate (they don't need to know what they're for!).
Perhaps also hold back from sharing your private gallery until you've had a reasonable exchange of messages to let your great personalities shine first. Some couples are time poor so may demand PGs right away but perhaps they aren't the sort of people you'd want to meet anyway?
Also, don't always assume that your looks/pics are the deal breaker. It could simply be that some couples are only seeking to hook up with a new couple every so often and perhaps another couple just pipped you to the post. You also mentioned that you are fairly new to the swinging scene so if this has been mentioned on your profile, some couples may find this a little unnerving. If that's the case, it may be worth targeting other newbies who may not be that hung up on physical attributes and would prefer someone with less expectations. Right or wrong, couples do fine-tune their preferences as they get more experienced in the scene and if absolutely all boxes aren't ticked for them, they'd rather not meet. It may be superficial but as most couples are busy people (many with families), it's more a problem of them wanting to ensure a perfect fit than something being wrong with you.
So to increase your chances of actually meeting couples, do a bit of experimenting with your profile and photos. Do also consider attending various events and parties for couples posted on RedHotPie. Most are very newbie-friendly and an actual meet will ensure you get a chance to endear yourselves to other couples.
As you get more experienced in meeting couples, you'll care less about how other people may or may not be viewing you. In most cases, it's them, not you.

Ahh Viagra. Every man seems to think it is the cure of all ails these days and by all means, it has been a Godsend for many. Regardless of age, a lot of men experience erectile difficulties and Viagra *may* be a good solution. It has certainly become popular in the swinging scene where the use of condoms, excessive drinking and unfamiliar partners make getting and keeping an erection difficult, even for men who otherwise have no problem at all in that respect.
However, your friend should know that Viagra won't necessarily help him last longer. The only bonus for him may be that getting the next erection can be easier so he does not need to take a rest for session number two or three. If delaying ejaculation or increasing stamina is the real issue, then he should look at options other than Viagra. He can look at natural or herbal solutions or even learn the art of Tantric sex. His GP may be able to suggest a few things also (and yes, he may as well ask since if he does want to get Viagra, he should ONLY do so in consultation with his GP).
He should also probably ask exactly what his girlfriend expects from him. Perhaps she's having trouble reaching orgasm through intercourse and he's mistakenly thinking that he needs to perform for longer. If that's the case he really needs to talk to his girlfriend and find out what *she* wants. Maybe she'd rather he spend more time orally pleasing her than thrusting away like a mad man. Perhaps she's keen to try other things such as role play or using toys.
At any rate, for a monogamous couple under 30, Viagra should be the last option taken if all that is desired is a spicier sex life.

This is a fairly common question so I think it comes down to how a lot of women are still conditioned to believe that it's somehow better or natural to orgasm through penetrative sex alone. Porn doesn't really help with actresses reserving the best and loudest orgasms for when being drilled hard and fast by Mr Stud. I think that's mainly for the benefit of men who need their egos stroked.
Having said that, I understand your desire to be able to achieve orgasm through sex alone. I'm sure it's annoying to have to find positions where you can self-stimulate easily. However, you need to keep in mind that female orgasm is pretty much derived from the clitoris so it's probably best to include clitoral stimulation to some extent.
There was once debate that clitoral orgasms were immature and vaginal orgasms are mature but there's been enough research since to suggest that there aren't enough nerves in the vagina to stimulate most women to orgasm. Some lucky women seem to have very responsive vaginal canals or sensitive G-Spots to help them achieve sex through intercourse but for the rest of us, we will need some amount of clitoral lovin'.
How about getting your partner to give you oral sex but stopping before orgasm. Try stopping and starting a few times until you can't stand it. If you're in a heightened state of arousal, you might not need much more to tip you over the edge. If during sex you find that you're not quite getting there, then go back to some oral sex and try again. You can probably find information on the net about the best sex positions for female orgasm and try those for maximum impact.
If no matter what you try you just can't orgasm through sex, then don't despair. The more you think about it, the less likely you'll get there. Sometimes it's all about the combination of many things. At least you'll have fun trying various things and at the end of the day, it's not how you get there, but that you do!

Your question is indeed a common one but in your case, a low to zero sex drive on your partner's part is a bit premature and worthy of investigating. Certainly, if you are seriously considering marriage, this is best cleared up ASAP.
In most new relationships, the first six months is generally filled with hot sex as two people start to get to know each other amidst a huge rush of excitement and lust.
As you near the first year of the relationship, things do calm down (for most people) but having one partner completely shutdown sexually is not a good sign. Naturally, if you are similarly uninterested in sex, this may not be a problem but for most men (for whom sex is almost as important as air), lack of sex is a disaster! Other than that, the extreme difference in libido will start affecting your overall relationship. As you've already discovered, your girlfriend gets angry and you end up frustrated. Eventually one or the other (or both) will foster resentment and before you know it, it's all over.
Let's look at why your girlfriend may not be interested in sex. If she has a lot of stress in her life (work, studying, family etc.) the last thing she will want to do is shag. Is she taking any medication that may affect her libido? Some birth control options also do this.
The next step is to work out if the lack of sex drive is also upsetting to her and if she's willing to try and work out what the problem is. Don't discuss sex before bedtime or after work. Try getting a quiet moment on the weekend to start a non-confrontational discussion about your sex life. If your partner knows you're not chasing sex, she may open up more.
If in spite of your efforts your partner is not interested in discussing the matter and it's clear that she is just not into sex, you've got some hard choices to make.
If you love your partner regardless, you may have to consider a life without sex and enjoy everything else that comes with having her as your life partner instead. Cheating is not a fun game to play so if you are considering this as a 'survival' option for later on, you should get out of the relationship NOW.
Don't be afraid to put yourself first. If breaking up seems the most logical thing, then do it. Better now than possibly ten years down the track with 2.5 kids and a massive mortgage.

What attracts a woman to a profile changes with every woman you ask. What one woman finds attractive or appealing can turn another woman off completely. In many cases, before a woman can make up her mind about you, she may move onto someone with a more appealing profile.
There are some things you can do though:
Firstly, always check your spelling. It shows laziness and not to mention, makes you appear unintelligent.
Don’t be rude or ill-mannered. Crude can be cheeky, but it has to be done in a respectful manner.
Also no one wants to read about how great you think you are! Tell them WHY you think you’re so great.
Appearance can be crucial. If it looks as though your photo was taken when you were last arrested (AKA mugshot), no one is going to want to contact you. Make sure you look your best.
And finally, be honest and put in some effort. No one wants to read an autobiography but neither do they want to have to guess. Remember...’Effort Equals Reward’. Good luck!