Your Sex Life

It's often said that a couple who decides to swing should always play together in a balanced way and have an equal desire and interest in the lifestyle. However, as anyone who has spent enough time in the world of swinging knows, sometimes things aren't always as clear cut as that. This isn't necessarily a detrimental thing though as long as both partners are completely honest about their feelings. It's certainly healthier to acknowledge that one partner has a bigger appetite for sex and/or swinging than to pretend there is no imbalance. A lot of people immediately feel awkward or uncomfortable at the thought of meeting a couple where one partner is more enthusiastic than the other about swinging which is only natural.

I spoke to a swinging couple from RedHotPie recently who confused a non-scene friend by confessing their recreational sex habits to her. She wasn't so much confused by the concept of her friends having sex with other people, than the fact that they do not play without each other. She couldn't work out how a couple could engage in multiple partner action but not go off and have sexual relations individually. Wasn't it basically the same thing? Their friend's reaction didn't surprise me really; anything that deviates from conventional sexual relationships often gets lumped together and the intricate differences can't be appreciated fully unless you've gone ahead and tried something other than vanilla lovin'.

Sock, jocks and gift certificates… ya-awn! How predictable has Christmas become? Why not spice it up a bit this year and get a little risqué, a little sexy, a little naughty? Now before you set off to the stores with the blood quickly rushing to your tingly bits let’s look at your options: You could get your lover the horse-scale dong but would something so in-your-face be all that sexy? Well ok maybe it would but let’s see if we can’t stretch our imaginations a little further, ensuring a saucy gift that will excite both giver and receiver.

The enjoyment of being in the ‘lifestyle’ is manifold and most RedHotPie couples actively engaged in swinging will no doubt agree that it is a most welcome aspect to their relationship. However, I am sure that many couples have also wondered how to maintain balance in their lives so as to ensure being involved in the lifestyle does not have to come at the expense of losing other equally important parts of our lives. Conversely, how can a busy couple ensure that they can get their share of the action and not get left behind in the ‘too busy’ bin of RHP?

I have recently met a women and the sex is great. She has a lot of toys and wants to experiment. We have tried small anal vibes and I thought it was just sensational. We have anal sex but she also wants to use her strap-on on me. She also wants her bi friend to film this as it would really turn her on. I have seen his penis and think it is very nice (although I dont think I am bi). She wants to have a threesome with him but starting with her using the strap-on on me and then blindfolding me. They want to then tie me up and make me guess who is penetrating me. I am very willing to experiment but don't know if it will be to painful. Both the guy's penis and the strap-on are about 7 to 8 inches and reasonably thick. Is it too big and will he fit it all in my anus? Is the anus deep enough for the hard and fast side of things? I really want to try it but just a little hesitant.

Question #1: My question is probably a common one. I have been in a new relationship for about a year and I love her dearly. We used to have great sex and quite often. Now she just doesn't want to do it any more. I have tried a few times and she says she just doesn't want to. I have asked her a lot of times as to what the problem is and she just gets angry and says she is sick of me asking... Question#2: My wife and I have been married for 24 years and are very much in love! Unfortunately my wife has a very low sex drive, and always has! How can we improve this? We have not discussed this as a couple as I don't want to hurt her feelings. Whenever we get intimate we always end up making love, and the sex is great, but I always have to be the leader in sex. I often feel as though I am pushy? Any suggestions Sam? See what Sam has to say to these two guys here.

Bloody hell people, look at you all, sitting there huffing and puffing, just back from the gym or running laps in the park; why do you do it to yourselves? ‘Oh because it keeps me fit’ I hear you moaning! Are you crazy? Why spend all that money on outfits, memberships and equipment when with a little help from your friends you could be rock hard in no time… and fit to boot!

We’ve read about it, countless films have portrayed it, and we’ve all inevitably talked about it, but what exactly is ‘swinging’? Is it about overweight, older people caught in the seventies having rampant sex with each other? Or is it like a secret, elite club not unlike that which was featured in the Stanley Kubrick film, Eyes Wide Shut? Do people really throw car keys into a bowl? In reality, none of these concepts accurately capture what swinging is all about in the naughties. In fact, swinging is enjoyed as much by Generation Y as Baby Boomers, and a wide cross-section of people are swingers today.

Many RedHotPie couples would agree that swinging is one of the most rewarding sexual experiences imaginable. Both partners often report learning a great deal more about their sexuality through swinging and at the same time gaining a fantastic new circle of friends with which to share the more racy opinions you have about the world, which you certainly couldn’t bring up elsewhere. However, before a couple can enjoy the many benefits of swinging, it’s important to lay down the groundwork properly before even posting a profile on RedHotPie. If you are the initiating partner, you need to firstly ensure that your other half is as committed to the idea as you are.

It’s a Friday night and Andrea is getting ready for a very special night in with her husband Dave. Andrea can barely slip into her silky lingerie in anticipation while Dave is waiting for his lovely wife on their bed, wearing little more than a bathrobe and a knowing grin. The door bell rings. Andrea’s heart races fast as Dave goes to welcome their guest into the house. “Hello gorgeous.” Andrea looks over to see Matt at the bedroom door. He has the same devious look on his face as he did the last time he paid Andrea and Dave a visit. He moves towards Andrea and plants a soft kiss on her neck. “Hope you’re up for a good night. My mate Rob’s on his way too.” So unfolds another tale of a greedy girl getting her just desserts.

For so long we’ve been reading articles on how to increase sexual stamina, curb premature ejaculation and improve the act of penetrative intercourse but an all too common short coming of most modern media dealings with the subject is the inability to address the couple. Too often the symptoms and cures are directed at the man in the relationship, and when you consider that women are suffering every bit as much from these problematic eruptions and over zealous hands, it’s obviously time to pair up and tackle the problem as a unit.

You’ve heard it, you’ve read it, hell - you’re living it. Thirty is the new twenty, forty is the new thirty, fifty is the new forty, and so on and so on. You see we humans are aging ever more gracefully and our rigs are holding up to the strains of modern life with increasing efficiency with the release of every new skin cream and vitamin supplement. We’re living longer and we’re living better but how is that effecting us on a sexual level? Well when you think back, society has always relegated sex and sexuality to the realm of society’s young folk. Our sexual iconography has always worshipped at the young, tight altars of firm flesh but in today’s ‘get some’ world everyone is coming to the party sans inhibitions!

Look, we all know that Christmas is traditionally known as the happiest time of year; friends and family unite in the name of giving, problems are put on hold and we all embrace the welcoming arms of a new year. But LOOK OUT! The holidays are a bloody dangerous time. It’s well documented that the human mortality has a terrible habit of creeping up over the Christmas/New Year’s break; but fret not dear friends, because your saviour is at hand… so to speak.

It’s a crazy time we’re living in friends, and in such uncertain straights we must be ever vigilant; we must be, at any stage, ready to fight for our right… our right to party! Now, we’re thrilled to report on the launch of The Australian Sex Party, another great initiative from the good people at EROS. Kicking off the party at Melbourne Sexpo with great aplomb and some serious skin, the Australian Sex peeps laid out a charter for reform that will protect our bedrooms for years to come. Wanting to know more, RedHotPie sat down with Fiona Patten, one of the main players in the party. In an extremely informative chat, Fiona described the party’s background and the role she sees their playing in Australian politics.

Amidst a rapidly changing political landscape and an increasing resistance to ‘nanny state’ politics, Australia’s national adult industry association will today announce details of a new force in the Australian political landscape - the Australian Sex Party. The party launch will be held in conjunction with the opening of Sexpo at the Melbourne Exhibition Centre.