Threesomes & Moresomes

It's often said that a couple who decides to swing should always play together in a balanced way and have an equal desire and interest in the lifestyle. However, as anyone who has spent enough time in the world of swinging knows, sometimes things aren't always as clear cut as that. This isn't necessarily a detrimental thing though as long as both partners are completely honest about their feelings. It's certainly healthier to acknowledge that one partner has a bigger appetite for sex and/or swinging than to pretend there is no imbalance. A lot of people immediately feel awkward or uncomfortable at the thought of meeting a couple where one partner is more enthusiastic than the other about swinging which is only natural.

So you've finally met a couple on RedHotPie that you've both got the hots for and the feeling appears to be mutual. You've already met them in person once and had a friendly, in-depth chat over cups of coffee about what you're all trying to achieve out of the swinging scene. Sexual orientation, preferences and past swinging experiences have been discussed also, leaving the path well and truly clear for the four of you to get your freak on. Well you think so anyway. Another date gets arranged with the hot couple and you couldn't be more excited. A restaurant is booked for a nice casual dinner . The only problem is that actually could get a whole lot more excited if you knew what was going to happen after dinner.

I spoke to a swinging couple from RedHotPie recently who confused a non-scene friend by confessing their recreational sex habits to her. She wasn't so much confused by the concept of her friends having sex with other people, than the fact that they do not play without each other. She couldn't work out how a couple could engage in multiple partner action but not go off and have sexual relations individually. Wasn't it basically the same thing? Their friend's reaction didn't surprise me really; anything that deviates from conventional sexual relationships often gets lumped together and the intricate differences can't be appreciated fully unless you've gone ahead and tried something other than vanilla lovin'.

Swinging and alternative sexual interactions (ie - non-vanilla, non-monogamous sex for recreation) is nothing particularly unusual these days. Did you catch the swinging reference in the Steve Carrel flick Date Night recently, for example? Yet, a pervasive theme for most swinging couples is the need for discretion. You only have to go through a handful of profiles on RedHotPie to note that the 'need to be discreet' is still the number one rule of thumb where meeting fellow swingers is concerned. Naturally, no one needs to broadcast their sexual peccadilloes to the world but how important is it for the average couple to keep things on the down-low?

We’re sadly having to say good-bye to summer once again but the colder months should pose no obstacle in you getting your kit off and getting your freak on. Yes, the idea of casting aside your warm, woolly coats and ugg boots may leave you feeling more than just a little cold but being a little imaginative with your house parties will surely get everyone raring to go.

It’s not unusual to hear about couples finding it hard to meet single girls for FMF fun but it may come as a surprise to discover that some couples are similarly having no luck in hooking up with single guys for threesomes or gang bangs. With a good number of eligible men on RedHotPie, it seems implausible that couples are being left high and dry: disillusioned that something so seemingly simple to organise falls through time and time again. We take a look at why this may be the case and look at how some of the many myths about single men may well be the reason why finding Mr Right isn’t so easy. We’ll also suggest ways to try and ensure the guy you chat up will front up.

Yes, we all know that swinging rules but here we’re talking about rules that many couples have for their swinging lifestyle. I’m sure every couple has to some extent set up some special rules when it comes to playing with other people, or has perhaps encountered people who asked you to agree to their Terms of Use before being allowed into the ir bedroom. So are rules a turn-off or do they come as a welcome relief to those who don’t want to play guessing games? Most likely it will depend on the nature of the rules and how strictly or loosely they are to be followed.

You’ve spent the best part of last year slaving away and now it’s time for a bit of rest and relaxation – or should that be sex and rejuvenation? When 59% of you told us that all you wanted for Christmas was a naughty weekend away, we couldn’t help but agree that a holiday spent exploring the sites is so much more fun when you’re also exploring each other. There are many holiday hot spots that will tickle you in all the right places but there are some that go that extra inch offering you pure pleasurable delights. Here’s RedHotPie’s pick of the best of the best.

Sock, jocks and gift certificates… ya-awn! How predictable has Christmas become? Why not spice it up a bit this year and get a little risqué, a little sexy, a little naughty? Now before you set off to the stores with the blood quickly rushing to your tingly bits let’s look at your options: You could get your lover the horse-scale dong but would something so in-your-face be all that sexy? Well ok maybe it would but let’s see if we can’t stretch our imaginations a little further, ensuring a saucy gift that will excite both giver and receiver.

What swinging couple hasn't gone interstate or overseas and fantasised about adding some sexy spice to their vacation? After all, you've escaped the daily grind and set yourselves up in a nice hotel room or holiday pad. Adding some sexy new friends to the equation seems to be the most logical thing to do. In fact, for many busy couples, being away seems like the best excuse to try and hook-up since you've only got that small window of opportunity to taste the local produce, so to speak. In fact, the RedHotPie forums and various website comments suggest that a lot of couples are keener than mustard to make the most of their holidays, be it a weekend in another State or an extended break in a remote part of the country.

Couples who have never tried swinging before may wonder how to actually go about it. Obviously, joining RedHotPie is the best start but what to do after then even? There seems to be two clear paths to be taken: Meeting other couples one-on-one or going to a swingers club or party. Which is the best introduction to swinging for a newbie couple? We'll take a look at the experiences of some couples, as well as the pros and cons for each pathway. Jane’s husband Rob brought up the subject of swinging after numerous sexy sessions talking about the possibility of introducing some extra people into the bedroom. Jane was filled with both trepidation and excitement at the thought, but eventually her curiosity got the better of her.

The enjoyment of being in the ‘lifestyle’ is manifold and most RedHotPie couples actively engaged in swinging will no doubt agree that it is a most welcome aspect to their relationship. However, I am sure that many couples have also wondered how to maintain balance in their lives so as to ensure being involved in the lifestyle does not have to come at the expense of losing other equally important parts of our lives. Conversely, how can a busy couple ensure that they can get their share of the action and not get left behind in the ‘too busy’ bin of RHP?

I have recently met a women and the sex is great. She has a lot of toys and wants to experiment. We have tried small anal vibes and I thought it was just sensational. We have anal sex but she also wants to use her strap-on on me. She also wants her bi friend to film this as it would really turn her on. I have seen his penis and think it is very nice (although I dont think I am bi). She wants to have a threesome with him but starting with her using the strap-on on me and then blindfolding me. They want to then tie me up and make me guess who is penetrating me. I am very willing to experiment but don't know if it will be to painful. Both the guy's penis and the strap-on are about 7 to 8 inches and reasonably thick. Is it too big and will he fit it all in my anus? Is the anus deep enough for the hard and fast side of things? I really want to try it but just a little hesitant.

As most couples who have spent some time meeting others would no doubt have experienced, the world of swinging provides some toe-curling sexual possibilities. Many have also been fortunate enough to make some great friends from the scene and blessedly their weekends are now abound with enough social engagements to make Paris Hilton spin on her heels. On the other hand, walking on the wild side can also open up opportunities for people to experience some embarrassing conundrums as well as Twilight Zone moments that would leave the most seasoned veterans of the swinging scene slack-jawed with disbelief. We’ll take a look at some of these sticky situations and how you can avoid them, or at the very least, go into damage control and salvage the rest of your night.

Winter has come around once again which forces us to consider if setting foot outside the cosy confines of the home is a good thing or not. Staying in is oh-so-nice but who wants to spend the next two or three months hibernating and watching your social life consist of catching up with the girls from Sex and the City over and over again? Well thanks to RHP and our great patented blueprint for fun, you can bring the sexy social scene right into your own home. Hooray! Erotic (or swingers) parties need not be something restricted to club owners or the hard-core. A naughty home party need only be an intimate affair for a select number of people and it can be in any form you wish (well, within reason!).