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“I’ll treat you like a princess and f%$k you like a whore”. Yep. This oh-so eloquent one-liner appears to be the favourite ice breaker for a guy on here. I guess it doesn’t beat around the bush but it sure didn’t impress one female recipient who decided it warranted being reported to us. So off I investigated. As expected, this guy’s approach earned him a good number of virtual slaps in the face but surprisingly a handful of ladies were somewhat receptive to his unique (for want of a better word) charm which I found most perplexing. Maybe a bit of in-your-face sleaze is a welcomed reprieve from a boring day at the office?

I was compelled to write this little piece given the number of reports and complaints I get from guys on RedHotPie who feared that a little bit of their masculinity died every time another guy viewed their profile. Sigh... I’m mostly tempted to tell such guys to use a clean sleeve to dry their eyes and move on, but I realised that there are so many reasons why a male profile may get viewed by another man and it usually has little to do with one getting his rocks off over the other.

It seems that a handful of couples from the RedHotPie forums aren't having as good a time as they could be, largely due to the perceived superficiality of other couples and singles who see fit to deem them hot, or not. People being superficial? Really? Get outta here. All jokes aside, it really does seem that a lot of lovely couples are feeling disappointed, disillusioned and downright unattractive due to being rejected solely on looks. Furthermore, when you're rejected time and time again for the same reason, you can't help but feel that you've grown a second head you weren't aware of, or that our society is becoming more and more looks oriented.

Swinging and alternative sexual interactions (ie - non-vanilla, non-monogamous sex for recreation) is nothing particularly unusual these days. Did you catch the swinging reference in the Steve Carrel flick Date Night recently, for example? Yet, a pervasive theme for most swinging couples is the need for discretion. You only have to go through a handful of profiles on RedHotPie to note that the 'need to be discreet' is still the number one rule of thumb where meeting fellow swingers is concerned. Naturally, no one needs to broadcast their sexual peccadilloes to the world but how important is it for the average couple to keep things on the down-low?

It’s not unusual to hear about couples finding it hard to meet single girls for FMF fun but it may come as a surprise to discover that some couples are similarly having no luck in hooking up with single guys for threesomes or gang bangs. With a good number of eligible men on RedHotPie, it seems implausible that couples are being left high and dry: disillusioned that something so seemingly simple to organise falls through time and time again. We take a look at why this may be the case and look at how some of the many myths about single men may well be the reason why finding Mr Right isn’t so easy. We’ll also suggest ways to try and ensure the guy you chat up will front up.

What swinging couple hasn't gone interstate or overseas and fantasised about adding some sexy spice to their vacation? After all, you've escaped the daily grind and set yourselves up in a nice hotel room or holiday pad. Adding some sexy new friends to the equation seems to be the most logical thing to do. In fact, for many busy couples, being away seems like the best excuse to try and hook-up since you've only got that small window of opportunity to taste the local produce, so to speak. In fact, the RedHotPie forums and various website comments suggest that a lot of couples are keener than mustard to make the most of their holidays, be it a weekend in another State or an extended break in a remote part of the country.

The enjoyment of being in the ‘lifestyle’ is manifold and most RedHotPie couples actively engaged in swinging will no doubt agree that it is a most welcome aspect to their relationship. However, I am sure that many couples have also wondered how to maintain balance in their lives so as to ensure being involved in the lifestyle does not have to come at the expense of losing other equally important parts of our lives. Conversely, how can a busy couple ensure that they can get their share of the action and not get left behind in the ‘too busy’ bin of RHP?

As most couples who have spent some time meeting others would no doubt have experienced, the world of swinging provides some toe-curling sexual possibilities. Many have also been fortunate enough to make some great friends from the scene and blessedly their weekends are now abound with enough social engagements to make Paris Hilton spin on her heels. On the other hand, walking on the wild side can also open up opportunities for people to experience some embarrassing conundrums as well as Twilight Zone moments that would leave the most seasoned veterans of the swinging scene slack-jawed with disbelief. We’ll take a look at some of these sticky situations and how you can avoid them, or at the very least, go into damage control and salvage the rest of your night.

A threesome consisting of two sexy girls and one very lucky guy is the ultimate fantasy for a good number of couples on RedHotPie. For some, it is the only form of fun they are looking for. Unfortunately for many, what could be the most common couple fantasy is possibly the most difficult to realise. We look at why this is the case, as well as why couples want that coveted single girl. We’ll also suggest ways to make that fantasy a reality based on the real-life experiences of RHP couples who have successfully enjoyed FFM threesomes.

We’ve read about it, countless films have portrayed it, and we’ve all inevitably talked about it, but what exactly is ‘swinging’? Is it about overweight, older people caught in the seventies having rampant sex with each other? Or is it like a secret, elite club not unlike that which was featured in the Stanley Kubrick film, Eyes Wide Shut? Do people really throw car keys into a bowl? In reality, none of these concepts accurately capture what swinging is all about in the naughties. In fact, swinging is enjoyed as much by Generation Y as Baby Boomers, and a wide cross-section of people are swingers today.

Many RedHotPie couples would agree that swinging is one of the most rewarding sexual experiences imaginable. Both partners often report learning a great deal more about their sexuality through swinging and at the same time gaining a fantastic new circle of friends with which to share the more racy opinions you have about the world, which you certainly couldn’t bring up elsewhere. However, before a couple can enjoy the many benefits of swinging, it’s important to lay down the groundwork properly before even posting a profile on RedHotPie. If you are the initiating partner, you need to firstly ensure that your other half is as committed to the idea as you are.

It’s a Friday night and Andrea is getting ready for a very special night in with her husband Dave. Andrea can barely slip into her silky lingerie in anticipation while Dave is waiting for his lovely wife on their bed, wearing little more than a bathrobe and a knowing grin. The door bell rings. Andrea’s heart races fast as Dave goes to welcome their guest into the house. “Hello gorgeous.” Andrea looks over to see Matt at the bedroom door. He has the same devious look on his face as he did the last time he paid Andrea and Dave a visit. He moves towards Andrea and plants a soft kiss on her neck. “Hope you’re up for a good night. My mate Rob’s on his way too.” So unfolds another tale of a greedy girl getting her just desserts.

We all know that RedHotPie is a great way for adventurous couples to meet other like-minded people for fun, and it’s been fantastic for the RHP Team to read about the amazing experiences many couples have had over the years. However, we do appreciate that not all couples have had as much luck as others, and indeed some have been left feeling defeated and disillusioned about the ‘scene’ that so many describe as amazing. People are then rightly or wrongly labelled as time wasters and before long, everyone ends up in a lose-lose situation which could have been avoided by taking some basic precautions. In this article, we look at those basics which are all centred around the same concept: You can only have your time wasted if you let it!

Are you like me Pie People? Are you a wonderful, sexually, self gratifying person? Do you like to ride the heavenly road that is the internet, perusing all the sexiness and extravagant decadence that is out there? Well that’s all good and well, but what happens when we use the internet for such things? We build up a nasty little trail of information that’s what; a concise user history chronicling our every cyber-move - web sites, visited, times, dates, oh yes it’s all there… or at least… it was.

The sex was hotter then an Indy car race engine on the Gold Coast last weekend when the gorgeous QLD inner circle couples & bi-girls got it on at a six star luxury lust fest. With desire the motivation of most the night quickly moved to getting naked & naughty at the Red Hot after party. Once again the Inner Circle crowd definitely proved why they are considered to be the most hedonistic in AUS! More about the Gold Coast lust fest plus all the other hot parties previews and reviews for October, read here.