Guys: Getting your profile to work for you
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Guys: Getting your profile to work for you
Getting too many ‘thanks, but no thanks’ responses, or no replies at all? It’s a competitive world for single...
Getting too many ‘thanks, but no thanks’ responses, or no replies at all? It’s a competitive world for single guys searching for sexy adventures with single women and couples. At the end of the day, what stands between you and a successful meet is a good profile, yet getting our profile right is not as easy as one would imagine for many guys.
What makes a good profile?
The RHP team reads and approves hundreds of profiles each month and they have seen examples of great humour and wit, as well as some profiles that could probably do with a serious overhaul.
You don’t need to be a literary genius to write a profile that will appeal to your target audience. In most cases, you just need to put in a bit of effort and some thought towards the sort of people that you are trying to attract. An active approach to writing, where you imagine that you are directly addressing someone in particular, often proves to be the most effective way of getting attention. Being detached from your audience may make you seem clinical or not interested enough. Instead of: “I am a man in his late 20s who is interested in a threesomes with a couple”, try: “Hi! I’m a fun loving guy who would love to be at the service of a sexy couple. Are you looking for the ultimate third party? Try me!”
Don’t forget that RHP profile listings are designed so that you don’t need to repeat details such as age, location and interests. Save your energy to spice up your profile with interesting tidbits such as your favourite fantasy or best sexual experience.
Impatience reaps no rewards
You may have been in a rush at the registration process of RHP, or lost for words at the time, but a one-line profile is not going to get you anywhere. The RHP team understands that it takes time to create a fun and effective profile write-up, which is why RHP enables members to update their profiles at any time after initial approval. It is generally a good idea to review your profile from time to time and make changes where you think it’s appropriate. Your success in meeting people through RHP can often be a process of trial and error. If you feel that your style is too over-the-top for most members, then you may wish to adopt a more down-to-earth approach and see what the responses are like after toning things down.
“Single guy, looking for a good time with sexy women…”
Keeping things short and sweet certainly has its merits but then the choice of words becomes pretty critical. Many men use far too general descriptions about themselves and basically end up blending in with all the other one-line profiles that populate Internet personals. This isn’t going to help when you’re trying to catch the attention of women and couples who are looking for that single guy with the extra ‘something’. Since you can’t sell yourself in person immediately, your profile has to speak for you. It has to be effective and appealing from the first sentence so that fellow members don’t bypass your profile and just click on to the next offering.
Try and be as descriptive as possible and inject some humour into your profile too. If you can make a lady smile, then you’re generally on to a good thing.
A happy balance between conservative and crass
Everyone has different tastes in sexual partners but in general, most people appreciate a good balance of personalities. No one wants to shag a dead bore, or get intimate with a complete dickhead (we think…). Unfortunately, it isn’t difficult to come across as either extreme in Internet personals where words are the only way you can communicate your personality to other people. You can’t use facial expressions or change the tone of your voice to get your sense of humour across to people accurately. Therefore, it is very important to choose your words carefully when writing your profile. Using too many general terms to describe yourself (good looking, tall, solid body etc.) may make you seem unimaginative and dry. If your approach is too tongue-in-cheek (balding but highly sexed man seeking meaningless sex), then people may fail to understand your type of humour and give you a wide berth. A quirky personality is often welcome but save the hard core humour for when you’ve had a chance to establish yourself as a ‘normal’ person with the object of your lust.
Be honest but talk it up too!
Many members often use the word average to describe themselves, not realising that it is far better to focus on even the smallest of positive assets. Although your honesty will not be lost on people, the vagueness of words like average, medium and normal won’t help them form a good mental image of you. To help them along, be more descriptive about yourself. Gauging physical attractiveness is very subjective and what one person may consider average may be regarded as a ‘bit of alright’ by another. If you’ve always thought your eyes are your best features, then say so in your profile. Many women appreciate such details and it gives them something to fantasise about.
Enough with the ‘Dick Pics’!
Some men may base their decision on meeting a woman purely on a set of naked breasts featured in her profile pic, but most women don’t necessarily need to see a penis shot (erect or otherwise) to stoke their fire. In fact, a lot of women are bored of seeing dick pics, particularly if it is indeed just the penis you can see. Let’s face it, aside from length, width and angle of inclination, there’s not a whole lot of variety between penises. Unless she’s a size queen, showing proof of your 9-inch nail isn’t really important to a woman. Furthermore, women will also assume that you are able to operate your equipment, so pics of raging hard-ons really don’t rate that highly. Women would prefer to see face shots (which you can provide later if you prefer to be discreet), or full body shots that are either nude or clothed. If all you are prepared to show is your nether regions, then at least be creative with your pics!
Finally, proofread your work
We appreciate that it’s boring but the RHP team encourages everyone to proof read their profile and make changes as needed. You will be surprised by how many spelling and grammatical mistakes you can make when you’re rushed. A profile that is well written and error free is always easier and more enjoyable to read whereas bad spelling mistakes and sentences that don’t make sense will turn people off faster than any mention of bad personal hygiene (not that anyone would admit to that of course!). If you are concerned about your spelling and grammar, then you may wish to draft your profile up on a word processor first and have the program check for errors. Once you have a corrected profile, you can copy and paste it into your RHP profile listing
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May, 18 2013
well what we really want to say when there is that physical attraction is 'how about we fuck??', some blokes strait out ask and some are more reserved. I seem to recall the alpha male types seem to succeed more when people were a bit younger
May, 17 2013
So hard to not sound like a creep?
Nov, 11 2012
i think the game players should piss of so we can do what this site was meant for
Sep, 24 2012
Why is good spelling and correct grammar going to make a difference? Most of the single women's profiles that I have read are full of terrible spelling mistakes and grammatical errors that make me shake my head in bewilderment! Now the dick photograph reference I do get. Surely that is most useful for attracting men, or possibly is nothing more than an ego boost. I suspect that a brief profile will be skipped over because it doesn't provide enough information and that a long profile will be skipped over because they can't be bothered taking the time to read it. We have to get that perfect balance to have any chance of "standing out" from the mass of blokes trying to get their attention.
Apr, 28 2012
Wooduck, i get what you are trying to say- Thing is that if you are not very well educated, then it may pay to actually proof read 2-3 times, and maybe out loud! The very last point made in this article, was that women are subconsciously turned off by bad grammar. If you REALLY cared, then you would take the time to either proof read, or at least use a Word Processing Program such as Microsoft Word, to write and correct your posts before pasting your responses.
Jan, 04 2010
I would have made a very long post responding and Affirming how to make a profile work and messages work for you but there is not enough room. I am pretty sure the level of view/flirts/message responses i get is way above the average :)
Dec, 28 2009
Many guys, that really need to read this, probably don't care and are yes......lazy!
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