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We wrote an article a while ago from a woman’s perspective on navigating first meets with men - but what about meeting couples? Is it twice as scary? Are you twice as likely to have awkward moments? The short answer is no! Preparing to meet a couple need not be a whole lot different to preparing to meet a man on his own. Follow the same tips given in our previous article Girl Meets Guy and you’re off to a good start. There’s a little more to it than that - as obviously there are differences between the two meets - but here’s some more tried-and-tested tips and advice for single ladies meeting couples for the first time. This advice could also come in handy for single males meeting couples.

Before arranging a meet

I strongly suggest that you talk to the female half of the couple, or ideally talk to both halves of the couple! This ensures that you all have a bit of common ground, are all interested and compatible (to a degree) and you have some knowledge about them both before organizing a meet. Not only is this a safety precaution, but it will give you a bit of a heads up of what to expect from the meet and an idea of what they are after.

Make your preferences known

Are you interested in just the male half of the couple? Or just the female half? Or equally interested in both?
Are you looking for social friends? Or friends with benefits? Or a one-off encounter?

Make sure that you know what you want - both from the date and future meets if things progress - so that your intentions are completely clear from the get-go. Be sure to be upfront and honest with the couple. No one wants to feel like their time has been wasted and you certainly don’t want to waste your own when you realize that the three of you weren’t quite on the same page. See our next point…

Get on the same page

Besides knowing what you want yourself, you need to communicate this clearly to all parties before meeting. So firstly have a chat about what the meet will and won’t entail i.e. social meet only, meet and see where it goes, play meet etc. Make sure that all three of you are going into the meet with the same expectations to ensure that there are no mixed signals and no awkward moments. Let them know what it is that you are looking for long-term, in terms of whether it is an ongoing friendship that you seek, a one-off (or repeat) play experience etc.

Relax!

Yes, it can be daunting if you look at it as two against one, but the dynamic of a threeway social (or otherwise) meet can be so much fun! You’ll find that conversation can flow more effortlessly than some one-on-one encounters as you’ve got another person there to contribute to the conversation and bounce off. As well as this, it really is the best of both worlds. You can make social friends and potential sexy friends that meet all of your needs at once.

Don’t be biased

Regardless of which half of the couple (if either) you are more interested in or feel like you hit it off with to begin with, try not to leave one half of the couple out of the conversation. Be sure to share your attention as equally as possible between the two to ensure that there are no hurt feelings. No one likes to feel like a third wheel.

Enjoy yourself!

Last – but certainly not least – enjoy yourself! Don’t look at it as a two-against-one situation where you are coming in as the unknown quantity. Whilst this is true to an extent, look at it in a positive light: you’re the exciting new entity with the opportunity to meet two new people that could become really great friends if you all hit it off. Whether it’s more (or less) than that is totally in your hands. The possibilities are endless.


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