We totally agree with your statement.  Lets put this question out as well. If the women had to sign up and pay to be able to send out msgs would they feel the same way if they didnt receive an acknowledgement back.. of course they would.  Its because they are using this site and many others as a way to check out whats out there, but so many are rude not to reply.  Its not hard, as you said a simple acknowledgement saying thanks but no thanks or if interested just say it, but I do feel sorry for the people who are on here, have paid up their membership and get duped by all these women who have no real intention of meeting up.  We use to be paid up members and we use to send msgs but the same thing... send ones out and you notice after they had sent you a wink to say "Hey I/we are interested" you notice they they havent even bothered to open up and read what we had said.  So until it happens that to join a site and everyone who wants access has to pay - thats men/women and couples + groups of course then this will always happen.  But whether they are in our age range or not, we still reply out of courtesy, even though sometimes we dont want to, we do.

The way we see it is that if somebody doesn't bother to reply, we act as though they clicked the thanks but not interested box.  People don't reply for a number of reasons.  Would it be rude for somebody not to respond to us in person? Absolutely.  However the reality is that the web gives people a security that is not found in day to day life.  People can not reply and not feel so bad about it....thats just the way it is. We used to get annoyed by it, but now we realise its going to happen regardless, and getting frustrated at people who do it is going to achieve nothing, they don't even know your frustrated at them. I guess my point is that if its going to happen anyway, we just accept it and move on. No harm done.  Wishful thinking maybe, but reality definitely.

I agree with all of your views. however it is most annoying when your profile clearly states that you are interested in age range 20-30 and a 50yo fart tries to see if you are keen to hook up!! he doesnt deserve an answer if u ask me i just look at them as dirty old men, however i do read what they write as some are just saying they liked the profile etc and i reply to most but if you recieve a few a day it gets annoying and not all get a reply, thats just me take it or leave it. I SAY READ THE BLOODY PROFILES BEFORE YOU SEND ANYTHING!! HINT HINT cheers

everyone deserves a response, there is no law to say that a person cant try....even if it is annoying....you too will be 50 years old one day...

Hi...i agree....I understand that women will get a large amount of flirts and messages....but surely it is not to difficult to reply to a message or flirt, afterall that is the reason someone joins....its only commom courtesy.....thx

So many people on here are asking men to come up with an original message... something not simply cut and pasted, and something relevant to their profiles. Lets say they do that, and theyre within the preferred age range. What then...

Sometimes I found myself thinking as many as 10-15 minutes on what to write to something I found interesting on a profile. Yeah Ive never been a writer, nor do I read that much... Id much rather talk to the person and find out details that way. But having done that a few times to not even receive a simple Not Interested really steams me up.

And in response to the original post. I know all too well about getting a flirt on another website, signing up for a few months and sending a message only to NOT get a response whatsoever.

It really doesnt take that long to cut and past Not Interested in both the title and body of a message. If you have 20 msgs to stick that into... with todays internet speeds you can go through all of them within a minute. no harm done. Consider that to the 10 minutes that each of those 20 msgs have invested.

i totally agree with the girljunkie. I have was brought up to treat people with respect and women with even more respect, my parents were a good influence on me. But why do women walk all over me in this day and age. it seems nice guys come last. no one cares how nice a person you are. they are only after looks, we live in a materialistic age and women are more affected by the dazzling and bling of brights lights...... but what happens when those bright lights start to dim and fade.

 

i have messaged so many girls on so many sites and i dont ever get a reply, i am always nice and never say rude things, or just ask for a screw. i have NO idea why , and it annoys the hell out of me and i too thing women are just rude. But it takes no effort to answer a message, to be nice, to not hurt a guys feelings. why treat every guy like one of the many aholes and creeps out there, we are not all like that. some of us just want a real girl and a real relationship, some want to just have casual fun. it seems i dont qualify for either.

 

I have just joined this site, I am thinking about upgrading my membership, but I want to meet new ladies, I am a decent guy and a fifty year old fart (not a dirty old man)!  But if I spend my money to chat to ppl, I want to definitly meet them to.  I have had several flirts come to me but none back from those I sent to women.  Hey I'll take a casual relationship to start but I am trying to move on in my life and looking for someone genuine, not just somebody playing on this site.  I will reply to every flirt, even if it is to say thanx but no thanx.  I am not interested in long distance friendship, nor just emails.  Manners are an important thing in my life, they were bashed into me when I was younger ;-)  We all come to these sites looking for something / someone in our life lets behave like adults and reply to them decently

The reason women don't reply is because you haven't read their profile. My female only profile states about 20 times (as does this one) NO SINGLE GUYS.

 

And yet every time I log on, 90% of the messages and flirts are from SINGLE GUYS.

 

Now, someone above said that it can't hurt to try, but if you are as adamant as me (many girls' profiles are as adamant) then you shouldn't expect a reply. If you do expect a reply, expect a rude response.

Maybe you should take note of your own complaint here...  I have now blocked you because you can't read profiles either....  You are younger than our children, we don't want to meet young kids!!!

I've sent flirts and messages (nice polite messages) after reading the profiles, and get no replies, not even a sorry not interested. Most of them don't even get read... Pretty disappointing if you ask me.

I take the time to reply to most messages sent to me. Some messages I recieve are so not original as it appears to be a standard message sent to all women. I feel most guys don't read my profile as I state my age bracket. These younger guys, I don't bother wasting my time with replying. Most of the time, I will respond. I once was told I was too poliete in my message back and another guy said it was daunting to respond back to me because I was too detailed!! Us women, also can't win. For me personally, I am just myself, whether it's replying back to a message or being in the chatroom.

Hey guys I do agree with you all and yes I do understand that many do not read the woman's profile but in saying that I actually spend the time and read as I hope others read mine as well.I am detailed in my profile as that is what I am looking for and of course there are variations and different perceptions into how other's read another's profile.

All in all I do respond to all and allways make a point of my intentions as well so no one is wondering if I am interested in them or not.

Have a good day guys

I agree that yes it is a tad rude, me personally I feel a  bit guilty telling someone "hey, I'm not interested".  But it goes both ways mate, there are guys on this site that I have met up with and fucked and don't return messages, granted a few are married, lol but hey I'm partnered too...

I am pleased I read this forum. As a new member I hadn't really thought 2 much about the ethics involved in replying or choosing not too. In fact its a little overwhelming the first couple of weeks when logging on, with limited time. I cannot with the best of intentions resolve to reply to all contacts. I will however attempt to reply to more now that I have considered the thoughts of those who have made tried 2 make contact with me

I use to reply to all messages and flirts in a poilet manner. Then a pattern started to happen. To every 2nd second rejection a message of some cranky guy who cant handle it go on about how he could do better anyway or he would have be the best sex but my loss etc. so now if the message is clear they didnt read my profile I just dont reply or I'll reply then block.

But thats just me.

I am one who enjoys reading the profiles and of course have even been known to have a look at the pictures too?  I also admit that there are times I don't always reply to flirts or occassionally even some messages, but not as a rule.  That said...I am not here to stress out over whether or not someone reponds.  I am here to meet some very interesting people and have as much fun as I can.

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Short answer...some do, some don't and I am having fun.  If I want to do stress about something, I will simply read last year's tax return or think about the upcoming election?

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Naaaa....rather go count how many have not responded.  That's more fun than either of the last two options. 

CUT AND PASTE THERE CUT AND PASTE 2 ME? ITS A REPLY WITH A BIT MORE THOUGHT 2 IT LOL

Well there seems to be a lot of fakes here i don't mind if i don't get a reply but it is nice to get some response .

most girls on here are just in porn mode, they dont look at the person they look at the porn potential. these places bring out the pure shallowness of a human being, guys and girls.  its basically just laziness and ego boosting. it makes the insecure ones feel better about themselves, after all, these people have messaged ones back and got irnoged as well, they have had the same experiences.

i never had trouble meeting a girl, but meeting a decent person is just about a joke now. girls seem to think its the end of the world or something and are just fucking for the fuck of it lol!

bottom line is that its TV, its tricked them, made em think that by not being a hore they missing out on life. and haha, dont try convince them otherwise hey?

if you wanna survive, get fit, get a good wage and be prepared to fork out, theres even posts on here from over weight women yelling out no fat guys on there profile, just a complete lack of not giving a damn, you wont find anythi8ng really decent here..its like there favorite clothes store, they may think you are topshelf, but they get bored and see something else on the rack they like. to women guys are basically just accessories, thats all. you fall out of line, they get  anew one, and like the OP says, they have no shortage and nothing to stop.

as for the guys who act shallow? the ony reason the away with it is because of $$, the pricks have cash, and sadly, no matter what any girl says, women are addicted to money, they will do anything to get it, one off or full time job. relos are not about sharing to them, its about work.

never met one different, i mean, even Paris Hilton thinks she is a decent human being, you cant get through to them, to late, :)

you want sez? just go thru the motions be nice get your load and move on, just don't give them anything, they will use it and then want more,
the swingers, we all been with them. not swingers, just cheaters. not one single swinger is faithful, they just kid themselves then wonder why they have no freinds., if your happy pretending? then all the power to you, but you wont grow as a human being, your body will get old but its like a clock stuck on the last minute it died, your brain is frozen, moron for life lol!

i met 3 girls off here? its just a game, they want to say they whores, and one day it willbe like that, just blow your load n g dude. women cannot do anything for men, and men cannot do anything for women but give sez and money. try argue? this is the new age dude :) welcome to it!