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what is it about young single mum's that guys dont like

Nov 10, 2007
db1986   Woman 25yrs
im a 21 year old with 2 kids and it is sooooo hard to find a guy that is cool with it.  what is it that is the problem and how can i go about it so i dont make them run before they get to know me?
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wombat61   Man 51yrs

Single mum's

I think you'll find its the age of the males who are after fun and nothing else. What i think is that you need to look for a more mature man,that is looking for more in their partner than sex. Try the older age group and I think you will find a difference,as we are looking for soul mates and companions as well as intermecy.
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Trukarma   Man 43yrs

what's the deal

I don't have a problem. I think you are just meeting the wrong kind of guy.
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cwarmby

I will get to know you :D

yeah i agree, i dont have kids of my own, but i have no problems as i love kids. You could alway try getting them frunk and then handcuffs db. lol jks...
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orby111

Young and kids

I agree with wombat.  I think maybe you should broaden your horizons.  Not everyone is happy with kids being involved but i'm sure there are plenty out there who don't get fazed.  Good luck with your endeavours.
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fuckfun   Man 40yrs

single mums are great

hi think single mums are hot and they should get a fair go.
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db1986   Woman 25yrs

thanks guys

thanks guys actually you were right.  i have met a great guy recently that loves my kids.  you never know, he might be what im looking for.  good luck in your searches
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FieldDaze

'Baggage'

I think that alot of blokes find the thought of 'shaggin' someone with a kid could lead to certain expectations, and perhaps complications down the track. You have to remember that this a shaggers website afterall and if a kid is involved, it may be too hard for a bloke to comprehend the additional pressures that come with that. Some blokes like me would think that if you have a child, that there might be pressure from you later down the track to tie me down.... Just my thoughts on why some blokes find your situation hard. BUT....I do take my hat off to you...being a single parent, by choice or other is a tough job! Cheers, Dave
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sexyfunseekers   Couple Man 36yrs Woman 37yrs

selfish ????

Not all guys are selfish or self centred,if you don't suceed just keep trying. Maybe steer clear of the ones that want to shag on the first date and get to know them a bit better........that's if you want a relationship.
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angelsapphire   Woman 42yrs

single mum also i hear you

hi some of you would know me by now iam a single mum i work and i have been in this site since beginning of last year . i totally agree as soon as you say you have kids majority of males in here or any other sites or even reality treat you like you have a disease , its not as if we are asking for them to take them on and look after them .. as we have provided for them all the way along .. we are just after someone who will accept that we are single mums we deserve love and happiness also ..its not our faults that the father decided to piss off and leave us .... come on guys put yourself in our places and you will soon see were we are coming from ..........we arent diseased we are human ... loving girls .......................
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SolidRock

Single mums

21 with 2 kids already, they are probably scared your after no 3. Then again, as others have said, maybe it is a little too confronting for the younger men. Wish you luck, and just love your kids, they are your special gift, and will be with you longer than the blokes you'll meet here.
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WhisperingMac   Man 52yrs

with Kids

Just to answer your question no it shouldnt matter if you have kids or not Im a single Dad I have a 5 year old daughter who lives with me and and if the guys dont wanna date you well they are not worth it so keep looking somewhere out there is the right guy for you and when you find him see if he has a sister
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Datingisfun2   Man 42yrs

Single Mums rock!

Being a single parent myself I understand. A lot of my mates don't like the idea of becomming an "instant father".  they are usually the ones who haven't had a very serious relationship previously or just not the nost emotionally inteligent of my male friends. Decent blokes are out there . One of my friends is 21 with 2 kids and she found that at the start too, the good ones show up in time. Hang with it.
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nicentall

Hi

Hi  my experience with single mothers  has been good. But the problem has been jealous ex's who cant let go & cant bear to see anyone happy so they go out of their way to make life hard. This may be what scares so many guys off. Good luck .
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get_some

hrmm

This is just my honest opinion on it, I personally wouldn't want to get involved, even if the girl is great etc and you end up being with her for a few years ultimately it's not the the type of situation I would want to be in for a family later on, further more it's kind of stupid for the kids to get so attached to a male figure only to have him leave at some stage later on, so that's why I personally wouldn't want to go there. P.s. I'm still young and have never been 'in love' (and don't plan to be until I'm >25yo lol), so yeah that's where my opinion is coming from.
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nibbles_69  

Couple Man 47yrs Woman 44yrs

what is it about young single mum's that guys dont like

    First of all db1986, good on you for having the guts to do it tough & raise 2 children on your own.         I think you must  realise by now that a lot of the guys on this site & others like it are after sex, sex & nothing more than sex.           BUT there are a lot of nice gents around that will be willing to have a relationship with a pretty young thing. Maybe you should start considering some of the guys you may have overlooked. Its hard to tell what a person is going to be like in real life from a profile.       Don't give up,, I'm sure in time you will find what you are looking for.   I wish you all the best in this. Maybe the right fella is just around the corner,   you never know.             Good luck & don't give up.
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strider20   Man 25yrs

young single mums

I have nothing against young single mum's, I infact like them for two reasons. One is that they do love people enough to tell people that they are a mother and feel comfortable with another man who would be willing to help raise the children and two I like kids lol so if I can get along with you (the mother) and I can get along with the kids and show them I can be a good father figure for them if they need it, then I can help raise them as my own and still make them feel loved. I personally would love to meet someone and be able to prove it but you know not many people are interested in a quiet bloke these days.
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monkey_puppet   Man 53yrs

single mums

The type of guy that dosent want anything to do with a single mum is a total selfish jerk. Dont waist your time with them, be proud that you are doing your part and remember a lot of guys find single mums attractive..
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maxxorgasm   Man 36yrs

hi sexy how u go'in kids are cool

just thought i'd say hi, live in the neighbourhood maybe we could catch up sometime? ps i have 2 kids also, email me if ur interested....sound like a nice girl, ps. maybe u could send me a picture and ten i will reply
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Jodie66

Older men won't work either

Unfortunately, this is a real toughy.  I suspect you will find men that have children of there own much more comfortable with your children but then time and money become obstacles as he is already committed to the hilt.  Older men that have moved passed the small children part are not very patient either unfortunately.  They tend to move into the ME, ME and ME state of mind and unfortunately you cannot be like that when children are a part of a relationship, which they are.  I found it very difficult when my son was younger.  Now he is 19 and I will not date anyone with small children. Younger then teenagers.  I am over walt disney movies, using the last $10 in my wallet on someone else.  I don't want to rush home to pick the kids up from the neighbour by midnight or be awoken early in the morning when I didn't crawl into bed until 3am.  I don't want my partner to rush out of bed at 7am on Saturday morning to take children to sport.  i know this seems harsh but it is a reality.  It will get easier everyday as they get older and more option will open up to you.  I appreciate it can be lonely but try to be patient it will happen and believe it or not there are men out there that cannot have children for one reason or another who may be very keen to be a surrogate dad.  I do wish you well.  XX
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phil74

you really seem to have plentyof advice here

what id like to ask is if you already have two are you willing to have more with a prospective "partner"as i guess a lot of guys probably like myself would like children of there own not saying that someone elses children arent great but as you would well know having two children of your own blood is thicker than water would luv to hear YOUR views on the matter gimmie a call my number is listed and id luv to hear from ya......phil
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