What are the rules about part of a couple" playing" with someone, who we both use to play, until the friendship between the two Males was "spoiled". At the time that this falling out happened Ms was overseas visiting her family. On her return she had contacted the Male to ask why we were no longer speaking, and it was explained.
On october 3rd last year Ms and the other male met and he took her back to his place where they then" Fully Enjoyed" the company of each other, I was at work at this time and came home to find that Ms was out (10.30pm), I went out and was waiting across the road, and was able to see them come back to drop Ms off home, well, up the road, and then she cautiously made her way home, (Ms has these mood swings where she becomes a totally different person), later i asked her where she had gone (she had admitted by then that she had Met this Male, but they had gone into town for a chat and a cup of coffee, (the longest coffee in town about 4 and a half hours, his place is about 40 minutes from ours) also Ms could not remember the cafe or where it was, (convenient). I had suspicions about what actually went on, but was not going to make accusations.
Anyway, last Saturday we went to a city swingers club near us (use to be a regular haunt and the other Male also did some work there as well for a while. Ms wanted to go (?) anyway we ended up there, and the two of us took a room and had sex (1st time since about 2 weeks before christmas, well for Mr anyway), afterwards when leaving we were talking with the club owner and he mention about the other Male saying he had visit our home a couple of Saturdays prior, to help fix Ms' daughters computer, (he even had the gall to shake my hand and try to have a conversation, which went down like a ton of bricks) anyway, he was at the club and had mention this to the manager about my not wanting to talk with him and the manager had replied that he was not surprised after what the two of them had done behind my back. The male had then replied that he was sorry he had done it...
Question...Now what do I do, afterall we did all play together as a threesome regularly, but not behind each others backs. (In all the time we have been together Mr has never been with another woman except when we have all been together at swingers clubs or parties, and never betrayed our relationship) So what do I do?