Yes Bumbles, to me the phrase "friends with benefits" means what you have said. So not off the mark as far as I am concerned. Maybe the boys should be asking for "Benefits, friendship optional". Cheers Verts

Buzzz Your definition is the same as mine. Sadly, such a thing doesn't exist here. Kiss

ah k kool thanks verts :)

yep sweetie... i agree with Vertigo... they should not call it " Friends with benifts" just " wanna fuck ? " lolol xxxxxxxxx

Aww... but I'm friendly Just alittle perverted

awsome thanks kiss

I think you're quite on the mark with people using the phrase "friends with benefits" as a euphamism for "one night stand" or "booty call". At least the other term "no strings attached" is a bit more accurate. As a RHP member who is looking for a FWB there are times I wonder if I'm seen as one of these guys. Its like the online equivalent of being refused when asking to buy a girl a drink at a club because she believes you to be the latest in a long line of guys that night who were only interested in getting in her pants. Unfortunately there is little you can do about it. For me, a FWB is someone you do things with you would do with any of your friends, with the option of having sex thrown in as well. The reason I want a FWB is because I work away for weeks at a time. An FWB offers someone to hang out with and be intimate with, without the large issue of being away coming between us. The best way I think I can convey that is in my profile and in my replies and messsages. I'm honest about my working circumstances and what I want from that person. I'm sure there are many guys like me who feel this way about FWBs. I guess the best signs of what someones intentions are will be in their profile and messages, but just like meeting people offline, you wont know for sure until they show their true colours. The trick is to move on and not let it get to you once you've realised they aren't what you want. The good ones are out there too, they just need finding. blackeyed

i think thats the difference between 'friends with benefits' and 'fuck buddies'

well said blackeyed!!

Yep - I think girth is on the money shot there... FwB means able to handle a conversation and a few laughs in and out of the bedroom.  FBs means wham! bam! pass-the-kleenex... Just be str8 about what you want and don't take any guff!  There sure are a lot of time wasters and BS atrtists on RHP though. Good luck B23 : )

right on the mark blackeyed...... you have so eloquently described what i am after and having so much trouble finding..... well done.... lava xxx

bumble your right and blackeyed, very well said yes it is hard to convey exactly what you want in a profile and there will be the rejected and rejections. there is something very special about being an individual as we all are. PD

I find it hard to have the benefits without getting to know the person well, maybe i'm just a woos!! but since i have been looking online i have made heaps of friends and yes, some of them have no benefits!! but that is cool!!!! up front and honest! the way to go!

I agree when i was setting up my addy i wanted "friends with benefits" but alas they did not allow. It correctly described what I was seeking.

it is a shame when people can't grasp this concept Bumble.  it ruins it for the guys out there like me and others that have posted that actually would like to go out for a meal, a movie, a picnic, to the beach, for coffee, a weekend away.  the benefits should be excluded UNTIL such time a friendship exists. the reason i won't go to a hooker. i can't have a sexual relationship with someone i have no feelings for. i suspect the reason i have "missed out" as often as i have is because i won't just bang a random.  i need to care. damn.. i think i just got a little serious! what the hell is happening to me?!?!?!?

Anyone actually found a FWB yet?  Someone give me hope, please...lol

il put my hand up for this  Bumble_b23 & kiss...... i have shes someone ive known now for a few months. and is on my friends list as she is a friend too. so yes there out there ladies and guys and yes im one of them guys too.. as the ppl i seek and what ppl find in me. ongoing things become so much more pleasurable as u get to know someone and myself then a one night stand  ... not to put down a one nighter that can be quite erotic nuthin like sex with a perfect stranger but rarely do u meet a "perfect" stranger... but im sure u all have some other words for them ppl....

But the frequency of getting together is less than I would really like. We have mutual friends, we hang out, we don't always think of just sex, we like each other, we talk about all kinds of things and we excite each other.  But gloriously, there is no "relationship".  And it is not a monogamous arrangement. I feel jealous sometimes but I don't see that as an indication that the arrangement doesn't work; I see it as a flaw on my part - an opportunity to grow.

Ive had a friend with benefits, lasted a year or so then he moved to another state, and we had a friendship with the odd hanky panky now and then, was good fun while it lasted. nibbles

Good to hear a few of you have found FWB - I am actually rather jealous BUT I shall keep looking. Joanna