hi lotus I am the female of the couple and I do all the emailing etc .  just insist on talking to the girl on the phone .. that will weed out the fakers good luck xxxxx

Thanks bifemme - I have tried that tactic and got met with a ’Let’s just leave it to meeting up in person....’ which made me think ’hmmm, what’s up with that?’ As with all things time and perserverance seem to be the key....

Gday Luv I’m Scamp; the girl half of Cyberscamp. I know how you feel Luv, sometimes it just doesn’t feel like there’s a Girlie calling any shots at all, in some of the circumstances. I do the majority of our RHP chat, movements, etc, but that’s just us I guess. Hubby & I have a very loving, solid & trusting relationship, & we trust each other to do right by each other. But, it’s all good, just be patient. You’ll just check out a profile, & it will be, "wow; that’s what I want"  Where do I go to get that?! Chin up Girl. You will have some fun, if you just let the individual teething problems pass you by. Best of luck with your searching. I hope this has helped in some way Hun. I’ve probably just confused you even more! Doh! Sorry, if so. Have a great week. Take care. Be safe & safe journeys. PEACE. Luv & Light (Cyber) Scamp       (::) xoxoxoxoxoxox

Your gut feeling will probably be right most of the time.  However, I do play with my partner but only after I get to know the potential female very well because my partner is extremely shy, although you could say mildly social phobic until she gets to know you. I don’t even put myself out there as a couple and just chat and meet people first until I feel comfortable about bringing them home to meet my partner, thats the way she prefers it.  makes her feel safer.  She doesn’t want to be the one to take risks, take control and be responsible for liaising with other people.  She just likes to relax and leave it to me to relate to others.  But I imagine that my situation is probably not the norm. This has worked for us because I meet a lot of sexually adventurous females while working as a tantric massuer specialising in providing sensual massages and teaching tantra to females. I am sure if you are patient you will find a few couples where the female is more in control and active in seeking some extra curricular activities