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Feb 05, 2012
ridemydiscostick   Man 25yrs
like some women it happens for men too.. well myself anyway. have never cum during sex. unless im yet to find a woman who can deliver in the bedroom? I guess its good for the girl as I can last all night though Id like to get the end result too. does this happen to other guys? or do some women know of it with their guys?
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wannabyummymummy   Woman 35yrs

Seems a bit harsh

to say that " im yet to find a woman who can deliver in the bedroom?" This really is more about you and where you are at, it could just be a head space thing or it could be medical. Maybe you should speak to a Dr to rule out any issues there.

I have come across guys at party's who go for hours because they only come with their own partner/wife at the end of the night ( I am assuming this is either a head space thing or some SERIOUS control) at first i was a little confused by this and kind of thought that maybe i wasn't "delivering" as you put it but then i realized it was actually quite common and so i just enjoyed the benefits

I will be interested to hear other men's point of view on this though, good question

WBYM
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Stalky

Not unusual but can be very frustrating!

It does depend entirely on where your head is at. I only get there if I am in a sensual overload.. a mindless oblivion.... A love zombie... only then do I succumb to a cum coma. hehe. That song "relax" indicates the situation. Sometimes I get there with one partner but usually, with few notable exceptions, I need more partners... two or three is about right. You should modify the way you yank it. More than likely you go at it a zillion beats per second. Nobody can match that rhythm. Get yourself a fleshlight and train your mind with it to let go of your self conscious disposition. The idea with loving intercourse is to go deeply into a mindless oblivion of sensual overload together. You can't do that while you're concerning yourself with your own "performance"... or whether you will be able to cum this time. Best not to think at all... just let your mind slip into the feeling.. lol... let the body train the mind! I have difficulty in certain situations more than others because of some early childhood trauma. It's hard to shut your mind down sometimes. Hugs Stalky
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MissSarahCurious  

Woman 33yrs

Maybe you just haven't worked out

what works for you when fucking?

In the end, it won't matter what she does if you're all up in your own head thinking about it, you have to be able to work with someone, tell them what works for you.

We're all responsible for our own orgasm, if you can't speak up or wriggle around til things feel just right, it's your loss not ours.

xx Sarah
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xFunlovingx   Woman 51yrs

I agree....

With MissSarah....and the others. It is in your head and if you think you are "throwing a challenge" out there...I doubt anyone will be silly enough to take you on! Anyhoooo, I know a guy who can't cum with sex or oral...he has just learned to live with it and instead of making it about him...he does all in his power to make sure that the woman feels comfortable and ensures it is all about her....The women are lining up for him and for as long as I have known him (15 years) they always have! Not one female that I know feels bad in the end about him not coming...if they do (as they are going at it) he reassures them that it has nothing to do with them and it is just his lot in life...but always tells them how great a time he is having anyway! So, if you can't cum with sex..either stop having it or turn it around to a positive and make it about her...trust me...they will come back for more!

xFunlovingx

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ChasingMidnight

You know I had the same problem...

...or close to it at 25 years old?  It was embarrassing...I could go at it like a wild hare in heat, pop my rocks and go again and again and again.  How awkward, when the last couple of times there was barely a trickle left but damn it felt soooo good...I have sent letters of apology to all the women that survived this treatment and flowers to the graves of the rest.

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Now days...it does seem to take me all night to do what I used to do all night long.  That's cool though...because I can stop doing the wild hare thing long enough to focus on her and they seem to like that too.

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Use it, abuse it...just don't loose it. 

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jamesnp   Man 23yrs

not uncommon

it has happened to me on quite a few occasions....it's just one of those things.
I know it sticks in your mind but try not to stress about it too much. At the end of the day, if you're still enjoying the sex, it doesn't matter all that much. The example funloving gave is perfect :-)
Best of luck :-)
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ridemydiscostick   Man 25yrs

hmm

girls seem to blame the guy when they don't orgasm, so that first question of mine was more suggesting the opposite, not throwing a challenge as some put it, I guess I could have dropped the ? or phrased it better...and as for the 1st reply, no its def not medical as I can do it myself no problem.
Thanks to those who offered advice, I see its not uncommon. Maybe after all this time its working a complex and Im thinking too much about it as some suggested. I have just found it easier to just 'fake' it rather than let her think its her fault (even when u say its not they don't believe u!)




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goodgrlzsayplz

I think your doodle is about to drop off.

<<<<She said "doodle!!!!" hehehehe

 

 

Ok, of course i'm kidding. Don't worry about it honey, you're still very young too so if you're shopping in the under 25's age bracket with girls maybe they aren't very experienced yet and i agree, women blame men when they don't cum and shout them down as lousy lovers so fair is fair here.

 

Meh, it happens. Just enjoy, relax and if it really starts to concern you or be a problem, head to the quack for some advice.

xxGG

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ChasingMidnight

Really it's nothing to worry about...

...as if you have what is called "delayed male ejaculatory response" at your age, it's highly likely that you will start getting senile dementia by the time your 40 and you just won't give a damn.  Seriously...they go hand in hand. 

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....I own just on 51% of InterFlora.  My game...my rules! 

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MrandMrsErotic   Couple Man 47yrs Woman 47yrs

Shiny Disco Balls

Stop playing with it, or start playing wit it. One or the other.
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MissSarahCurious  

Woman 33yrs

You might, I wouldn't.

Quoting 'ChasingChilli'
   
Quoting 'MissSarahCurious'
In the end, it won't matter what she does if you're all up in your own head thinking about it, you have to be able to work with someone, tell them what works for you.

We're all responsible for our own orgasm, if you can't speak up or wriggle around til things feel just right, it's your loss not ours.
   
No comment on if I agree or disagree Sarah, but don't you think if a guy had written this to a girl on one of the many threads where girls lament their inability to orgasm, we'd have

EATEN HIM ALIVE

Maybe DiscoStick was hoping he'd get the endless women offering to help out as inevitably happens when a girl says she's never cum during sex...?

And what about those guys who say "I usually can't cum during sex but you're so special you always make me cum before you do"?

Bwaaahaaahaa - what a great way to explain away premature ejaculation

Chilli xx
   
I tell women that too and I apply it to myself. I firmly believe that women's orgasms are 95% mental and only 5% friction. Speak up and get what you want, or wait and hope and end up disappointed.

And I gave up taking on challenges who say they never cum, give me a premature ejaculator anyday. As long as he could keep doing it over and over I would keep pushing whatever button works just for my own entertainment. LOL.

I'd be a much nicer person if I weren't so easily amused... :D

xx S
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wowwow11   Man 39yrs

oh look a fairy

i can truthfully say Its Never happened to me

 

Sucked In

 

But if  its your little  ploy to find a few girls to say

 

awwwww poor dear  i will come over and help you find your g spot  or rub your little clit for you    hahahhahahah Good  Luck  with that  because  these girls are all over that SHIT and they smell FEAR 

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DonnaBrett   Couple Man 50yrs Woman 44yrs

So what?

What does it matter?  It's nothing unusual.  Quite often at a party I won't cum at all no matter how many girls I play with and sometimes I do. It's all about having fun & enjoying yourself.  Like you said there are lots of women who never orgasm at parties and they seem to cope just fine.  Girls should not be insulted if a guy doesn't cum..it doesn't reflect on them. Same as girls shouldn't demand that a guy make them orgasm and in turn guys should not expect girls to 'keep on sucking' until they get off.  Once demands are made by either party..it becomes clinical & the fun aspect soon disappears...just go with the flow.

Now with the risk of getting lynched by the male population for spilling the beans..I'll let you girls in on something.."Blue Balls" are a myth..there ain't no such animal LOL.  I guy can fuck without cumming and he will not suffer from aching nuts or any other such condition!!! (if he does it's all in his head..the one on his shoulders LMAO)

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meet2plzu   Man 30yrs

;)

see a sexual dr///. they do wonders. and ask him to test your testosterone and oestrogen levels aswell.. which he probably will anyways

trust me, testosterone injections every couple of months will have you trying to bang your door frame..

but also certain medications can make it harder to cum, most anti-depressants will for instance...
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Stalky

Blueballs

@brett... Even though you have not personally experienced it, that does not make it a myth. I've never had a wet dream for instance but lots of teenage guys will confirm that it has happened to them. My nuts do ache expressly after prolonged sexual stimulation and no ejaculation. When it does eventually happen I am relieved rather than pleased. Blueballs is real dude! Hugs Stalky
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Stalky

Point of order... ahem

Ok... There's a marked difference between getting it up, on the one hand, (lol) and ejaculating on the other. :p. ok... seriously, the dude didn't say he was having difficulty keeping an erection (for which testosterone would be useful). Hugs Stalky
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meet2plzu   Man 30yrs

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stalky, the testosterone increases the sex drive and makes it easier to ejaculate, as well as helping keep erections as well.

and medication (anti-depressants and pain killers, as far as i know) can make it harder to ejac as well, so much so that it is used in the treatment of premature ejaculation
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Stalky

I jizz in my pants.

Thanks meet2plz. I don't disagree with your assertion, just with the corcumstances here in so far as the kids sex drive is through the roof. He blows a load say 20 times a day but with penetrative intercourse it just doesn't push his cum button. That's the question. Can't cum during intercourse.... is different to low sex drive due to low T count. My magic button involves more than penetrative intercourse... and I'm pretty sure I'm not the only bloke around like that. Hugs Stalky
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NoNamesRLeft

if I could tell you anything....

it would be that worrying about it will only make it worse.
So go with the flow...
enjoy the journey and dont make it all about the destination.
Foreplay works wonders for both of you, too!!!

BJ
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missopenminded   Woman 23yrs

wow

that's a first ... isn't that how sex usually ends when a guy cums?? LOL

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