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Jun 05, 2012
itiswhatitis85   Woman 27yrs
Ok so opinions needed..... i started dating an old friend about 6 months ago, we had hooked up a couple of times over the years while out clubbing and had very drunken/quick sex..
after we started dating i noticed he was very conservative with sex, or so i thought.. so after a while of boring sex where he jumps on top and gets off , i was straight up and said "what about me!" and where the hell did foreplay go? he turns around and says he doesn't like foreplay...OMG what am i to make of that?
Im the kinda gal who knows what she likes and has no problems voicing when and where i want it, but how the hell do i do that if my guy isnt interested in anything more than getting himself off!
Is there any hope in retraining him?
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cavey50   Man 53yrs

umm try!!

Why bother??

he doesn't like it..

you do..

one of you is going home pissed :)

 

get someone you DONT have to train...

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brightstar10   Woman 44yrs

Only one word for it....

.... NEXT!

 

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Thik4u

Ditch him

Girl, u need tung up inside u, if he wont do that at the very least.. Ditch that sandbag!!
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ruby_blossum   Woman 54yrs

Is there any hope in retraining him?

Simple answer....no.

Agree with Cavey
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multiples_xxx   Woman 31yrs

just use him when you have done a had a big week at the gym and are in starfish mode ;)

Cass xxx
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multiples_xxx   Woman 31yrs

FFS stop reconstructing sentence-

Where do I do a copywriting course!
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Handmaiden   Woman 50yrs

Sounds to me

That now he thinks he has you he just cant be bothered. He is just using you. Dpont like foreplay *snort* Right! I bet he likes it well enough when it is you giving him head though.

.

NEXT!!!!

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neptune_drift   Man 29yrs

That's ridiculous

Like, utterly ridiculous. The statement alone: "I don't like foreplay" doesn't even make sense. "Foreplay" is not just one thing - it's a thousand possible things! That's like saying "I don't like foreign food". That's the first red flag.

 

Second is the medieval attitude. He sounds like a guy from a Monty Python Meaning of Life sketch!

 

Absolutely don't settle. This is probably one of those instances where you CAN change your fella, because good foreplay, honestly... who can say no?! How did he get that attitude in the first place?

 

Shame him into it - if it's not that serious between you then tell him you're doing him and any future girls he's with a big favour. If it is serious, well, tell him it's the only way it's going to stay serious. Introduce new experiences bit by bit. Tell him what to do. Most guys actually love when girls tell them what they like, because it's like cheat notes to Being a Stud 101.

 

Sexual compatibility is one of the bedrocks of a good relationship, in my opinion. It can survive without it, but you better have some damn good other connections to fall back on!

 

Sincerely,

Agony Uncle Drift

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Hesione

Training

He wont change,at least not for you.Six months is an aeon ,in no fore-play hell.Just a selfish dick really.x Hugs H
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50zcool

And again

I'm with the others DELETE.
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roxxyrose

Tell him....

You don't like sex without foreplay. Then stand your ground. You'll either get it your way or know he'll never change Hugs roxxy
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MsVelvetblue

The short answer is NO the long answer is NOOOOOOOOO

Oh Itiswhatitis...I laughed at your post ...definitely not at you but with you cause I could have written your spiel .

 

I totally empathise with you as I was in the same position once...NEVER AGAIN ...and my own experience (as other posters have already pointed out) he wont change...no matter what..cause he doesnt want to..sex is suppose to be about mutual pleasure..but not everyone thinks like that..a 5 minute poke does suit some as long as they get off...and it is all about them..no matter what enticing honry promises they sms you before the meetup.

 

The someone in my life took up with another lady from this site...they ended a little while ago...and the lady closed her profile down...she recently reopened her profile (good for her and yes I know her so no hard feelings there) but I did have a chuckle when she wrote  the following on her revamped profile.

 

 

"People who are mature enough to know their sexual needs. People who like pleasing others as well as themselves"

 

 

Made me feel a whole lot  better that it wasnt just me... as Morticiaaa ritely said...NEXT.

 

 

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feloniusfossil

You know

After the guy has come is probably not the best time to state your needs!


Best to lay it on the table before you start.


You might get a much better response.


Of course the guy shouldn't need to be told, but you could be a little bit proactive too.



Cheers Felonius........communicate people communicate

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Bahleeted1

What Multiples said

He doesn't like foreplay - then use him when you're toey to finish the already started job and send him home.

If he can't even do that, then.... NEXT!
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itiswhatitis85   Woman 27yrs

hmm.

much food for thought...

@Felonius, been there done that, just keep getting the same old thing..

Starting to think maybe im better off with BOB..
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neptune_drift   Man 29yrs

Yup

Quoting 'itiswhatitis85'
 

Starting to think maybe im better off with BOB..
   
If BOB takes batteries you probably are...
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slinkey   Woman 46yrs

Foreplay takes two

like the tango
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brave__heart

I like

What Roxy said. A lot :)
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feloniusfossil

In that case

yep, Bob and a healthy supply of batteries!


While you seek out a replacement lover.


Lol, You watch him scream blue murder when he gets his marching orders..and the

realization sets in just a little to late.



Cheers Felonius




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razor2000   Man 40yrs

Selfish

Selfish as that attitude is. Foreplay encompasses everything really, from the dirty text messages or phone calls during the day and kisses on the neck as dinner is getting made to the more routine exploring that happens in the bedroom. To just say no makes no sense at all and if he's not going to try then you're probably going to find yourself left a touch unfulfilled and unhappy at the end of the day.

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