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jelous wifes not letting partners join in

March 03 2015

wondering if any one is in the same boat. The other half wants to play with a girl but I'm not allowed to join in. Is this normal

- Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP User

    RHP User

    9 years ago

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    9 years ago

    A refreshing change. Normally its the guy that want to do that but whilst the wife is home cooking dinner or putting the kids to bed...................

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Why should she let you have her treasure ? find you own !

  • LifeUnscripted

    LifeUnscripted

    9 years ago

    Truth is there is no one way this works. You guys need to negotiate and find a way forward that you can both agree to. If you find that way then great. If not then you probably don't go forward unless you are willing to risk your marriage.



    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I have come across it before and I have met couples that go to swingers clubs or have threesomes with single women but the guy is not allowed to have sex with the single woman. Although she is welcome to suck his cock tho. How nice. :P

  • Hottie1

    Hottie1

    9 years ago

    She may want this to be about her and her discovering this for herself without it being about a 'male fantasy'. I played with a woman without my husband there the first time, I am glad, but he wasn't ;) the first time he watched me with another woman he was ready to burst ;) By the way, normal in this world is what you make it! Mary xx

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Let her go do it, it's only a matter of time before they let you join them, trust me on that!

  • Lovinit28andKC72

    Lovinit28andKC72

    9 years ago

    And watch it all unfold infront of you....💋

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    As far as normal is concerned only you can answer that. From your op I'm not sure whether you're saying your partner wants to meet up without you or another couple/girl has asked. If it's the case of your partner and you're not comfortable with that then it's not normal. I had an ex who thought that it was fine for her to play outside of our relationship as long as it was with girls. Me I didn't agree with that at the time. So for me that was not normal or acceptable. Although in saying that I've had plenty of other relationship where I have no problem with my partners playing or meeting without me. I guess where I'm going with this is " If it is ok with you and your partner then it's normal. If it's not ok with either of you then it's not normal". And from there I would suggest talking about it, a lot.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    And a good chair and sit in the corner

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Would your other half object to you having sex with her while she's having sex with the other girl ? Or are you brushed completely ?

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    There is always awkwardness or jealousy in meeting with couples

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    9 years ago

    ...........strange lot. (scratches head, laughs and walks off talking to self......)

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'zysis' Let her go do it, it's only a matter of time before they let you join them, trust me on that! I totally disagree with this comment. You can't assume that this will happen, it might but it isn't 100% guaranteed. I have known couples who have been swinging for years but have maintained their strict rules about what can or can not happen.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I might be way off here, and hope and am happy to be proved wrong ... but you sound more jealous than your partner?

    Your partner sounds like she is wanting to explore her sexuality with your permission and encouragement - which can be a big step for some. While you just want to have sex with a girl, to even the score?

    Perhaps you guys need to have a few more discussions about the possibilities and potential problems, that bringing others into your dynamic, before you take the big plunge.

    Jealousy from either side isn't an emotion you should be experiencing before taking such big steps.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    If Mrs3 wants to play with a woman I could think of nothing more boring than sitting by and watching. She's more than welcome to go ahead with my permission but the whole sitting by ildly while they do their thing isnt really all that interesting to me. I encourage her to fulfill her desires on this front, I just don't see the need for me to be there when she does. It's not a jealousy thing, just if I'm not an active participant I don't see the point in my being in the room. Fortunately for me, Mrs3 prefers to play in a 4 or more situation so I don't have to go tooo long between drinks.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    She states she is bi curious and she is waning to explore that curiosity. I say let her do it. Sound like she is wanting to become more comfortable or just enjoy a little same sex fun. As a bi guy, I enjoy MFM or MMF, but it is not the same as just MM play. The dynamic is different. I enjoy some MM play for MM plays sake. Never been in a situation where I would have to actively exclude a partner, but I would suggest allowing it and talk about it. Don't force her into a situation where to enjoy this type of sex, she would have to hide it from you. There are many guys who are forced to hide MM play because partners aren't comfortable with it without them being there or part of it.

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'curiousgirl68' There is always awkwardness or jealousy in meeting with couples Maybe, one day you will be able to overcome those feelings and enjoy sharing the love always, no need to be awkward or jealous of the bond couples have, it can be magical and leave one breathless and totally well and truly fucked in blissful delight.

    MrandMrsSexy..... A gee up perhaps, you say you always play together, actually you say "a couple that plays together stays together", is the jealousy part of the dirty fantasies you both wish to explore?

    Mado

    Mado Tara xx

  • Splicey

    Splicey

    9 years ago

    Normal is what you make it. If it works for you two and you're both happy then it's your kind of normal.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I love couple play but re it's best if everyone agrees and is open for honesty :)) I'm in Liverpool from Sunday if there is any takers for drinks laughs and what ever else...

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'madotara69' Quoting 'curiousgirl68' There is always awkwardness or jealousy in meeting with couples Maybe, one day you will be able to overcome those feelings and enjoy sharing the love always, no need to be awkward or jealous of the bond couples have, it can be magical and leave one breathless and totally well and truly fucked in blissful delight.

    I don't think curiousgirl was referring to herself being jealous or awkward, I think she was referring to issues between the couple...one or both being jealous of the other or one not really wanting to be doing the swinging then hence the awkwardness. Happens a lot.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I really don't appreciate this was discussed on forum and are quite disappointed and upset about it. Very sad Mrs Sexy

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Sorry to hear Mrs Sexy. Hope everything is OK :(

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    "She may want this to be about her and her discovering this for herself without it being about a 'male fantasy'. I played with a woman without my husband there the first time, I am glad, but he wasn't ;) the first time he watched me with another woman he was ready to burst ;) By the way, normal in this world is what you make it! Mary xx " This is Mrs Sexy - my input if that is valid at all is the above statement is correct. And I don't understand why it is so hard for guys to understand that. But I also know it is something he would enjoy seeing and him watching would make me even more happy. And no, I do not have a problem with him joining in I am just not ready to see him have sex with another woman yet. So my rule was that I wanted him to play but not have sex with the other girl. It was an experience I wanted to share with him but I only wanted to take it at a pace I felt comfortable with. Making such a big deal about things is a real turn off and puts me off wanting to even explore. To be honest I don't feel comfortable anymore about being with a single female. That is why I suggested to him that maybe just groups and couples is for us, rather than a female. only. I have trust issues from the past with single females who don't respect the definition of marriage. That is not cool at all.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    That's a fantasy that I want to explore on my own. My huni has agreed to letting me have my wishes. And so he should...